Notes

1940-2018

My dad passed away last week. You might have known him here as SantaDad. He took great delight in that nickname, which came from an early story about how confusing as a kid I found the pictures of my dad on a fire truck dressed as Santa Claus as a) we are Jewish; and b) everyone knows Santa Claus comes down a chimney, duh. I realize this doesn’t make it any less head-scratching and I’ve decided to not even try to clear it up.


My dad loved commenting here. He would joke about how rude it was for me to leave the last slice of a cake at their house when he was trying to watch his Weight Watchers points. He’d ask me to try to get my mom to try a recipe that looked good. If I mentioned an article or a side project here, I’d get a “Nobody ever tells me nuthin!” When there was something in The Boston Globe, he complained about all the Red Sox ads they ran alongside the article. He’d correct things I remembered wrong, such as the cherry tree in the backyard, which I remembered fondly, and he remembered as a battle with squirrels and birds that would eat all the cherries if you didn’t pick them in the first hour they appeared. He’d leave reviews of recipes they tried, always enthusiastic (the best latkes he ever had, a 7-layer cake Grandpa Joe would be proud of). He jokingly threatened to disown me when I called making bagels anything short of my greatest cooking triumph, and then he found his reading glasses and apologized. He’d fill me in on the news of the day, such as the fact that our dental hygienist was a lurker on the site and wanted to know if I could do more kosher recipes.

He was a good egg. This past weekend would have been my parents 50th anniversary. We talk here about engagements and weddings and babies and first days of school and birthdays and cocktails and dinner parties and holidays all of the cakes we ate to celebrate them — it’s easier when it’s good news. But my dad liked this space (while expressing grave concern over typos, just like you), he was proud of my work (if you, a total stranger, made it 5 minutes into a conversation with him at the grocery store or a bank and he didn’t bring it up, well, I don’t believe you), and I know this site was brighter with him in it.

I’ve been cooking a lot this week. I’m probably not “supposed” to be, but I’m happier when I stay busy. I made this mushroom soup and the marble cake from my second cookbook. I made my our family’s chocolate chip sour cream coffee cake — twice. My sister made the noodle kugel that my mom says she married my dad just to get the recipe for. And I just pulled out of the oven my first massive casserole of eggplant parmesan — something my dad always liked, but that endlessly perplexes me. More on that and many of his other favorites, soon.

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  1. SallyT

    Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful and delightful human being, and the world is paler without him in it. Sending my best to your family – may his memory be a blessing.

    1. Lora

      Hi Lora, I’m also Lora. This is exactly what I was going to say so I’ll let you say it and just say ditto and…Lots of love to you, Deb.

      1. I share your name (although a different spelling), and your words as well.

        In addition: Deb, I am sorry that your children have lost one of their grandfathers. I hope that Jacob will remember his loving “Santa Grandpa” (?), and I regret that Anna probably will not… although you will, I’m sure, give her photos of the two of them together that she will treasure as she gets older.

        Be kind to yourself. Grief is hard, and it hits in unexpected ways.

        1. Laura

          From another Laura, Deb, I am so sorry for what you’re going through. Your stories of his delight in your work and fun playing on this site made me smile and tear up at the same time. I’m glad you are still cooking. Love to all of your family.

          1. Laura

            Deb –
            I’m replying on this particular thread because I’m another Laura!
            I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away in December. A few things I’ve learned in the last month if you are willing to let me share:
            There is no “supposed to” how this works. If you feel like cooking, cook your ass off. I know that having to make food for my family (everyone still has to eat!) kept me going in those early days. I also learned that it gets easier, then harder, then harder still, the easier. It’s a roller coaster – and not one you asked to get on! Remember you are not alone, but that means remembering to ask for what you need in your time of grief. You might not know what that is yet. Just take it one day at a time and give and receive lots of hugs.

            1. Jumping on the L[o|au]r* train here to also express my condolences. When my dad passed away in 2011, I found myself making his favorite foods. When I eat city chicken, goulash, or baked pork chops, I always feel him with me in a way and it is a great comfort. Best wishes for you and your family; take care of yourselves and each other. <3

                1. Laura C.

                  Adding to the Laura train… I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. I rarely comment on here although I have been a faithful reader and recipe-maker for years. In fact all of my favorite recipes — and my family’s favorites — seem to come from your blog. But I digress… The anniversary of my father’s death happens to be today, March 27th, so when I saw this post I felt I had to leave you a message. Our dads are so special to us. My heartfelt condolences to you.

                  1. Lauren

                    And this LAUR(en) (who has never posted anything before) is also sending the warmest, most heart-felt condolences to you and your family.

                    I love that this site that you have created with your whole heart, lends itself to now be a place that has captured the spirit of your father, his words, his jokes, his likes… You’ve created far more than a few recipes, Deb. You’ve created a space filled with comfort and love… and memories of your dearest dad. XO

                    1. Laurie

                      LAUR(ie) here, adding my condolences as above. I was my dad’s favorite – even my sister admitted it. The memories get sweeter as the years go by.

                    2. laurenengelke

                      Hi Deb, Lauren here. My heart breaks for you – after years of reading SK, I feel like you and your family are close friends. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man, and I hope your many warm memories with him ease your grief. Love, Lauren

                    3. Laura

                      Grief is one of those unimaginable journeys that are just plain hard. Do whatever is best for you. If you have a moment I highly recommend listening to the Cheryl Sandberg and Katie Curic podcast on grief. It is one of the most honest and helpful conversations I’ve ever heard about grief. Sending lots of love!

  2. RA

    I saw this news on social media, and I immediately showed the picture to my husband and said, “Oh, no, SantaDad!” Blank stare from him, but he came around soon enough. So sorry for your loss.

  3. ccreich

    I’m so sorry for your loss. You have some wonderful memories, and memories about recipes,and I hope they will be a comfort to you.

  4. Laurel

    I’m so sorry Deb. This is a hard time. I loved your post, and sounds like your dad would have been honored to be featured. You don’t know me, but I feel like I know you and just know I’m thinking of you and your family.

  5. Angela

    What a beautiful, loving piece – he sounds like an awesome dad, and a wonderful man. I’m glad staying busy is working for you right now – all my love and sympathy to you and yours.

  6. Julie

    I’m so sorry, Deb. Thank you for sharing with us the little bits of your dad in these stories, and the so much of him that is, no doubt, in you. I hope you can find comfort in your family, your memories, and your cooking. <3

  7. So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing – clearly, it already is. I love the idea of keeping family members alive through their recipes – I still have recipe cards with my grandmothers’ handwriting on them and they live through those cards and through the food I feed my children.

  8. Adele

    May his memory be for a blessing. Hope the support of family and friends will be a comfort to you. And I’m sure you’ll all have favorite stories and memories of your Dad to share around the seder table at the end of the week.

  9. Sarah Konter

    Dear Deb:
    I’m so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing father, grandfather, and husband. Thinking of you and your whole family. May his memory be a blessing and bring you comfort.

  10. Linda

    What special thoughts and memories of your Father! I too was blessed with a special Dad. Hold all those memories close – he will never leave you.

  11. AshleyB

    So sorry for this huge loss, Deb. He was obviously a super special person. Sending you love as you mourn the loss and celebrate his life.

  12. Jackie

    What lovely memories you share. With the passing of a parent, that’s all we can hope for, is the happy to rise up from all of the confusion and sadness. Cooking is a wonderful therapy and I loved reading about your reminiscing today. Hugs to you and yours.

  13. jenpecoskie

    Deb and family – I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds wonderful and your memories will be a comfort. We will help pick you up when you’re back here. Take care. Be well.

  14. Nancy

    As a long time reader of the blog in its infancy before the comment section became enormous I remember the amusing santa dad comments and enjoying the daddy-daughter banter. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  15. Kristy

    Beautiful post and thank you for sharing. So very sorry for your loss. May these touching memories provide comfort now and in the future.

  16. Katie

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an increible human. May the memories you carry in your heart give you comfort even in your grief.

  17. Julie Hardgrave

    That is a hard loss for us girls. Our dads are forever special. Remember the good things (it sounds like they are numerous!!). I agree with the staying busy… whatever works for you.

    Wishing you peace and comfort.

  18. Sara

    Dear Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad will live on in your hearts with good memories. Nothing can probably heal the pain, but just feel what you feel and don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel. Hugs to you and the family. Hope your kids are okay too. :/

  19. Kristin

    I’m so very sorry for your loss Deb. Your father sounds like a wonderful person, and it’s lovely that he was such a strong supporter of you.

  20. alycia

    Echoing what others have said: My deepest condolences for your loss – he definitely sounds like he was a good egg indeed. Thank you for sharing these sweet insights into your personal world. We are all here holding space and love for you and yours.

  21. Jessica Mackenzie

    I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you so much for sharing a little bit of him with us. May g-d comfort your family.

  22. AliB

    Deb, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like an amazing person and I can tell in your poignant tribute to him that he meant the world to you. I send my most heartfelt condolences to you and your family at this difficult time.

  23. Jóhanna Helgadóttir

    My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Your words about your father are so beautiful. I loved how proud he was of you and your brilliant site that we all love so much. X

  24. Leyna

    For Christmas many years ago, my dad bought me your cookbook. He said it looked beautiful and he knew I would love it. I have made many of your recipes over the years. My dad passed away 7 months ago. There’s nothing to say in the first few weeks excerpt THIS SUCKS! I had many people say “I wish I could say t gets easier, but it doesn’t”. That’s a lie. I don’t know why so many people said that to me but 7 months later I can deffinitely say it gets better and it gets easier. I feel like I have a different relationship with him now. I am almost closer with him than before because I have much more honest conversations with him than I ever did when he was alive. I hope the kind words people say help you, as they did me.

  25. Julie

    Deb, I am sorry for the loss of your dad and hope all of your fond memories help you and your family through this difficult time. And thank you for sharing your feelings with us . Smitten Kitchen is much more than a cooking website , it’s a community and one that cares deeply for you and yours .

    1. Danielle

      THIS. I’ve never met you or your dad, but that didn’t stop me from getting goosebumps when I saw this post. So sorry for your loss, Deb. We may not be there to offer our hugs, but we truly do care.

      1. Kate

        Ditto to the above posts.
        I hope having the posts to remind you of his overt gestures of love, support, and pride help to sooth your pain at least a bit. Continue to share stories and in that way he will forever be part of your life!

  26. I am so sorry for your loss, Deb. You dad sounds like he was a GREAT egg. Thank you so much for writing about your special bond. I hope that you focus on the love that you shared and what a special person he was during those times when it’s hard to get up in the morning in a world without him. The love and support of your beautiful family as well as your incredible drive to make beautiful meals will help you chug along when times are tough. Also, your devoted fans always have your back… myself included, of course!

  27. LynnR

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like your greatest cheerleader. I lost my dad 19 years ago today, so your post caught my attention instantly. His pride in you was certainly justified. Keep making him proud. This space brings so many others great joy too.

  28. Melissa H

    Deb, So very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. What a beautiful and loving piece about him. He sounded like an amazing person. Sending my best to your and your family.

  29. Kris

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. This was a lovely dedication to SantaDad. It’s quite obvious why he was so proud of you.

  30. Sandy

    Deb, I’m very sorry for your loss. One of the hardest things to deal with is the loss of one’s Dad. You now have an angel watching over you that you can talk to anytime you want. Hugs.

  31. Ally

    So sorry for your loss, Deb. I can picture the type of man he was by your quick description and he sounds like someone I would be fond of. Thinking of you and your family.

  32. r.

    When my grandfather passed away my aunt said this to me and it brought me some comfort, hoping it can do the same for you:
    “Help me, God, to make memory into blessing. While accepting the inevitability of death, and affirming the possibility of an afterlife, help me be inspired by the memory to live today and every day with greater compassion, honesty, consecrating purpose, and gratitude.”

  33. Ann

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Cooking definitely has therapeutic effects, there are much worse outlets for grief. Sending love and light to you and all his loved ones. 💜

  34. klcrab

    My condolences on your loss, I lost my father as well last week. I am so glad you have all those wonderful memories to rely on during this time. Please give my best to your family as well. Keep cooking- no one should judge anything you do as you adjust to this change. We all need to give grace to each other instead of judging their actions.

  35. Lynn

    What a grand tribute to your dad. Makes me feel I knew him a little. Thank you for sharing and know that this community mourns with you. Food equals memory. Cook to your hearts content, girlfriend. And if you shed a tear or two while doing so, consider it much needed salt in your creation. Be well.

  36. DIMITRA TASIOURAS

    Dear Deb – I am so sorry you lost your beloved father. I wish I had run into him in the grocery store to hear him go on about you. When my father died two years ago, I came upon this poem, which brought me some small comfort. It’s by the poet Diana Der-Hovanessian.

    SHIFTING THE SUN
    When your father dies, say the Irish
    you lose your umbrella against bad weather.
    May his sun be your light, say the Armenians.

    When your father dies, say the Welsh
    you sink a foot deeper into the earth.
    May you inherit his light, say the Armenians

    When your father dies, say the Canadians
    you run out of excuses.
    May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.

    When your father dies, say the Indians
    he comes back as the thunder.
    May you inherit his light, say the Armenians.

    When your father dies, say the Russians,
    he takes your childhood with him.
    May you inherit his light say the Armenians.

    When your father dies, say the British,
    you join his club you vowed you wouldn’t.
    May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.

    When your father dies, say the Armenians,
    your sun shifts forever
    and you walk in his light.

  37. Brittany W.

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. It is terrible to lose a parent. I’m sure a missed anniversary was extremely hard for your family as well. I’m glad that the was here to meet your children and sorry that he will not be here to watch them continue to grow. He sounded like a great person.

  38. Sam

    Deb I am thinking of you and your family and wishing you all well. I’m sorry for you loss. May his memory be a blessing.

  39. Cherelle b

    Deb so sorry to hear this, but wierdly happy you concern us family to share this type of news with your readers. I will be praying for your family as you grieve!

  40. Deb – your dad sounds like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing him with us! I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you find comfort in storytelling, family time, and of course, cooking. Sending you love and light during this difficult time. xoxo

  41. Kate

    Dear Deb,
    My deepest and most heartfelt condolences for your loss. You have created such a wonderful little corner with this website and its no surprise that your father was so proud of your work. Sending my best.

  42. Sara

    I’m so very sorry for your loss, Deb. Thinking of you and your family. Thank you for sharing such wonderful memories with us.

  43. Sue

    Deb – so sorry to hear your dad passed. It sounds like he was a great dad and a wonderful person in general. I feel your pain as my dad has passed too. I had 56 terrific years with him and now, 10 years later I can hardly believe I’ll never see him again. It’s a strange experience when you’re so close. But you will come to a peace with it, I hope it happens soon for you. And trust me, you’ll see him again in your dreams (a bonus). :^)

  44. Emma

    Dear Deb,
    I’m so sorry about your Dad. He sounds like the best egg – jumbo xl with two yokes from free range chickens.

    I’ve comforted many grieving friends by filling their freezers with your soups and countertops with your cookies. I hope you can find the same comfort in your food that so many others have done in similar times.

  45. Meredith Andersen-Elliott

    I think whatever way you are grieving is the right way. I’m so sorry for your loss and please be kind to yourself. This will all still be here when you get back, whenever that may be. Love and light to your whole family in this time.

  46. Peg Hendel

    I read your post with tears in my eyes. Mom passed away a year ago and I still miss her, though doing “family” things brings back such a flood of good memories. Take care of yourself and your family, cherish that you had someone so special to love, and be loved by. PS I’m about to bake 3 ingredient peanut butter cookies- good for the soul!

  47. Eileen

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of your dad with us, he sounds like quite the character.

  48. Deb

    Dearest Deb,
    Heartfelt consolences in the loss of your Dad. He sounds absolutely wonderful. You both were blessed. May time heal you and memories sustain you. We’ll be here when you’re ready. Peace.

  49. Joni

    I have no words that can console you. But others words often are more comforting. This poem has consoled me many times. Hope it consoles you too.
    Our Roots are Intertwined
    With their last breath those we love do not say good by, for love is timeless. Instead, they leave us a solemn promise that when they are finally at rest in God, they will continue to be present to us whenever they are called upon. Let us fear not, nor grieve beyond letting go the departure of those we have greatly loved, for in the Tree of Life their roots and ours are forever intertwined.
    Prayer by Edward M. Hayes

  50. Andrea

    I am so sorry for your loss and I hope his memory is always a blessing. Thank you for what you’ve always given us here, even today. ❤❤💔

  51. I don’t want my comment to sound cliché, so please know I’m being 100% honest that I’m keeping you and your family in my deepest thoughts and prayers during this time.

  52. Maria McD

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I so enjoy your site, your recipes, your books and your Instagram. I hope you find some peace in your cooking and your memories. There’s no wrong way to grieve.

  53. Susannah

    What beautiful photos, and sweet memories. Sending condolences to you and your family. I hardly ever comment, but you’ve been teaching me how to cook for a decade! Thank you.

  54. Mrs. Castro

    Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences. You and your family will be in my prayers. You have shared so much of your life with us, your loyal readers, that although you don’t know me (or us) I feel, like I am sure many others do, that I am almost a part of your family, or at least a very good friend. We are all here for you. We love and support you and wish you strength and comfort in this difficult time.

  55. janmorrison12

    It made me miss my daddio to read about your love for yours. A good dad is a lifelong treasure. Thanks for sharing your heart here. Love to you and your family.

  56. Althea

    I’ve been a quiet follower for years now & have tried & continue to cook many of your recipes. Not only are your recipes delicious, but your blog is hilarious! My sincerest condolences for your loss. Hoping you find comfort in your memories of him & cooking for your loved ones. *virtual hugs*

  57. Mary Mary

    Deb, I am so so sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a wonderful person. May his memory be a blessing and a source of joy in these hard times.

  58. Amanda

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing about him today. And don’t you dare tell yourself you’re not “supposed” to be cooking; it is your journey of remembering and grieving and no one gets to tell you the best route.

  59. Cathy Dolata Diax

    I am so sorry to hear this news. Your heartfelt tribute was lovely to read. May you take comfort on all of the good times (and food!) you shared.

  60. Barbara Hughes

    I’m very sorry to hear about your Dad, he sounds wonderful and I just wish I HAD gotten to chat with him at the grocery store. I’m sure it delighted him to talk to your many fans and hear how much we love you. Sending peace and light. It is very hard to lose your Dad ❤️

  61. Jessica

    Currently at 32, I lost my dad 2 years ago. I smile when I make recipes that I know he loved. You will always remember him through the food that made his heart sing..

    Know that I’m thinking about you and sending you positive energy.

  62. Kates

    So sorry to hear this Deb. Sending you love, and please know that you have this beautiful online community supporting you. We’ll all miss SantaDad.

  63. Rebecca

    Thank you for sharing some of your favorite memories of your dear dad. Wishing you and yours lots of peace, warm memories, and comfort during this sad time.

  64. Margaret

    I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your memories of your dad and solace in the often-meditative work in the kitchen. In these times, it can provide the best escape from sorrow. Thinking of you and your family.

  65. Janet

    I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds just wonderful.

    I sit here reading this while enjoying a crispy fried egg – a good egg, indeed. <3

  66. Katie

    Deb,

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like he was an amazing father and an overall wonderful human being. My dad is also a fan of yours — we had a close call with him last May, and your matzo ball soup was the first thing I made for him when we got him home from the hospital… He calls it the elixir of life.

    Thank you for sharing your life and grief with us. I’m sending you (and your family) love and comfort from Texas. ❤️

  67. Jillian P.

    So truly sorry about your dad. My dad passed in May 2016 at age 69, but he held on just long enough to meet our third baby, Ezra Frank (Frank after my dad). Hugs to you, losing a parent (basically our biggest fans & the best grandparents) sux. 😭

  68. I’m so sorry for your loss. Reading your tribute to him brought commiseration tears to my eyes as I remembered the loss of my own father so many years ago. How lucky you were to live close to him and your mother!

  69. Emma

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know there’s nothing you’re “supposed” to do; just do what feels right. Wishing you comfort and peace. May his memory be a blessing.

  70. John McDermott, CPLP

    Your dad was a friend and I miss him. We worked together at Learning Tree and I have many wonderful memories of him. I remember when he told me you were his daughter. He was so proud of you.

  71. JP

    I did not think much about death until the death of my own father and then I realized life is more fragile than I ever realized. Now I know each day is a gift and should be treated that way, the bad with the good. Sending heartfelt wishes that your memories help to sustain you at this difficult time. xo

  72. I am so sorry for your loss. What can I say as an orphan is: embrace all your good memories, take all the hugs you need from everyone you love. It will be okay someday. We are rooting for you always. Sending love from Brasil.

  73. I’m so sorry Dear Deb for the loss of your Dad. I loved your post, and sounds like your dad would have been honored to be featured. Thinking and praying for you and your family.

  74. MaryanneD

    Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like a wonderful man. How blessed you were to have him in your life. My dad passed away recently….I know the heartache you and your family are feeling. I pray the memories and love you shared with your dad are a comfort to you. He will be in your heart forever. Be well.

  75. Em

    I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. When I lost my grandfather, who was a father to me, I actually found cooking very helpful. I made the grapefruit cake in your first book for his funeral tea. And the ooey gooey butter cake, that turned out too gooey to serve in polite slices, so my family and I ate it out of the tin, sitting around the kitchen table. Food, and your recipes, helped. I’m thinking of you and your family at this very sad time. Sending you the warmest of wishes.

  76. Sarah

    Deb, sending you much love as you remember him and grieve this loss. I feel like I know him, through these beautiful words and his presence on your site. Such a bright light. Thank you for sharing this reflection with us.

  77. Jeanette Fang

    I knew your dad referred to himself as SantaDad, and I knew you are Jewish, but I never made the connection until now that that is actually quite hilarious! Goes to show what a fun-spirited man he was. In the photos it’s obvious that the three of you have the same eyes with the same twinkle. Peace to you and your family.

  78. Deborah

    So very sorry for your loss. My mom died 11 months ago – just 3 months shy of my parents 60th wedding anniversary. Losing a parent is so incredibly hard. Sending you all my love during this time. Xo Deb

  79. Paige

    I’m so sorry to hear this. When we lose our parents, even as adults, we lose our innocence and part of our childhood. May his memory be a blessing.

  80. Alice K.

    Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to read this! No matter what age we are our parents are, well, our parents, and so we mourn them when they leave us. Your writing is a tribute to him and to the love and respect you had for him.

  81. Kaela

    Deb, So sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a very good egg. I hope you find that he keeps showing you his love for this site (and you) in your own special way.

  82. momurphy20

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Cook away if it makes you happy and feel closer to your dad, it sounds like he would appreciate it!

  83. Bethany

    Oh I’m so sorry, Deb. I hope you find all sorts of comfort, love, and memories in days, weeks, and years that pass. Thank you for sharing your life here!

  84. Jenifer Alonzo

    Deb. I’ve never commented here. But this site and your books bring me great joy. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m holding you and your family in the light.

  85. Ginger

    I am so so sorry. It hurts I know. My dad was my biggest fan and losing him is my biggest loss. Your memories really did humanize him for me. A great one. Carry that always.

  86. lauriewendy

    There’s never an easy time to lose a parent. What a joy that you, your family, and your children got to love and be loved by such a good man.

  87. frddymck

    This post about your Father both saddened and delighted me. I loved the inflection of joy and happiness you put into your reminiscences of your Dad and his interactions here on your blog. I am deeply saddened by your tremendous loss…
    My thoughts and prayers to you and yours!
    Big hugs from Vermont!

  88. Wife To An Amazing Cook

    Dear Deb, I’m so very sorry for your loss. As many others have already said, this is a lovely, authentic tribute to a man that you clearly adored (and he, you). I hope that the outpouring of support from this virtual community brings some element of comfort as you navigate the days ahead. Much love and light to you and yours.

  89. My condolences- I am so sorry. You have brought me nothing but happiness and full stomachs over the years, and you have helped to bring me closer to my own family as we test out your recipes together. Nothing can make up for this loss, so I just hope to remind you that your own memories of and with your father go on to sustain me and my family when times are tough. He left a legacy with you, and that legacy continues to grow. <3

  90. smonakey

    My deepest condolences on your dad’s passing. It deeply, utterly & completely sucks. And it will always suck, but I hope that you’ll keep your memories of him close & take comfort in them.

  91. Jen

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man who led a wonderful life. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  92. manthony524

    So, so sorry for your loss, Deb. We’ll be lighting a candle for SantaDad tonight, and thinking of your family as we make something extra-cozy and comforting for dinner. Sending hugs.

  93. Janet in NC

    Holding you and your family in light and love. Finding comfort in cooking with family seems like the perfect way to honor your dad.

  94. psylv

    My heart goes out to you. I feel like I know you even though I have never left any message for you before, so the feeling can’t be mutual. Thanks for being you.
    In a situation such as you have right now, any behavior is appropriate.
    Sending you good vibes.

  95. Kriss

    I’m so sorry. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man – may his presence continue to be felt by you and your loved ones for a long time to come.

  96. Sarah

    I’ve been here since 2008, but leaving my first comment. First, so sorry for your loss. Second, thank you for this lovely piece of writing. My dad and I are negotiating a new phase in our relationship, and I hope it can be like this.

  97. Terri

    Dear Deb–
    Thanks for sharing your losses, as well as your success in this space. So much love is coming your way, may it soften the hole such a loss leaves in the life of a family.
    I think of John O’Donohue in these times—
    “And though this loss has wounded others too,
    No one knows what has been taken from you
    When the silence of absence deepens…”

    May love in all its forms of memory, including creating with food and finding all the ways in which that nourishes you, bring comfort in this time.
    Be gentle with you.
    Peace

  98. Allie

    I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I’ve been reading you since your previous non-food blog, and it was always clear how wonderful SantaDad was and how much he loved you. When my own mother passed away in the middle of a birthday-heavy week in our extended family, I baked three huge cakes in a row around her funeral. (All recipes from here, actually.) We do whatever works to muddle through.

  99. What a joyfully poignant tribute to your dad. While I can’t imagine how to get accustomed to the loss of someone so lovely, I do know the power of food and shared meals and memories is a great start. Sending lots of love to you and your family.

  100. So sorry that your dad passed away. Very nice that you had such a loving and wonderful father and a ton of great memories of him. You have now peaked my curiosity and I think I’ll review your previous posts looking for your dad’s comments. Oh, and anytime you want someone to spell check I’m your girl! Hard to feel funny when you’re in pain, but you managed it. Your dad would be so proud.

  101. Sydney

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your father’s spirit shines through in this beautiful tribute. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  102. DEB – I’m so sorry for you’re loss. He sounds like an amazing father. Sending lots of love your way. What better way to celebrate his memory than to cook all the food he loved so much. ❤️

  103. Dear Deb,
    I am so sorry to hear to hear of your loss. What a great joy it is to have a wonderful relationship with you father. It is delightful to hear of his pride in and love for you. It is good to have good memories. May you be blessed and comforted as you weep and laugh and mourn and remember him.

  104. Collette

    I’m so sorry for yours and your family’s loss. He sounds like a wonderful, charming, interesting person, and a fabulous father and grandfather. Thank you for sharing a bit of him with us. I wish you peace.

  105. Kristina

    I’m so sorry, Deb. How wonderful that you both loved each other so much. You will always have his love.. I lost my grandma a week ago also, we were very close and it’s very difficult to process the loss of a person who meant so much .. but we still have their love :)

  106. Sara

    Deb, I[‘m so sorry to hear this news. I understand the pain of losing a father too soon, and you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  107. Alix Taggart

    Very sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. Wonderful stories you’ve shared regarding his interest & enthusiasm for your work, he was understandably proud of you. You were both so fortunate! I’m so happy my daughter introduced me to your site.

  108. jcpalmquist

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my father in 2014 and while I still miss him every day, it has also increased my appreciation for the time we had together and what he brought to my life (A deep appreciation for wine and a love of puns to name a few)!! Wishing you love and support from family and friends as you go through these sad days.

  109. I’m sorry for your loss. Your dad seemed just like the dad I would have had if he had lived as long as yours. Ready to talk about his daughters, ready to chime in on whatever opinion he had, ready to share a little fun and joy at a whim. It’s so hard to lose a parent at any age. Take your time and process as you wish; cooking is a fine thing to do if it helps you get by and get on. Finally, it’s ok to feel whatever emotion comes to you during the days and months and years to come.
    Much love and empathy to you and yours.

  110. Kelly S

    My father was a treasure too! I loved reading this…a farher’s love and pride is just so palpable, isn’t it? Thanks for sharing. I needed this today. ❤️ Blessings to you and your entire family. Keep those memories alive with many more storytelling sessions! Perhaps over the perplexing eggplant parm.

  111. Trisha

    I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man and wonderful father and husband. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  112. I am so sorry for your loss, but glad your dad got to experience the joy of your blog. I shared your site with my dad and we’ve since made recipes from it together–he’s a big fan of your whitefish salad.

  113. Becky

    We readers are honored that you share so much with us, Deb. Thank you for what is surely the most beautiful post I’ve read in my 10 years reading your blog. Your dad sounds like one of the best. My love and condolences are with you and your family.

  114. Meg

    So very sorry for your loss. I’m sure that cooking is very therapeutic right now and makes you think of your sweet Dad. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time.

  115. Linda

    Dear Deb,
    just wanted to tell you that my heart goes out to you and your family!
    Sending much strength for these toughest of times! <3
    Your dad is proud of you!
    Big love and hugs
    Linda

  116. Deb, I’ so sorry for your loss. As usual your writing touches my heart. You are funny, poignant, and touching. Even though I have never met you (or our family) I will carry this beautiful tribute with me forever. (and therefore SantaDad too) Your love shows in every word.

  117. Stefanie

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your memories of your father are wonderful. Your words are a wonderful tribute to him. ❤️

  118. Robyn

    I hardly ever comment, but I couldn’t let this one go by without saying I’m sorry for your loss. May you continue to find warmth and love sharing and holding those memories close.

  119. Maggie

    Deb, I’m so sad that you’ve lost your dad. I loved reading this and it made me tear up. I lost my Dad this past November and it is still so hard to believe he’s really gone. How wonderful to have an archive of your recipes with his comments and your memories of his love and support. Cheers to your SantaDad. Sending lots of love.

  120. Susan Weiss

    So very sorry for your loss. From the loving way you have written about your Dad here, It is for certain that the memories you hold dear and the love of your family will provide solace. Wishing you and your family strength and comfort.

  121. Anne

    so so sorry to hear this. he must have been an incredible thing to make you such an admirable woman. May his memory be a blessing.

  122. Jenna

    Losing someone while keeping your memories of them is one of the most saddening, gut-wrenching feelings in the world… I’m so happy that you are still cooking and keeping yourself doing whatever makes you happy. You have every right to maintain your happiness in this moment and be selfish for your mental well-being. And take as much time away as you need to. No good person would blame you.

  123. Rachel

    So sorry for your loss. I’ve been following you for years and I’ve never felt closer. My own dad passed away a week and a half ago. Your father sounds like he was an amazing man and the world is definitely less bright for his loss. Like yours, my dad was endlessly proud of everything I did. Fathers are like that, I suppose. Glad you are doing things that bring you comfort.

    May his memory be a blessing. Sending lots of love.

  124. Ruth Reedy

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Dads and their daughters are a unique relationship, and it sounds like yours was a good one. May his memory be for a blessing.

  125. Gena Gonzales

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Dad’s are amazing and great dad’s are priceless. What a blessing that you have this site to (amongst other things =}) fondly remember him. May your oven be hot and your Kitchen Aid be motoring as you navigate this grief.

  126. Janice

    Deb,
    So sorry to hear about your father. Have been following your blog for about 6 years, and really admire you and love your recipes.

  127. Susan B.

    Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Love to you and your family. And keep on cooking – I’m guessing he would have wanted that. Susan

  128. Stephk

    So sorry for your loss Deb. If I had the chance I’d bring a chocolate babka to your shiva (the traditional shiva food in my family). Thinking of you and your family <3

  129. Julia

    I am so sorry for your loss.
    My dad was born the same year as yours and he died at the end of 2016 and I still feel in shock. Two months later I got married and I could never imagine him not being there.
    Remember the good times and the person he was. You are a part of him!
    Loved the stories you just told here about him.

  130. TanjaK

    I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful dad. What good fortune to have a great relationship with your dad. I wish you strength in this difficult time and I hope you can surround yourself with all the people you love and need for as long as possible. It helps. I wish you all the best and am sending you a warm hug.

  131. Kathleen Sauer

    Awww I’m so sorry Deb.
    Take Care & keep cooking!
    Your Dad will be watching & will continue
    To be proud
    You take all the time you need
    Your peeps will be here

  132. Melissa Racklyeft

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you will be comforted by your many wonderful memories, and by the knowledge of how proud he was of you. I lost my dad over five years ago and I can tell you that the pain will soften and dim, but it will never quite leave you. It’s so hard to lose these precious people – sending love and hugs as you grieve.

  133. Shelby S.

    I am so sorry for your loss Deb. What a kind and sweet post. He sounds like a wonderful man, who loved you very much.

  134. Liesl

    Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss of your wonderful dad. I lost my dad four years ago and, while I don’t know exactly how you are feeling, I have an inkling. Sending much love to you and your family. I hope the memories will bring you comfort as time goes by. Please be good to yourself. It is so important at this time.

  135. Margi

    I am so very sorry for your loss, Deb. All best to you and your family. I know you all are relishing in the love and memories your father has given you.

  136. JDL

    I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine a few your ago and it’s rough for awhile. At a certain point my anguish diminidhed and was replaced by my joyful memories of him. I still miss him and think about him but without pain. Best wishes to you and your family.

  137. Sue Parisien

    Deb, I am so, so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a warm and wonderful mensch. Of course, he was unapologetically proud of you– as he should have been. May his memory be a blessing and may you find comfort in your many good memories.
    Sue

  138. Tina

    What a lucky girl you are to have a dad who was so funny and proud of you. I’m sorry for your loss, but happy you got to have him for so long.

  139. thinking of you and your family a lot at this time .your wedding photo and photo of your son and your dad tells all . food , really amazing food such as yours is the anchor for all of you now. naturally the opposite of the food anchor is your evolution as you delve deep into mystery of life and death . all of the best for you during this grand time of transition .

  140. Mary

    Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray for comfort for you and your family. Your website and cookbooks bring joy to my family, and I wish only joy for yours.

  141. Linette Sternlicht

    May his memory be for a blessing. I lost my dad two years ago, and I miss him dearly. Thank you for all the recipes.

  142. Lindsay

    Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I saw your social media post the other day and my heart broke for you. Though I never knew your father, I could tell he was warm and funny and loving from his comments on this site; I always smiled when I saw a Santa Dad post. Prayers for you and your family as you grieve this terrible loss.

  143. Sally

    Deb and family — I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your dad was very proud of you and your accomplishments.

  144. Missy

    I have followed your site for years, and just wanted to reach out and say how sorry I am for your loss. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your family. ❤️

  145. Michelle C

    I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a really fun, lovely man. May his memory be for a blessing.❤

  146. Janene

    What a lovely and moving tribute to your father. I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you find solace and comfort in the beautiful memories yo possess.

  147. Pam Huggett

    My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I lost my dad before I married and had kids, and have told them countless stories about him. Your kids are lucky, not only because they knew him, but also because you are blessed with the ability to share a good story. God rest his soul.

  148. Jesse

    I am so very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful testament to your dad this post is. I feel like I can see him in my minds eye just from how you describe him.

  149. Carolyn

    Deb, I was so sorry to hear about your loss, and I hope that this community can be an encouragement to you in sadness just as it has been in many joys over the years…

  150. Deepest sympathies on the physical loss of your father’s presence in your life. Your love and admiration for him resonated in the words you wrote in this post. There may be no greater gift we receive in our lives than being loved by our parents. And it sounds like your father loved you very much.

  151. Sarah F. Geiger

    May his memory be for a blessing.

    Cook all you want, feeding yourself and your family and being together over favorite foods helps along the way.

  152. lemead

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad (a week before their anniversary too, though 48th). I’m just so sorry. xox

  153. Petrina

    Dear Deb,
    As an avid follower of SK, I was so sorry to read of the loss of your dad. Thinking of you and your family today.

  154. KD

    Deb,
    I think cooking sounds like a practical way to keep yourself whole and honor the memory of your dad, who sounds like he was a hoot.
    My mom just died in January, and someone gave me a book of daily meditations that my family and I have found very readable and helpful: Healing After Loss by Martha W. Hickman.
    May you and your family find peace.

  155. Cy

    Deb, so sorry for your loss. When I lost my dear sister, suddenly two years ago, cooking was the only thing that kept me going. We are a family of cooks. I’m blessed to still have my dad and just enjoying the time we have left ( he’s 84). I imagine I will honor my dad, the same as you are doing for yours. We all can see , he was very proud of you and the community and career you’ve created. I’m sure Santadad is smiling on you as you keep the legacy going in your tiny kitchen.

  156. Jess

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Cooking sounds like a sensible coping mechanism to me. Every loss leaves a hole that we try to fill.

  157. Jen

    Deb, I am truly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an amazing guy and a very special father. I’m excited to learn more about your dad’s favorite dishes. Thank you for sharing this piece of your life with us, your devoted readers and fan cooks. I extend my heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

  158. Shelley

    My condolences – be gentle and patient with yourself – it is a difficult time to go through. Sending my prayers and kindest thoughts to you and your family.

  159. I’m so sorry for your loss! There is no right or wrong in the grieving process. Cook as much as you need to, and then if you swing the other way eat nothing but carryout for days and days.

  160. My condolences to you and your family. Sounds like an extraordinary and charming man. <3 We love and respect you, Deb, thank you for feeling comfortable in sharing this with your followers.

  161. Theresa

    Deb, suncere sympathhy to you and your family as you mourn your Dad. Your tribute here is beautiful, words from your heart so moving. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.

  162. Josette Schwartz

    Such a sweet story about SantDad. Thank you for sharing. Though his bodily siie ceases to exits may the memories of who he was and how he lived continue to live on in the hearts of those who loved him. I am sorry for your loss and happy that you had such a fun and supportive dad. He will be with you in spirit.

  163. Aarthi

    Much love to you and your family deb! I remember SantaDad’s comments on many of your recipes and have chuckled at how much he loved you and his sense of humor. I cook when I am sad too..and food is a wonderful way of remembering someone.

  164. Stephanie

    Well this just broke my heart. I first saw the pictures and I just knew. My heart hurt because it just had that feeling. I’m so very sorry for you and your family. What beautiful words you shared about your dad. How blessed you are to have such a great, supportive father❤️

  165. Jackseattle

    Your dad sounds like a wonderful person and great father/grand papa. Thanks for sharing some of him with us. I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts. Many condolences

  166. Lauren

    I am sorry to hear of your dad’s passing, Deb. I also lost my father a little over a year ago. We were very close and the thing that has surprised me is how close he still feels. I hope you find the same to be true. Don’t worry about what you think you “should” be doing or feeling as you process your grief. Everyone does it differently and you are doing it the way that’s best for you. I look forward to trying more of his favorite recipes from here. He sounds like he’s got great taste.

  167. Zohar

    I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad cooking gives you some comfort in this hard time. You obviously know how important food can be for family gatherings, so I hope your delicious food brings up fond memories. Please remember the time to take care of yourself.

  168. Celeste

    Deb,

    My father passed away 6 years ago, and this made me cry. I’m so sorry for your loss, and my kindest thoughts and deepest condolences to your mother. I still tear up daily with the missing of my father, but I’m (now) able to be grateful for the kind of father that inspires that kind of missing. Cook all his favorites and take care of you and yours. <3

  169. Olga

    Dear Deb, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a truly wonderful human being, and he must have been, to make you the gift you are to all of us. Wishing as much peace and comfort to you and your family as possible. May you find comfort in each other. <3

  170. Kate B

    Deb-I am getting to the point in life that I have always feared, someday losing a parent! I am so very sorry for your loss and even more sorry that your Dad isn’t here to see how many more of your wonderful recipes will fill all of our kitchens with aromas that he would have loved! Many blessings and prayers for your family this week!

  171. Randi B.

    So sorry Deb! My mom died the first week of December and so I know how surreal it is losing a parent. You and your family are in my thoughts. It seems he lived a happy and full life and loved you very much.

  172. I’m so sorry to hear this sad news. Try not to pay too much attention to what you ‘should’ be doing. Find solace where it presents itself to you. Your father sounds like a wonderful man.

  173. RE

    Dear Deb,

    I am a long-time lurker who has been hugely uplifted, not only by your incredible recipes, but also by your love for your family. I am so very, very sorry to hear about your dad. Love and prayers to you and your family as you mourn.

  174. Andrea

    My sincere condolences to you and your family… I’m sure your cooking brought him lots of happiness (as it does to the rest of us) and made him very proud.

  175. Oh, Deb! I’m so sorry.
    I lost my father almost 3 years ago, we were very close. Take the time and space you need, or don’t need. I have a literal ache in my chest for you. My prayers are with you and your family. ❤️

  176. Leah

    Sending you all peace and grace. When Mom died, the emptiness and the silence were just crushing. I recited these lines from Edna St Vincent Millay over and over:

    The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love,—
    They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
    Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
    More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.

  177. Cara

    Deb, I don’t know you, but I read a lot that you write, and I know what it is to have a dad you’re really fond of who loves you a lot. I’m so sorry for your loss and extra appreciative of the pleasure and enjoyment you add to the world. May your memories be a comfort.

  178. Tabitha

    What a beautiful and heartfelt eulogogy for a man who sounds endlessly fascinating and very much in love with his daughter. I wish you peace as you come to grips with your loss, Deb ❤

  179. Marcela

    I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. He sounds like a truly wonderful father. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.

  180. Stasha

    Deb, so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man who will be greatly missed. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.

  181. Debra Hannah

    I am so very sorry for your loss, Deb. Papas are near and dear to my heart these days as my own just turned 90. We cherish him just as I know you cherish yours. Keep cooking and reliving all your wonderful memories of him!!

  182. lemead

    I’m so sorry. My father just died (a week before their anniversary, too, but 48) and it’s all so emotional and difficult and full of gratitude, for me, at least, it has been (run-on of the decade). Thinking of you, in tremendous empathy. xox

  183. Deb so sorry to hear of your dad‘s passing. I hope that you and the rest of the family are pulling out all the old photos and telling the wonderful stories about your father that will help you get through this difficult time. Think of something he loved for Pesach and share it with us so we can remember him with you.

  184. Beth

    Like the dental hygienist, I am a lurker, but I wanted to express my condolences for your loss and gratitude for the beautiful picture you painted of your father. He sounds delightful. He had and has so much to be proud of! Thank you for all the fabulous recipes I’ve shared with my family! Sending hugs to yours.

  185. nekojita

    Dear Deb, I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your dad. It’s so tough, and words are utterly inadequate. It made me smile, though, to read that you are cooking for him, even as my heart broke for you. It sounds like you are honoring him with actions. My very deepest sympathy.

  186. J

    Just want to express my sincere condolence and sympathy on your dad’s passing. It is 35 years that my dad died but he still comes to my mind and occasionally I have an inhead conversation with him. May you find peace in your remembrance of him.

  187. Kristina

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray that you have peace that passes all understanding. My Dad has been gone 10 years, but it is amazing how his wonderful characteristics that I cherish shine through my children. I hope all your wonderful memories of him will bring smiles through the tears.
    Kristina

  188. Katie

    Sending you so must love and holding space for all the emotions you’ve likely felt and will feel. The best advice I got after my dad passed is that there are no rules. You are allowed to laugh and cook and be happy and be sad and all of it. All of that is normal and ok. Your dad sounds like a beautiful soul. Sending hugs.

  189. Annie

    I am so sorry for your loss. Well, we are. Your book, heavily bookmarked, is on our coffee table and I just shared with my partner that you lost your dad. We have both lost ours and our hearts go out to you. My mom is in the hospital right now, having had a stroke a few days ago and I know I shouldn’t want to cook either, but it feels right, even if I don’t want to eat. Something about being active with your hands and body, doing something basic. I’ll make something from your book soon and will send good thoughts out to you and your family while I do so. Maybe food is our love language :)

  190. Catherine

    I have been reading and cooking with you for years but never commented; still, I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I hope the coming holidays are filled with peace and warm memories as well as sadness.

  191. Carolyn

    I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re Dad sounds like the best kind of egg. The kind that has a delicious runny yolk that makes you feel at home on the inside.

    You and your family are so loved and adored by the thousands of people that you share your story with on this site.

    Prayers and peace to you and your family during this time. And extra special love to your Mom, Mrs SantaDad.

  192. alexaweitzman

    May his memory be a blessing. I haven’t lost a parent so I can’t fully relate but the week I sat shiva for my dear grandmother, I baked her favorite/famous sweet pizza cookies (jam crumble bars) every day. It helped. Funny that I noticed you weren’t here last week and sent a little ::internet vibe I hope all is ok:: thing. I’m mostly a lurker and didn’t know your father’s presence here, but he sounds like a real mensch. Thinking of you and your family this week.

  193. Ellen

    So very sorry for your loss. Think it is wonderful that you are cooking this week – as food can be so healing, and also such an offering of love for your family during this difficult time. Hoping it is bringing you some solace too. Certainly your blog has brought me and so many others peace and a sense of grounding during challenging times. Thanks for all you do, and sharing your experiences with the rest of us. My warmest sympathies to you and your family.

  194. Cathy C

    Deb,

    So sorry to read this news. For most of us, I think our fathers give us our first concept of God. After my dad died, when I would pray “Our Father who art in heaven,” I was never sure if I was speaking to God or my dad.

  195. Lindsay

    I’m a longtime reader and this is my first comment on your blog.

    My heart breaks for you. I loved reading this post with some of your treasured memories. He certainly does sound like a good egg. xoxo

  196. Eleanor

    What lovely stories you have from many wonderful years together. My deepest sympathies to you and your family for your loss – I read your words and grieved with you.

  197. Katie

    We all cared about, and will miss, Santa Dad. Deb I’m so sorry. I don’t think you can really prepare for the loss of a parent, no matter what your situation. XO

  198. feedingglutenfree

    This made me cry. Thank you for sharing with us! Oh my goodness what a great man he was I bet :) With my father ailing, this was a perfect post and my family and I are thinking of you and yours. Wishing you peace…Always, Jen

  199. Danielle

    I am so sorry for your loss. I never comment but this is a loving and perfect tribute to him on this space. I hope you can cook up some healing for yourself and your family.

  200. Ilana

    Dearest friend,
    Because you are. I read your postings not only for the ideas but for the warm voice that seems to get through these pages. The beautiful goodbye you wrote about your father made me misty eyed. I hope you find comfort and solace surrounded as you are, by so many of us who only want your best. Dont stop bringing us into your life, as you are one of the most heart warming food writer I have ever read.
    Stay true as always.

  201. Sending love and hugs and condolences to you and your family, Deb. It’s a lovely tribute that you wrote here, and I hope that your dad’s comments on your site bring you smiles through your sadness.

  202. Sharon Drennen

    Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for your Dad’s passing. May you find comfort in All the memories and love you shared. May his light forever shine in you and your children.

  203. Sara

    I am so sorry, Deb. Your always humorous and totally relatable posts have gotten me through some tough postpartum phases. I’m sending lots of love from California in the hopes that it will bring you some comfort during this difficult time for you and your family.

  204. Thank you for sharing this, Deb. I know the people who made us seep into the things we creat. I hope the turkey meatballs I made from your first cookbook tonight for my family kept part of his spirit alive. Love to you all during this dark time. ❤️

  205. Emily

    I am so sorry for your loss, this must be an excruciating time for you and your family! I really enjoyed your moving tribute, and from what you describe, your dad would have loved it, as well.

  206. Jackie

    Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s painful. My dear sister, who loved your site as much as I do, just passed away yesterday.

    Your beautiful children will be your saving grace right now.

  207. Shelly

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope the many wonderful memories you have sustain you through this difficult time and bring a smile to your heart when you think of of them. His memory sounds like a blessing.

  208. Bernadette S

    Deb, So sorry for your loss. Your Dad would have loved how you chose to pay tribute to him. Your Mother and all your family will be in my prayers.

  209. Sarah

    Deb,

    I am so sorry for your loss. A Dad is a terrible person to lose; it sounds like his larger than life personality will live on. You’ve helped me get through graduate school. I hope that even though we don’t know you very well, we can be a drop in the bucket to help you keep going.

    My thoughts are with you and your family,

    Sarah

  210. naomibeth

    I was searching your site for a Passover dessert recipe (almond horns win this year) and saw you posted this – just read it three times. What a beautiful tribute to your dad. So deeply sorry for your loss – may his memory be a blessing. Hugs to you and your family.

  211. Carolyne

    The passing of a parent—especially one as dear as your father—leaves a chasm nothing else quite fills. All those questions you never asked now never will be answered. All the laughter you might have delighted in will never happen. All the sweet comments he might have left will never be written. But you will ALWAYS have the years of love and laughter and shared joy, and in time these things will soften the edges of the emptiness. May you find comfort in his memory.

  212. Longtimereaderfirsttimecommenter

    So sorry for your loss, Deb. May you continue to find comfort in the recipes and memories you shared.

  213. Condolences to you and your family. Your stories through recipes and warmth are what keep folks like me reading your site and feeling like we are sitting at your family table. Sending hugs and hope that you are finding what is nourishing yourself and your family during this difficult time.

  214. I’m so so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an excellent man, made of the best stuff. :) May he rest in peace, and may you all be consoled. Please know of my prayers.

  215. Oh Deb! I am so sorry….I lost mine a couple of months back….feeling your pain 😔
    Deb he will still be looking over your work and I think he has already started his conversation about you in the next realm ☺️
    {{{{HUGS}}}}}}

  216. Lisa Kirsch

    Baruch Dayan HaEmet. May you and your family be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem and may you know no more sorrow. Wishing you a zisn and memorable Pesach, sweeter for all the memories it will carry. And thank you for your posting.

  217. May his memory be a blessing and may you find comfort among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem. Your dad sounds like a real mensch. Thank you for your sharing your stories about him. On a side note, I just read Mrs. Katz and Tush to my kids last night, and in that book, Mrs. Katz says her husband married her for her kugel. I guess a good kugel is hard to find!

  218. kanan85

    Deb – thanks for sharing this with us. What a beautiful soul. Sounds like your dear father left you with a legacy of laughter. His essence will forever live on in you – particularly with all that love you put into your food (and I’m sure everything else you do). Sending you and your family boat loads of love and light. xx

  219. LG

    Oh Deb. I am so, so sorry about your Dad. He was clearly such a wonderful person and hugely important in your life. I don’t think there’s anything to be said that will really make this better, but just wanted to chime in that I am thinking of you and your family. I hope this very sad time is full at least of good food and good memories that bring comfort. Sending BIG hugs from North Carolina.

  220. Deb

    So sorry for your loss. I really appreciate your dedication to caring about good food for us your readers. Just be sure you care for yourself this week as well.

  221. Monika

    So sorry for your loss! It sounds like you have many wonderful memories to cherish, which will be a source of comfort in the weeks/months/years ahead.

  222. FJ

    Your dad sounds like an extraordinary person, and an even better father. I’m so sorry for this terrible time for you and your family. I hope these wonderful memories will help provide peace and comfort.

  223. Mary G

    We are never ready to lose our parents. Never. My deepest condolences. I hope you find a tiny bit of comfort in knowing that so many people are holding you in their hearts. ❤️❤️

  224. Kathryn Hebroni

    Sending so much love to you and your family. He sounds like he was such a special and vivacious man. He was obviously so proud of you! May all of the memories get you through this. I’m so sorry.

  225. sooz

    Ah — so much love in this post. The way in which you honor your dad is beautiful; thank you for reminding us of the importance of our elders (and I write this after losing my own mother a year and a half ago, and after losing her only sibling, my aunt, just last week, and my father-in-law last summer). Sending love and gratitude for all you share with us each day.

  226. Portia

    I’m so very sorry about your dad.

    Last Wednesday marked the one-year anniversary of my mom’s death. I can tell you that I have felt her with me every single day of this year. I’m not religious, but I believe there is something transcendent about a parent’s love for their child. Sending you many warm thoughts.

  227. Sarah

    Deb and family,

    I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m also sorry that your kids will grow up without SantaDad. If I might make one suggestion, ask everyone who attends the funeral to write a letter to your kids that contains a fond memory of your father. This will help them remember him and give some shape to the type of man he was. Not an original idea by any means, but a close family friend once made a similar request and it was amazing to read what people wanted to share.

  228. Melissa Maxwell-Doherty

    May you be blessed with treasured memories of your Dad as you grieve his death and celebrate his life.

  229. jasmine

    Beautiful tribute to your father, Deb. I wish I could have run into him at a store and hear him heap praise on Smitten Kitchen, then I could have told him how much I adore this place too.

  230. Christine

    So sorry for your loss. Totally understand immersing yourself in the kitchen. It makes you happy and how you make others happy even in a time of grief! Wishing you nothing but sweet memories of your father.

  231. Rose

    Oh, Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing dad and an all-around fantastic guy. I wish I could have met him. Hugs to your family.

  232. joy

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds wonderful, and may we all be remembered by our children for such humor and love and full-of-life-ness.

  233. Laura

    I wish you the joy of the happy memories you’ve shared here and many more. Peace to you and your family. Thanks for sharing the sad as well as the happy.

  234. Chaya S

    I don’t know how you made me cry when I never met him, or you for that matter, I wish you comfort and strength in this moment and always. I can always come here and read a post, and be sure to smile and chuckle out loud. Sending good wishes your way.

  235. Linda

    I am so sorry for the loss of your “SantaDad”. I hope you will be comforted by your friends and family, and I know you will be comforted by your Father in Heaven.

  236. Stephanie

    Thank you for sharing him with us and so sorry to hear the news. Hang in there… sending love to you & your family.

  237. Becca

    Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like a wonderful person and such a proud, loving father. I have both of your cookbooks and love your recipes and your writing, but this is my first comment ever — just wanted you to know that there’s one more random Internet stranger thinking of you and your family during this incredibly difficult time.

  238. Hi Deb – I’ve never left a comment before but I adore both of your cookbooks and use them all the time. I wanted to send some love your way – for you, your dad and your family. He sounds like a really wonderful man. I’ll put a little extra love into the next dish of yours I make for you, and for him!

  239. Tamara

    When I saw your Instagram post the other day I wondered if that was the news. Your Dad dies sound like a good egg—one you’ll miss a lot. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. ❤️❤️

  240. Carly

    Your recipes have always been a joy and comfort to me and my family. We have also experienced loss lately, and I’m so sorry to hear of yours. Your tribute to your father here is moving—what a lovely, lively person to share some time with. All of my prayers are with you during this trying time.

  241. Jen

    I’m so sorry for your loss. “Supposed to” or not, cooking is a way to show love for ourselves and the people we love who are also hurting – cook on, if it feels good, and take comfort in the memories that each bite brings.

  242. Nicole

    I’m very sorry for your loss. Your recipes have been such a big part of many of my family’s best memories. We will all think of you and your dad this Easter and at many more holidays and birthdays to come. I hope knowing so many people are out here thinking of you will help just a little bit.

  243. Kathy D

    My condolences and sympathy – so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing these lovely memories of him with your large extended “family”.

  244. Nicole Miller

    Deb I’m so sorry. Your dad sounds incredible, one of those truly radiant types. I am glad he got to tell the world and every stranger he met how proud he was of his amazing daughter. What an awesome gift. Thinking of your family right now during this loss.

  245. Allie

    Dear Deb, I know I’m not the only one who finds comfort in this space and your writing. Sending my hope that you can find the comfort this week that you continue to share with us.

    My thoughts to you and your family.

  246. Rebecka Parker

    Deb,
    You’re family is in my thoughts and prayers. I hope all of your beautiful, nourishing recipes bring peace and healing in the form of community and shared memory in the coming days and weeks. From your post I’m positive your Dad was immensely proud of his daughter (and why not
    be?), and you should be proud too.
    Also, Happy almost 50th anniversary to your Mom, that alone is something to be proud and reason to celebrate your fathers life!

  247. jkricks

    My condolences to you and your family, Deb. I’ve been reading you since 2008, you fee like family or a friend. My heart aches for you. Peace and blessings,

    Julie

  248. Chrissy

    Deb you are a wonderful person and I’m so sorry to hear you lost your dad. Sending lots of love your way. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to do anything you need.

  249. Janelle

    Sorry for your loss. A lovely tribute to him, was really nice to read, he sounds like a great dad that was cherished and will be dearly missed. Sending you warm hugs from Australia. Xx

  250. Heather from Toronto

    Dear Deb,
    Wishing you, Alex, your mom, and sister much love and peace, memories to bring you comfort as time passes, and enough butter, sugar, and rainbow sprinkles to soothe your soul.
    Do whatever you need to to survive the difficult hours and days ahead, and know that there is an army of Smitten readers from all corners who have you, your dad, and the rest of your family in our thoughts.
    ❤ Heather

  251. Ruth

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Now I will always associate the sour cream chocolate chip coffee cake with your dad as well as with my book group friend Deborah, who loves it.

  252. realfoodiefamily

    Hugs, Deb!! I am SO very sorry. What a wonderful dad! Wish we lived close by and I could make YOU something! Glad you are staying busy.

  253. Noreen

    My sincere sympathy. What a wonderful and loving tribute to your Dad. It took me a while to admit after I lost my dad last year but I thought that he would live forever. I wish you wonderful memories and peace as you begin a new life knowing that he is with you always. We girls may go out and find our Prince Charmings but our Dads will always be King.

  254. CarolJ

    Dear Deb, I’m so sorry. I send heartfelt sympathy to you and your family on the loss of a loving father, husband, and grandpa. Thank you for sharing the wonderful photos. They say so much about him.

  255. Jennifer Scavuzzo

    I’m so so so very sorry. I know how you feel. I lost my dad many years ago and it still feels like yesterday. Still not real. One more hug. One more everything. I’m so so so sorry hr won’t know your baby. I know how that feels too. It’s horrible and sad. Please know you’re in my thoughts and prayers. You’re a beautiful person I’m so glad I found you on Instagram !!

  256. Liz

    So sorry to hear of your father’s passing. My dad passed away last month after battling cancer for a year. It still doesn’t feel real. Lots of prayers and hugs.

  257. Ehme

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds amazing. Losing my Dad is still a raw wound that I can’t imagine ever closing. It’s a horrible club to be in, but how lucky we were to have people we miss so much.
    All my love to you, your family, and especially your Mom.

  258. Amanda M.

    What a beautiful article. Thank you for sharing Santadad with us. May you find comfort in the many treasured memories. Much love to you and your family.

  259. Carol

    So sorry for your family’s loss. Can only imagine what a wonderful man he must have been to have a daughter like you that positively impacts so many lives. Thank you for sharing this glimpse into his.

  260. NicoleD

    Oh Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss, but hope you find comfort in what a wonderful supporter he was in your life and all the years you had. My father was similar, my biggest advocate in everything, and while I miss him every day still, time has made me even more grateful I had him. Do what feels good and enjoy all those comfort foods. My mom, brother and I drove to a favorite bakery after the first visit to the funeral parlor and ate pastries and cookies for our first real meal in days. Take care, we’ll be here when you’re back.

  261. Sally

    Deb- While I have never posted a comment before, your tribute to your father has moved me to do so. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May you find peace, love, joy, laughter, and a feeling of warmth in memories of your Santa dad! Hugs.

  262. Jordana Weisz

    May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem – may you know no more sorrow and may his memory be a blessing for you and your family. So sorry for your loss…

  263. linda pugh

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my own Dad almost 3 years ago just a few weeks shy of his 100th birthday. I think of him every day. I hope you get a chance to visit your Dad in your dreams. He’ll be there for you.

  264. Barbara Honiberg

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to lose a parent. Your love for your father comes across so beautifully in your post. May his memory be for a blessing. Although I don’t know you, I’m sending prayers of peace and comfort to you and your family.
    Barb

  265. Hillary

    Oh honey, I am so sorry. I hope it’s okay I call you honey–we all think of you as part of our family, you know. As with most of my funny, smart, gregarious girlfriends, the little apple doesn’t fall far from the big tree, and your dad was surely a hoot and obviously so very proud of you (of course he was!). It’s so hard to lose someone so big and who loves you so unconditionally. Please know your Smitten Kitchen family loves you too and is sending a giant hug.

  266. Melissa

    What an incredible tribute to your dad. Thank you for sharing this. It’s an honor to get a glimpse into the lives of others and he clearly was a very special man.

  267. Donna Hess

    What a lovely way to remember your Dad…. through the food and memories you made and will make!
    Even the comment “he was a good egg” is such a sweet tribute. My Dad and I connected through food….such a wonderful way to capture memories! Blessings to you.

  268. Emily Haselbauer

    Hi Deb,
    Your site is full of so much love; love of food, love of family, and love of life. I can imagine you wouldn’t be doing what you do with the same passion if it wasn’t for your parents. I’m so very sorry to read about your dad, yet still the mention of your parents wedding anniversary is so touching, and a testament to your dad’s love of family and love of life. Sending lots of positive thoughts to your family during such a difficult time.

  269. Hillary Rosenfeld

    So sorry for what you’ll always miss. Glad for you that your “Dad stories” will be served with every item of food that helps prompt a memory or savor a feeling from your shared past. Of course your Dad must have been very, very proud of the gift you share with all of us—your family of hungry strangers.

  270. Julie

    Deb, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Your dad was, indeed, a good egg. Your tribute made me want to hear more of this funny, loving man. Grieve as you need…we’ll be here when you’re ready.

  271. Hilary

    Deb, I am so sorry. I hope your many happy memories of him can be some measure of comfort. I’m glad that cooking can be a refuge for you (as it is for me). Much love and many hugs. Be well and be together with your family as you remember him.

  272. Debby Nelson

    Oh Deb. I’m so sorry for your sad news. I know that in time your wonderful memories will sustain you, and your children are so lucky to have known their wonderful grandpa. You know you are in many hearts as you come through this. Instead of a place for Elijah at your Passover Seder, make a place for your dad. His spirit will be with you. May his memory be for a blessing.

  273. Hi Deb,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your Dad has been an incredible source of support to you through your journey, and I’m sure he will continue to be as you navigate through life, watching over you, ever proud of you. I pray you and your family and blessed with strength to cope with his loss. May his soul Rest In Peace. ♥️

  274. Noele

    I am no stranger to loss, myself, as most of us have experienced it. My mama passed away and also my brother. Losing her was like losing a piece of myself. My father is still here and I have said multiple times I do not know how to live in a world where he doesn’t exist. I coped by baking and swimming and loving my kids. So very sorry for your loss and for your children losing a grandparent. May God grant you peace in the days ahead as you and your family find ways to continue your journey.

  275. Patricia

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Deb. Your father sounds like a wonderful person. I hope you and your family are getting lots of love.

  276. Colleda

    My heart breaks for you. Your dad sounds like the absolute best kind of dad and real true treasure. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.

  277. Georgette

    Crying a little for the sweet universal sadness of this post. My dad was like your dad. I’m sure we know that so much of the relationship couldn’t be spoken about. Anyway, May your wonderful father Rest In Peace. Sending you comfort and joy in knowing how much he enjoyed you and all you do.

  278. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. Your father sounds like he was a wonderful man. And I completely understand cooking as a coping mechanism as I used to do that too. In fact it’s due to the coping mechanism use of cooking that a former friend ended up with an absolutely ridiculous number of chocolate chip cookies. Take care of yourself and your family and I hope you find some comfort and joy in sharing reliving your memories of your father.

  279. Mai

    Dearest Deb – I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family, and especially your mom. My own father passed away when I was nearing the end of high school and it was hands down the hardest thing I had to go through. You are so brave to share it here in this space. And you are amazing for doing so in such a beautiful, honest, and touching way. Know though, that your dad will always be with you. He is forever in your heart and the memories keep his spirit alive through all his loved ones. sending you so much love and hugs and know you are not alone!

  280. Laurie

    Condolences to your family. Your Dad sounds as though he was a wonderful guy. May the many memories your family shares of him sustain you all through this period of mourning and the years ahead.

  281. Michael Sherman

    So sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. I enjoyed reading this. Parents often remember things a little differently than the kiddos do.
    May God give you and your family peace and fond remembrances.

  282. J Woessner

    Deepest condolences, Deb, to you and your whole family. From what you wrote, you dad was a special human being. The world’s loss, too, when such a person passes away. Take good care. Grieve. Let the loving memories sustain you.

  283. I am so sorry to hear about your loss Deb. And you are so right, if one can talk in this space of the “happy” things, this should get a mention too. In fact, more than a simple mention; I am looking forward to hearing more of his favourites, and more of your memories.
    Much love.

  284. mehsmom

    Dear Deb,

    My condolences to you. Your Dad sounded like a joy to be around, and a cheerleader bar none. I wish you and your family comfort and peace.

  285. Krissa Jacobson

    I’m so sorry Deb, it’s the loneliest feeling, losing a dad. Stay busy and cook away. Time is the only helper. Good smells serve our memories and hearts well. Get some rest.

  286. Eileen

    My condolences on the passing of your father. There is a very special relationship between a father and a daughter. Yours sounds like it was terrific!
    My family just had a memorial service for my father who passed away 12 years ago.

  287. elizabeth

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my own father many years ago and still think about his favorite foods and associated anecdotes when planning family meals. There is nothing quite like the father/daughter bond… it is enduring. I know you will enjoy your memories and stories about him for a lifetime. He sounds as if he was a wonderful man.
    ej

  288. Josie Lombardi

    I am truly so very sorry for your loss. I know what it is like….I miss my dad every day. In your grief look for those quiet moments when peace comes over you. It is him, popping in to hold you close and let you know he is ok.

  289. Susan Emmons

    I am so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. It sounds like you had a great dad and a very special relationship. My dad’s been gone 23 years but he’s never left me. He is always present in my memories of him. It will be the same for you. My sincere condolences.

  290. M Michiels

    I’m sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like he was a wonderful man, husband, father, grandfather, and friend. Our parents are and always will be our biggest most dedicated support system. Even after they are gone, somehow, they are never really gone. They live on in our hearts.

  291. Heather Edwards

    Deb, thinking of you and your family during this difficult time and hope you find comfort in your happy memories. Even though you’re far apart, you’re still together in your heart.

  292. Kristin Ryall

    I am on the Eve of my parents’ annual 2 week pilgrimage to my home for what I fondly call to the husband “the yearly in-law invasion”. Thank you for sharing this story of your Dad. I found myself smiling while I read it. Your Dad sounds like a hoot. You were certainly blessed with one of the best.

  293. Debbie

    Dear Deb, I’m so very sorry for your loss. I can tell from your writing he was very special in your life.
    I’ve never written before but I’ve followed you since you first year. (in your so tiny kitchen)

    Thank you for your blog,

  294. Amanda

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to your father, hope you find comfort in your memories during this difficult time.

  295. Maureen Higgins

    Bless you, you Dad and your family. He sounded like a wonderful Dad and friend. If he gave as much joy to you as you do with your books, blogs and emails, he is truly an inspired, wonderful genius. Hang in there, kiddo! ❤️

  296. Debbie Cardillo

    Deb,
    So sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. I lost my Dad quite a while ago, 22 years actually. The pain lessens with time, but the pride and love we have for our Dads lives on in our hearts forever…

  297. Melanie

    Deb, I’m so so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your Dad painted such a vivid portrait of such a lovely and clearly beloved man. He sounds like the kind of guy who I would end up chatting with at the grocery store and leave thinking ‘is it strange that I would totally have a coffee with that lovely man (who is a complete stranger)?! My father died about 16 years started ago and it’s a loss that stays with you forever. But the wonderful memories will begin to provide you with comfort after some time. I look forward to hearing more about him and his favorites through your page.

  298. Susie17

    Deb, I’m so sorry to read of your loss. The pictures of the two of you say it best: so much love and happiness. Cherish the memories of the times you were together as they’re more precious than gold. My condolences to you and your family.

  299. adelegillis

    Hugs to you! My dad passed away a few years ago, and was often my source of encouragement in life and in cooking. He’d take my boys fishing as long as I stayed in and made a batch of eggplant parmesan (so happily!). And when I miss him, I’m generally in the kitchen whipping up coffee cake or something sweet for my boys, who also miss their Grandpa. ‘So sorry for your loss, but I know he must be looking down on you with immense pride!

  300. Marion

    My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute. It is abundantly clear that you and your dad loved each other very much. I hope that love, time and good memories will bring you comfort.

  301. Susan

    Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your Father’s passing. I remember seeing Santa Dad’s comments at times, when I could wade through all the comments looking for your replies about a recipe. When you told us he was your Dad, I said to myself, Ah HA and recalled thinking that his turn of phrase must be where you picked up the knack; I could almost see a twinkle in his eye at times. He seemed very happy with all you’d accomplished and enjoyed talking with your fans as much I enjoyed his presence here as your biggest fan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  302. Ann

    I’m sorry to hear about your SantaDad. Do what you need to do for now. Grief is such an strange thing – there is no one right way.
    Sending hugs.

  303. Renee

    Dear Deb, Deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your Dad. He sounded like a very proud Father and Zaydie. If cooking gives you comfort at this awful time then go for it. Grieve in your own way. Know he will always be with you smiling down when you prepare his favourite dishes, and that will make him feel closer to you. Wishing you peace and comfort. Please know your loyal readers will be here whenever you are ready to post again. Take care. Sending you hugs from Canada.

  304. Laura Pishnak-Sylvia

    Dearest Deb:
    I’m so sorry for your loss. I have lost my dad too. I was a Daddy’s girl and miss him still every single day. May your heart heal with the many wonderful memories your Dad left you. Blessings to you and your family.
    Respectfully,
    Laura

  305. I am one of those people that comes and goes, loving your recipes and your amazing humor, but rarely commenting. But I have to say that I am very sorry for your loss. Your father looks like my father looked, and he died at the same age. So your story and pictures are taking me back to the time when I had to let him go. And I am reliving how hard that was. But your loss is yours, unique. And now you are going through that very hard journey. I am so so sorry.

  306. Amy Goldstein

    Sorry for your family’s loss. I am one of thousands who love the stories about your whole family along with your recipes.

  307. My condolences and what a wonderful tribute you wrote to your father. You must deeply miss him….hold those beautiful memories close to your heart forever. And keep cooking even if your not “supposed” to. Based on what you said about your dad, he’d probably tell you the same. ❤️

  308. Penny

    So sorry to hear this. I know exactly how it feels to lose a much loved father. And there’s absolutely no rules about what you are ‘supposed to do’ or not do. Would your dad want you to sit there doing nothing? Of course not. My thoughts are with you.

  309. Anne Allgood

    Please accept my heartfelt condolences. FOOD IS LOVE. You are contributing to an ongoing legacy. Your dad lives on in you, and yours. Still, I’m so sorry, as this will change your life and perceptions….. keep cooking, and eating, and sharing. Much love to you all.

  310. Dear Deb,
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for sharing some memories of your dad with all of us. Do what you need to do find comfort in the coming days. Be infinitely kind to yourself. Please tell us more stories if it feels good to do it. I hope you know that you are surrounded by hundreds of strangers who care about you from afar and wish that you and your family weren’t suffering.

    May your father’s memory always bring blessings to you.

  311. Sandy

    Deb,
    Please accept my condolences. Your description of your father is wonderful — how lucky you were to have him as your father.

  312. What a love letter to your Dad. I miss mine still, and it has been 23 years now. However the wonderful memories are strong, and I feel myself “channeling” my Dad from time to time because he never met a stranger. He was a meatcutter by trade, like his father before, and they ran a small meat market in a neighborhood grocery store. Good memories. Good food. Lots of love.

  313. Usha

    My condolences to you & your family. I lost my father 9 months ago. I thank God for having given me such a wonderful father & I’m sure your’s was too. May the wonderful memories of him comfort you always.

  314. nomadzz

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace and may you always have beautiful memories of him and your time together.
    Hugs to you from a stranger on the internet (but who feels like she knows you!)

  315. Angie

    What a lovely father! I am so sorry for your loss too. He had reason to be proud, and it’s clear you do of him too. Thinking of you at this hard time.

  316. stuofnankinchowmien

    Condolences. Sorry, and just before Passover. The seders will be sad affairs, but, hold on to the memories of past joyous seders and what he contributed to them. The family he and your mother began and nurtured grew and flourished and he was proud….hold onto that…see what is around you at the seders and THAT is his legacy.

  317. Zahava

    So very, very sorry for your loss. Your post provides a sweet and loving glimpse of your Dad and the special relationship it is obvious the two of you enjoyed. May his memory always be a comfort to you and your entire family. Sending love and comforting thoughts your way.

  318. Olivia

    Dearest Deb—Somehow, I knew something was wrong as I watched all the Food 52 activity and you were, of course, not with us.
    My deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved Dad. Thinking of your family—old and young and in between—during these unbearable, sad days 💔

  319. Char

    Dearest Deb,

    Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your father, SantaDad. It sucks and it’s not fair–I tear up reading your lovely tribute to him! It is clear your dear SantaDad blessed you, your Mom, and the rest of your family and the world with his physical presence and was just needed for a higher calling.

    He will surely be a treasured source of laughter, memories, and inspirational cooks and bakes to come, which I hope give you and your family strength, warmth, and joy. You have a great community here and we all care about you tremendously, and hopefully can be some light for you as you are for us.

    Sincerely,
    Char

  320. Nechama Kaufman

    Fellow lurker here. Ever since I found your site it has been my go-to for any time I make a dinner party and want to impress my guests. I have never been disappointed by a recipe and have never failed to be entertained (and made hungry) by your stories and descriptions. Your father was right to be proud of you. Baruch dayan emmet – sending you condolences from a grateful foodie in Jerusalem. May his memory bring you joy and may you know no more sorrow

  321. topfuziel

    Deb, Thanks for sharing your wonderful memories of your dad. As daughters, I think there is nothing more precious than to have your dad be proud of you. My dad passed away 14 years ago just this week, right before Passover, and remembering his comments about how proud he was of me still brings a smile to my face and a warm feeling in my heart. So many of your memories of your dad are bound up in your cooking….two things you love so much! I’m sure you will keep him alive in the eyes of your children through relating so many of your fond memories. My sincere condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.

  322. I am so sorry for your loss. My das passed away 9 Years ago in Two weeks. How great that you have such fond memories of him. I hope you can cherish and Share them with your kids as Time goes by. So sorry.

  323. breakthruadvisor

    Oh Deb, I’m so sorry. As a longtime lurker here, this is my first comment. Your dad sounds like a mensch. I’m so sorry for your loss. Right now and forever, ignore all of the grave concern over typos. We’re reading (and cooking) anyway. Sending you and your family love and good vibes.

  324. Mary Tedesco

    Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. I can feel the love in how you wrote about him. You have cherished memories that will live on in your heart forever. Condolences to you and your family.

  325. Rebeca

    I’m so sorry, Deb. I loved reading about your dad, it is obvious your relationship is a beautiful one. Take care of yourself as you need to, and if cooking helps, go for it.
    Much love to you and your family.

  326. Melanie Carvalho

    So sorry for your loss. From your writing he sounded like he was a hoot. Loosing a parent is hard and it will leave a hole that nothing can fill. Not even really good food.

  327. Betty

    Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a horrible time for you right now – keep cooking and hug your little ones tight.
    I’m also married to a Santadad. Confirmed when, walking through an Italian village, we heard a chorus of ‘Jingle Bells’ from a group of lurking adolescents.
    Much sympathy and love.

  328. Marion Garteiser

    My sincere condolences Deb. I do remember your Dad’s presence in the comments and I am sorry for your loss.

  329. Adrienne

    So very sorry to read about your Dad. He sounds like such a nice person and one who would have been fun to meet. You are so lucky to have had him in your life as long as you did.

  330. Helena Mouta

    I am so sorry, Deb. You had a good Dad, and that makes it all the harder, although less good Dads are also difficult to lose. I would know, having lost my own, imperfect but also in many ways wonderful Dad over 15 years ago. I understand why you feel better busy and, in particular, in the kitchen, sharing his favorites with the people who loved him. I’ll be right here waiting for you to share them with us as well, when you’re ready.

  331. So very sad for your loss. Remember the good moments, they help ease the pain. Keep on cooking, you are an amazing inspiration and a special part of my week. Thanks for sharing. Thinking of you.

  332. Pat C

    I’m so sorry for your lost Deb. I lost both parents between 2007 and 2009. They were one month shy of 60 years of marriage. 6 kids, laughs around the kitchen table, great hugs that I still miss so much.
    Remember the good times. It helps. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

  333. Sally

    What a nice tribute to your dad. I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost both of my parents and as much faith as I have it’s so extremely heartbreaking.

    Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like you had a very very special dad and he has a special daughter,

    Sally

  334. lisacharterwellnessnet

    So sorry to hear this news ~ your Dad sounds amazing! Sending light and love in this period of transition for you all ~ Lisa

  335. Beth

    Deb, I’m very sorry to hear about your Dad’s passing. Sounds like he’s filled your life with many wonderful memories.

  336. Jill

    Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to hear this. I’m so sorry for your loss. What an incredibly lovely, loving post. Thank you for sharing him with us. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. May his memory be for a blessing.

  337. Beverly Voisinet

    So sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost my Mother earlier this month. Both of my parents are now passed on. I’m finding myself baking Italian cookies (fig cookies/sesame) and yes I’m Italian. I love to cook as you do. It’s an awesome way to reminisce about our parents/childhood. Wishing you comfort and peace.

    Beverly

  338. Ellen

    Deb, Thank you so much for letting us know. Losing a parent is a nearly universal experience, and yet the depth of the loss is so surprisingly stunning – how can something so ordinary be so horribly painful? Wishing you and your family all of the comforts you deserve at this difficult time.

    Ellen

  339. Jennifer Borish

    I’m sorry to hear about your great loss, Deb. Your father seemed so wonderful and I imagine your heart is very heavy with sadness. I know this Passover will be quite painful to endure without your father at the table. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

    Warmest Regards,

    Jennifer

  340. Donna

    My most sincere condolences Deb to you and your entire family.
    Be very, very grateful for what your Father gave to you, some of us were not nearly as fortunate.
    My heart goes out to your Mom and I wish her the comfort of knowing that others care.
    May he fly high, to watch and protect his loved ones from above as only a real Father can.

  341. Abby

    so sorry for your loss, Deb. Your Dad sounds so wonderful and I love how you describe your relationship with him. What a beautiful legacy he has left 💜

  342. Dear deb, such beautiful memories of your dad. Stay strong ! I am sure he is still watching you write in this space and will forever be proud of you and everything you do . Much love and hugs to you !

  343. Darlene Goldberg

    Dear Deb, I have been enjoying your blog and those wonderful recipes for years. I look forword to seeing your email in my mailbox, like a letter from a friend. I’m sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    Darlene

  344. Lynn C Spector

    So sorry Deb! He sounds like a wonderful person. Losing a parent is so hard. The pain does lessen in time and the happy memories will sustain you. You have my sincere sympathy. Much love.

  345. Cindy Buck

    My dad died in December, and your dad sounds so much like my dad I find it real easy to imagine how you feel right now, which is presumptuous, I know, but I’ll say this. I always would have guessed from the open-heartedness of your site and your writing and your work that you were a well-loved daughter, that you had one of the good fathers, because I know what it’s like to be a better person, every day, because my dad was behind me for 87 years. Rest in peace, SantaDad. You did good work.

  346. carolinagirl41

    What a sweet and lovely tribute to your beloved dad, dear Deb. He surely was softly smiling as he watched over your shoulder as you wrote it.

    I cannot express to you how very sorry I am for you losing someone who was so very dear to you – you expressed your loss beautifully and we could feel the love and sorrow in your heartfelt words.

    Your dad is proud and satisfied that you are forming his legacy and what a wonderful legacy it is.

  347. Linnie Weiss

    So sorry for your loss, and for your family’s loss, too. After all this time, I feel, vicariously, like a light has gone out, too. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  348. leighbelleking

    Condolences Deb from across the oceans. I don’t comment much, but love your recipes (and so do my two daughters) and we have your books, or at least the first one. Don’t think the latest one has made it to South Africa yet. This is the end of a chapter for you and your family and your life will never be quite the same, but time will heal. My dad died a few days short of my parents’ 25th wedding anniversary and that was 40 years ago. As they say in this part of the world, sterkte! (strength)

  349. Rebecca Ti

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family at this difficult time.

    It sounds like your father was a true mensch. May his memory be a blessing.

  350. jsevenich

    Oh, Deb, I am so very sorry. I lost my dad 11 years ago, and not a day goes by that I don’t think of him. Blessings to you and your family as you grieve. My heart goes out to you.

  351. Dahlink

    Condolences to your entire family, Deb, on the loss of your beloved father. Those we love so deeply never really go away. I hope it comforts you to know that he could not have had a better daughter.

  352. Dolores

    I am so very sorry to hear your bad news, and I will keep your lovely family, esp your dear Mom, in my heart.
    It’s a very hard loss to have to accept.

  353. Corissa

    Wonderful tribute (and I also usually spend such times in the kitchen). I am so sorry for your loss. I know you don’t know me, but I’m keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

  354. I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve never written to anyone on a site before however,I was so touched by what and how you wrote about your dad. You shared your feelings in a way that made me feel,as you always have,that I know you personally. I also totally relate to your cooking frenzy-I did the same when my father died. It sounds like a myriad of wonderful memories will bring you comfort!!

  355. Emily

    So very sorry to hear of your loss; he must’ve been a wonderful man. Baruch dayan ha’emet. May his memory be a blessing.

  356. Elizabeth

    What a wonderful remembrance, which probably only scratches the surface of the many memories that will keep your dad in a warm place in your heart. You and your family have my deepest condolences.

  357. Gaby

    What a beautiful tribe to your father. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and by the sounds of it the world’s loss of this wonderful man.

  358. Paula Lefkowitz

    I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing. I lost my dad 12 years ago and I miss him every dad. Thank G-d you have so many many wonderful memories to keep in your heart and pass on to your children.

  359. Lauren

    What a blessing to have such a wonderful man in your life. Sounds like a wind we ful father and friend. So sorry for this news. Thank you for sharing a bit of him with us.

  360. dlrreads

    May his memory be a blessing. A good guy for a daddy is a wondrous experience. May the fondest recollections comfort you and yours.

  361. Kathe Lieber

    Condolences, Deb. Your father sounds like a real mensch. I will think of him, and my own Dad, as I make your recipes, and others.

  362. Dear Deb, I hope the day comes quickly that the memories of your father bring smiles to replace the tears. And I hope for myself that my child remembers me with the love you have for your Dad.

  363. Pascale

    I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. Your dad probably taught you not to accept hugs from strangers, but I’m sending you one anyway.
    *huuuuuuuug*

  364. Stephen Piorkowski

    Sorry about your dads passing . I was fortunate to be be the cook and baker in my family. Our family both Polish and Hungarian drove me to preserve our history by cooking and baking all the family dishes that I grew up to enjoy. My mom passed on before my father and I spent sharing what I learned from my mom so he had comfort in his final years. In that time I became a chef and baker.

  365. So sorry for your loss. I think cooking is perfectly fine, life does go on, and people need comfort food. I remember eating the most decadent chocolate cake, loaded with sweetened condensed milk, topped with whipped cream, and crushed Heath bars, after my Grandmother’s funeral, the best part of a sad day.

  366. Peggy

    Deb,
    Sorry for your loss. If cooking and baking bring you happy memories of your Dad and make this difficult time easier for you then you are doing what you should.

  367. Selma

    What a great tribute to a special gentleman..I love your site and tried many of your recipies. I am very touched about hearing about your Dad and his involvement via comments etc in your site…RIP
    best regards
    Selma

  368. Carrie

    Deb, so very sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like a pretty special guy. Wishing you find comfort in these wonderful memories.

  369. vabeeman

    I like good eggs. I did not meet your dad but feel your words made me feel like I should have. I hope you always remember the positive times.

  370. Alison Weiss

    So sorry for you and your family’s loss. May his memory always be for a blessing.

    I did figure the early year post regarding future grandchildren had to be your parents. While the memories are still fresh, write down as many “stories “ about your dad. I would suggest creating a Grandpa book for your two children, complete with pictures.

    Israelis cover their graves with Rosemary; scent memories last the longest. I find cooking with Rosemary always is comforting and helps me connect with a loved one who has passed.

  371. Phyllis

    Dear Deb,
    So sorry for your loss, followed you for years and feel a kinship with your family. I know that he, as all of us are proud of your accomplishments.

    Keep cooking, he will still be your best critic.

    All good memories.

  372. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss…Dad’s are amazing friends, mentors and quiet (or sometimes not so quiet) instigators of fun like backyard leaf fights…..cherish all the wonderful memories, for they will live in your heart forever.

  373. MED

    Deb – I’m a longtime reader, you feel like a friend to me and I am so sorry for the loss of you father. He sounds like an incredible, warm person who was endlessly proud of you. You are in my thoughts.

  374. Laura Jackson

    Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the hard as well as the joyful, and I so respect how you are making the hard joyful too.

    — One more Laura

  375. Nicole

    Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. You do what you need to do to get through these difficult times. Everyone’s grief journey is different. Allow your self the time to remember and be sad…your family will be in my prayers.

  376. Em

    Dear Deb,

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for making this spot joyful, while keeping it true to life.

    Much love,
    Em

  377. Coriander

    I am very sorry for you and your loving family, dear woman, so sorry indeed. I love hearing about men who are or were great fathers, it’s one of the very best things a man can ever be.

  378. Judith Carlisle

    Deb,

    So sorry for your loss. May his memory be for a blessing.
    Honoring loved ones through cooking is a lovely way to celebrate a life. I always make my mom’s chocolate lace cookies and share them.

  379. Lauren

    This is a lovely tribute! I wish I had known your dad, he sounds like an awesome guy. Hug hug hugs and love from Indiana.

  380. My tremendous sympathy dear, and prayers for all who miss him to find peace in their hearts. What a blessing he seems to have been in your life – so glad you have so many fond memories to sustain you.

  381. Martha H

    I have been a big follower of your blog for years but I have never left a comment. I love your recipes and make many, often.
    I would also like to express my condolences on the loss of your dad. I hope your days of healing are filled with wonderful memories.

  382. Marla

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your father must’ve been wonderful since he helped to make you. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.

  383. Catherine

    Losing a parent sucks, I am so sorry Deb. It sounds like you got a lot of your verve and voice from him so he lives on but I know that’s little consolation. Sending you, your mom and everyone else lots of good thoughts. And keep cooking. It helps with the grief.

  384. Ptriez

    Saying a prayer for you. Losing a parent is hard, very hard. All those questions that you remember are still unanswered. But happy that you have so many wonderful memories. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.

  385. Kimiko

    I’m s sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. Keep cooking and sharing these wonderful memories of this wonderful man. There isn’t a right or wrong way to do this. Sending you and yours live and light.

  386. Deb,
    May love cup your heart. May the memories live on and keep him alive within you. You shared a most remarkable journey together. You wonder why the grass still grows and he is not here… but he is Everywhere. And always, there will be many. Reminder of your life with your Dad at every turn you take. Enjoy the cooking ,the baking , the desserts he enjoyed, commented on and ravished. For that is sacred.
    And thank you for sharing all that you do….
    With much love,
    Lauren

  387. poolejenn

    This post kicked me right in the gut. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Sounds like they didn’t come sweeter or more supportive than him.

  388. Becky

    So sorry for your loss Deb. I’m glad it sounds like you are mourning in community and I hope you’ll let others cook for you as well. I also hope they make your recipes because they are always such a comfort to others (and because they are the best :).

  389. Kelley

    Hey Deb – I’ve followed this blog for several years, but don’t believe I’ve ever commented. I wanted to wish you joy in the warmth of all your wonderful memories of your Dad and lots of good healing kitchen time. So sorry for your loss.

  390. What a wonderful tribute, Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss. How lucky you are to have such great memories. Cooking is the perfect therapy.
    (As a side note, I love your latest cookbook and renewed it from the library 4 times. Now I have to buy my own copy).

  391. Joan D’Elia

    I am so sorry for your loss – you Dad sounds like a wonderful man. Keep all of those memories close to your heart. You will find yourself think of him at the strangest times or when you least expect it. You are your father’s daughter! He will be with you always! And good for you f

  392. Theodora

    I’m so terribly sorry for your loss Deb. I lost my beautiful mother 6 months ago so I get what you must be going through. He sounds like a wonderful man.

  393. Betsy Payne Watson

    My sympathies to you and your family in regards to your father’s death. He will live on in the memories that you will continue to share with your readers. His passing is a huge loss so take time to grieve as this is a process we all must go through with the death of loved ones.

  394. Marcia Greenberg

    Deb, so sorry about your Dad. Sounds like he was a great guy. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Marcia

  395. Nancy

    Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. The blessing of a good father (& grandfather) is a gift for life.

  396. Marsha Milstock

    Dear Deb;
    I am truly sorry for your loss and the pain that you and your family are going through.
    Such beautiful photos, and memories.
    May you have no more sorrows,
    With love and hugs
    Marsha

  397. Margaret DeCook

    Love to you and your family. Thank you for sharing these stories about your dad . Made me wish he lived next door

  398. Sarah F

    I never comment here but adore your website. You write with such candor and humor – and generally make us all feel good about daily life. It sounds like your father was the same way – what a gift! You were lucky to have him and we’re lucky to have you. May he Rest In Peace.

  399. Christina

    What a wonderful tribute to your father. I’m so sorry for your loss. As you cook his favorites, may you always be reminded of all your wonderful memories with your father.

  400. shewearsboots

    Oh Deb. I’m so sorry to hear of this loss. What a moving, loving tribute you leave here. I’ll add my voice to the chorus of folks who are holding you in the light, and keeping you and your family firmly in our hearts.

  401. Suzanne from Toronto

    May his memory be for a blessing. And may your beautiful memories comfort you now and always, in your sorrow.

  402. Candy

    Deb,
    I echo all the comments here. A terrible loss. I can see the love in his eyes for you and his zest for life in the photos you posted.

    I still miss my Dad.
    He’s been gone a long time, but I always feel he is near.

    I hope that the memories of your wonderful Dad will sustain you in these sad times.

  403. Sara

    Deb,
    Your dad sounds like a wonderful person. I’m sending you & your family kind thoughts.

    Thank you for all the recipes ,
    Sara

  404. Alison

    I am so sad to read of your father’s passing. Your memories that you shared of him in your post bought a smile (and some tears) to my face – he sounds like a truly wonderful man, who will be missed, and remembered fondly.

  405. Kathy Ross

    So sorry for the loss of your “SantaDad”; losing a parent is so difficult. I will think of him when I enjoy the eggplant Parmesan recipe (that is suspect will follow) and know that this and other happy memories will warm your and our hearts as time passes.

  406. whitneymiller2009

    What a lovely tribute to your dad <3 Wishing your family some comfort as you make your way through this loss.

  407. Carol Diamond

    Dear Deb,
    So sorry for your loss! My husband recalls as a child coming downstairs during the Christmas season to find his father in a Santa Claus suit. He could never quite understand why a nice Jewish father would do such a thing. I think it’s Christmas envy, and Jewish guilt over not having a holiday that could seemingly hold a candle to Christmas. Whatever it is, it is one of those things kids never forget. I enjoyed reading your memories, and you are so lucky to have those.

  408. Donna M

    I wish I’d met him in the grocery store to gush right along about you and your beautiful site. I’m so sorry, what a lovely dad to have. Wishing you well in the days to come.

  409. So very sorry about your Dad. I can tell he was very proud of you and was a loving presence in your life. I really like how you are honoring him here in this post and sharing something about him with us, who go through the same things and are about more than recipes. Sending some good wishes to your whole family.

  410. Sheila

    Deb I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad was an amazing dad to you. You have been richly blessed to have a man who loved you and directed your path. Many daughters do not have a father to share moments you shared with us. Grief is a hard path to walk at time but know the memories will comfort you in the years ahead!

  411. davises88

    ברוך דיין האמת
    May his memory always be for a blessing. I am so sorry for your loss and can only wish that happy memories of time spent together sustain you and your family at this time—and in the years to come.

  412. Anna

    Dear Deb I am so sorry for your loss. My father was born in 1937 and passed away in 2004. When we were kids, we hated going anywhere with him, because he talked to everybody. We used to tell him “Dad, these people aren’t interested. They just want to get on with doing their jobs.” But he kept at it and talked to the lady who took his blood (he was on bloodthinners for many years), the filling station owner, the barber…
    Turned out we were wrong. They all came to his funeral and years after told my mom how they still missed him. As do I.

  413. Valerie

    Thank you for sharing a small *flavour* of your beloved Dad’s personality with us…my most heartfelt sorrow is extended to you and your family xxx

  414. Marcy

    My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. It will be a different and difficult Pesach this year but I hope that special memories will comfort you during this sad time. And if cooking and baking offer you solace – go for it. Grief presents itself in many ways. Just remember that death ends a life, not a relationship. Baruch Dayan emet.

  415. Lots of love to you and your family, Deb. Big celebrations are tough to match up with loss, and if cooking helps, do it. I love the memories you’ve shared here. Hold on to those. Keep them warm in your heart. Tell them to your kiddos. Looking forward to reading more of them.

  416. Laurel Saltzman

    I am so sorry. My dad passed away in 2009 and I still think of him almost every day. Doesn’t matter if you expected it or not, it’s not any easier. The whole first year after he died I’d have sudden moments of being cranky and sad and didn’t know why. Then I would realize I was missing my dad. Things I didn’t expect would cause it. My deepest condolences to you. It’s so good you have good memories of him. It helps a lot. Time does heal.

  417. andreacohenharris

    Dear Deb,
    May you always have sweet memories of your father. Wishing you all the best. I hope that your Seiter table it’s not too sad .

  418. mlmiller1020

    I’m sorry you are suffering the pain of losing your dad. As an elderly fan of yours I identified with the pride he felt from your accomplishments. You gave him the greatest happiness with your love, respect, grandchildren and food. It sounds like he lived a good life and you were a big part of that recipe.

  419. dobiedawn

    Deb, your tribute to your father shines with his joyfulness, humor, and love. May that halo of happiness brighten many days ahead for you. Sending wishes for comfort and a virtual hug your way.

  420. Linda Carlson

    My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family, Deb. I lost my Dad suddenly April 1, 1993. For you, this first year will be full of “first occasions” without your Dad celebrating with the family, but gives everyone the opportunity to relive those events when he was present. It is bittersweet while giving Anna especially, collective family memories. His spirit will be with you all.
    Instead of traditional funeral flowers, a dear friend arranged for a pear tree to be planted, and one for my twin sister. She said, “Whenever you look at this tree, you will remember the good times, and a smile will embrace your face.” Every year on April 1st, hers bloomed as if Dad was right there hugging her.

  421. Renee

    Oh Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. But I am so glad that you had a wonderful father and I know that you will cherish the memories.

  422. Kate

    You bring so much light into people’s lives. I can’t imagine how proud your dad was of you and how much joy Jacob and Anna brought him. May his memory be for a blessing.

  423. Lindsey G

    So sorry for your loss. I hope you know that reading your sweet words about him shows all of us just how much love you two shared. Hugs.

  424. Such a beautiful tribute to your dad. I lost both of my parents in my late 20s and early 30s and it is just a horrible time. So glad you have your mom and sister to be with and it just takes time to find your new normal.

  425. Debbie Mix