My dad passed away last week. You might have known him here as SantaDad. He took great delight in that nickname, which came from an early story about how confusing as a kid I found the pictures of my dad on a fire truck dressed as Santa Claus as a) we are Jewish; and b) everyone knows Santa Claus comes down a chimney, duh. I realize this doesn’t make it any less head-scratching and I’ve decided to not even try to clear it up.
My dad loved commenting here. He would joke about how rude it was for me to leave the last slice of a cake at their house when he was trying to watch his Weight Watchers points. He’d ask me to try to get my mom to try a recipe that looked good. If I mentioned an article or a side project here, I’d get a “Nobody ever tells me nuthin!” When there was something in The Boston Globe, he complained about all the Red Sox ads they ran alongside the article. He’d correct things I remembered wrong, such as the cherry tree in the backyard, which I remembered fondly, and he remembered as a battle with squirrels and birds that would eat all the cherries if you didn’t pick them in the first hour they appeared. He’d leave reviews of recipes they tried, always enthusiastic (the best latkes he ever had, a 7-layer cake Grandpa Joe would be proud of). He jokingly threatened to disown me when I called making bagels anything short of my greatest cooking triumph, and then he found his reading glasses and apologized. He’d fill me in on the news of the day, such as the fact that our dental hygienist was a lurker on the site and wanted to know if I could do more kosher recipes.
He was a good egg. This past weekend would have been my parents 50th anniversary. We talk here about engagements and weddings and babies and first days of school and birthdays and cocktails and dinner parties and holidays all of the cakes we ate to celebrate them — it’s easier when it’s good news. But my dad liked this space (while expressing grave concern over typos, just like you), he was proud of my work (if you, a total stranger, made it 5 minutes into a conversation with him at the grocery store or a bank and he didn’t bring it up, well, I don’t believe you), and I know this site was brighter with him in it.
I’ve been cooking a lot this week. I’m probably not “supposed” to be, but I’m happier when I stay busy. I made this mushroom soup and the marble cake from my second cookbook. I made my our family’s chocolate chip sour cream coffee cake — twice. My sister made the noodle kugel that my mom says she married my dad just to get the recipe for. And I just pulled out of the oven my first massive casserole of eggplant parmesan — something my dad always liked, but that endlessly perplexes me. More on that and many of his other favorites, soon.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful and delightful human being, and the world is paler without him in it. Sending my best to your family – may his memory be a blessing.
Oh, Deb, I am so terribly sorry for your loss.
Hi Lora, I’m also Lora. This is exactly what I was going to say so I’ll let you say it and just say ditto and…Lots of love to you, Deb.
I share your name (although a different spelling), and your words as well.
In addition: Deb, I am sorry that your children have lost one of their grandfathers. I hope that Jacob will remember his loving “Santa Grandpa” (?), and I regret that Anna probably will not… although you will, I’m sure, give her photos of the two of them together that she will treasure as she gets older.
Be kind to yourself. Grief is hard, and it hits in unexpected ways.
From another Laura, Deb, I am so sorry for what you’re going through. Your stories of his delight in your work and fun playing on this site made me smile and tear up at the same time. I’m glad you are still cooking. Love to all of your family.
Deb –
I’m replying on this particular thread because I’m another Laura!
I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away in December. A few things I’ve learned in the last month if you are willing to let me share:
There is no “supposed to” how this works. If you feel like cooking, cook your ass off. I know that having to make food for my family (everyone still has to eat!) kept me going in those early days. I also learned that it gets easier, then harder, then harder still, the easier. It’s a roller coaster – and not one you asked to get on! Remember you are not alone, but that means remembering to ask for what you need in your time of grief. You might not know what that is yet. Just take it one day at a time and give and receive lots of hugs.
Jumping on the L[o|au]r* train here to also express my condolences. When my dad passed away in 2011, I found myself making his favorite foods. When I eat city chicken, goulash, or baked pork chops, I always feel him with me in a way and it is a great comfort. Best wishes for you and your family; take care of yourselves and each other. <3
Didn’t realize that it would show my username instead of my actual name, which is Lauren. :)
Adding to the Laura train… I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. I rarely comment on here although I have been a faithful reader and recipe-maker for years. In fact all of my favorite recipes — and my family’s favorites — seem to come from your blog. But I digress… The anniversary of my father’s death happens to be today, March 27th, so when I saw this post I felt I had to leave you a message. Our dads are so special to us. My heartfelt condolences to you.
And this LAUR(en) (who has never posted anything before) is also sending the warmest, most heart-felt condolences to you and your family.
I love that this site that you have created with your whole heart, lends itself to now be a place that has captured the spirit of your father, his words, his jokes, his likes… You’ve created far more than a few recipes, Deb. You’ve created a space filled with comfort and love… and memories of your dearest dad. XO
LAUR(ie) here, adding my condolences as above. I was my dad’s favorite – even my sister admitted it. The memories get sweeter as the years go by.
Hi Deb, Lauren here. My heart breaks for you – after years of reading SK, I feel like you and your family are close friends. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man, and I hope your many warm memories with him ease your grief. Love, Lauren
Grief is one of those unimaginable journeys that are just plain hard. Do whatever is best for you. If you have a moment I highly recommend listening to the Cheryl Sandberg and Katie Curic podcast on grief. It is one of the most honest and helpful conversations I’ve ever heard about grief. Sending lots of love!
I saw this news on social media, and I immediately showed the picture to my husband and said, “Oh, no, SantaDad!” Blank stare from him, but he came around soon enough. So sorry for your loss.
Geoff/Ra?
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family Deb. Try to think of the good memories during the down days.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You have some wonderful memories, and memories about recipes,and I hope they will be a comfort to you.
I am so sorry for you and your family. May you find peace in his passing, instead of sorrow and loss.
My condolences for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man.
I’m so sorry Deb. This is a hard time. I loved your post, and sounds like your dad would have been honored to be featured. You don’t know me, but I feel like I know you and just know I’m thinking of you and your family.
What a beautiful, loving piece – he sounds like an awesome dad, and a wonderful man. I’m glad staying busy is working for you right now – all my love and sympathy to you and yours.
I’m so sorry, Deb. Thank you for sharing with us the little bits of your dad in these stories, and the so much of him that is, no doubt, in you. I hope you can find comfort in your family, your memories, and your cooking. <3
My heartfelt condolences, Deb.
I’m so, so sorry, Deb. Thinking of you and your family <3
Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking and praying for you and your family.
Hugs, Deb. Heart you much.
So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing – clearly, it already is. I love the idea of keeping family members alive through their recipes – I still have recipe cards with my grandmothers’ handwriting on them and they live through those cards and through the food I feed my children.
May his memory be for a blessing. Hope the support of family and friends will be a comfort to you. And I’m sure you’ll all have favorite stories and memories of your Dad to share around the seder table at the end of the week.
So very sorry for your loss, Deb.
Dear Deb:
I’m so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing father, grandfather, and husband. Thinking of you and your whole family. May his memory be a blessing and bring you comfort.
What special thoughts and memories of your Father! I too was blessed with a special Dad. Hold all those memories close – he will never leave you.
So sorry for this huge loss, Deb. He was obviously a super special person. Sending you love as you mourn the loss and celebrate his life.
So sorry for your loss.
So very sorry for your loss.
What lovely memories you share. With the passing of a parent, that’s all we can hope for, is the happy to rise up from all of the confusion and sadness. Cooking is a wonderful therapy and I loved reading about your reminiscing today. Hugs to you and yours.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have so many wonderful memories!
So sorry for your and your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing these memories with us.
Deb and family – I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds wonderful and your memories will be a comfort. We will help pick you up when you’re back here. Take care. Be well.
As a long time reader of the blog in its infancy before the comment section became enormous I remember the amusing santa dad comments and enjoying the daddy-daughter banter. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have some wonderful memories. Thank you for sharing.
Beautiful post and thank you for sharing. So very sorry for your loss. May these touching memories provide comfort now and in the future.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an increible human. May the memories you carry in your heart give you comfort even in your grief.
I’m So sorry for your loss- will keep your family in my thoughts
That is a hard loss for us girls. Our dads are forever special. Remember the good things (it sounds like they are numerous!!). I agree with the staying busy… whatever works for you.
Wishing you peace and comfort.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sending love.
Condolences to your mom, you and the rest of your family. What a beautiful tribute to your (Santa) dad.
Dear Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad will live on in your hearts with good memories. Nothing can probably heal the pain, but just feel what you feel and don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel. Hugs to you and the family. Hope your kids are okay too. :/
I’m so sorry.
I’m so very sorry for your loss Deb. Your father sounds like a wonderful person, and it’s lovely that he was such a strong supporter of you.
I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Echoing what others have said: My deepest condolences for your loss – he definitely sounds like he was a good egg indeed. Thank you for sharing these sweet insights into your personal world. We are all here holding space and love for you and yours.
I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you so much for sharing a little bit of him with us. May g-d comfort your family.
So very sorry for your loss, Deb.
Deb, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like an amazing person and I can tell in your poignant tribute to him that he meant the world to you. I send my most heartfelt condolences to you and your family at this difficult time.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Your words about your father are so beautiful. I loved how proud he was of you and your brilliant site that we all love so much. X
For Christmas many years ago, my dad bought me your cookbook. He said it looked beautiful and he knew I would love it. I have made many of your recipes over the years. My dad passed away 7 months ago. There’s nothing to say in the first few weeks excerpt THIS SUCKS! I had many people say “I wish I could say t gets easier, but it doesn’t”. That’s a lie. I don’t know why so many people said that to me but 7 months later I can deffinitely say it gets better and it gets easier. I feel like I have a different relationship with him now. I am almost closer with him than before because I have much more honest conversations with him than I ever did when he was alive. I hope the kind words people say help you, as they did me.
Deb, I am sorry for the loss of your dad and hope all of your fond memories help you and your family through this difficult time. And thank you for sharing your feelings with us . Smitten Kitchen is much more than a cooking website , it’s a community and one that cares deeply for you and yours .
THIS. I’ve never met you or your dad, but that didn’t stop me from getting goosebumps when I saw this post. So sorry for your loss, Deb. We may not be there to offer our hugs, but we truly do care.
Ditto to the above posts.
I hope having the posts to remind you of his overt gestures of love, support, and pride help to sooth your pain at least a bit. Continue to share stories and in that way he will forever be part of your life!
I am so sorry for your loss, Deb. You dad sounds like he was a GREAT egg. Thank you so much for writing about your special bond. I hope that you focus on the love that you shared and what a special person he was during those times when it’s hard to get up in the morning in a world without him. The love and support of your beautiful family as well as your incredible drive to make beautiful meals will help you chug along when times are tough. Also, your devoted fans always have your back… myself included, of course!
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like your greatest cheerleader. I lost my dad 19 years ago today, so your post caught my attention instantly. His pride in you was certainly justified. Keep making him proud. This space brings so many others great joy too.
Deb,
So very sorry to hear your sad news.
I’m so sorry to hear this. Love to you and your family.
My condolences to you and your family! Loss is hard – sending love!
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Deepest sympathy
Deb, So very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. What a beautiful and loving piece about him. He sounded like an amazing person. Sending my best to your and your family.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. This was a lovely dedication to SantaDad. It’s quite obvious why he was so proud of you.
Deb, I’m very sorry for your loss. One of the hardest things to deal with is the loss of one’s Dad. You now have an angel watching over you that you can talk to anytime you want. Hugs.
So sorry for your loss, Deb. I can picture the type of man he was by your quick description and he sounds like someone I would be fond of. Thinking of you and your family.
When my grandfather passed away my aunt said this to me and it brought me some comfort, hoping it can do the same for you:
“Help me, God, to make memory into blessing. While accepting the inevitability of death, and affirming the possibility of an afterlife, help me be inspired by the memory to live today and every day with greater compassion, honesty, consecrating purpose, and gratitude.”
This is really beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Cooking definitely has therapeutic effects, there are much worse outlets for grief. Sending love and light to you and all his loved ones. 💜
My condolences on your loss, I lost my father as well last week. I am so glad you have all those wonderful memories to rely on during this time. Please give my best to your family as well. Keep cooking- no one should judge anything you do as you adjust to this change. We all need to give grace to each other instead of judging their actions.
I’m so sorry for your loss, as well! It is a hard time, but don’t give up!
Condolences to you and your family. Sending hugs from St. Croix, Virgin Islands.
What a grand tribute to your dad. Makes me feel I knew him a little. Thank you for sharing and know that this community mourns with you. Food equals memory. Cook to your hearts content, girlfriend. And if you shed a tear or two while doing so, consider it much needed salt in your creation. Be well.
Oh, Deb, I’m terribly sorry :(
Dear Deb – I am so sorry you lost your beloved father. I wish I had run into him in the grocery store to hear him go on about you. When my father died two years ago, I came upon this poem, which brought me some small comfort. It’s by the poet Diana Der-Hovanessian.
SHIFTING THE SUN
When your father dies, say the Irish
you lose your umbrella against bad weather.
May his sun be your light, say the Armenians.
When your father dies, say the Welsh
you sink a foot deeper into the earth.
May you inherit his light, say the Armenians
When your father dies, say the Canadians
you run out of excuses.
May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.
When your father dies, say the Indians
he comes back as the thunder.
May you inherit his light, say the Armenians.
When your father dies, say the Russians,
he takes your childhood with him.
May you inherit his light say the Armenians.
When your father dies, say the British,
you join his club you vowed you wouldn’t.
May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.
When your father dies, say the Armenians,
your sun shifts forever
and you walk in his light.
So beautiful.
My dad died 25 years ago. I try to walk in his light. Thank you for this poem. I hope it helps you too Deb.
So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.
What a wonderful tribute to him, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. It is terrible to lose a parent. I’m sure a missed anniversary was extremely hard for your family as well. I’m glad that the was here to meet your children and sorry that he will not be here to watch them continue to grow. He sounded like a great person.
Hugs to you. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man.
It sounds like he was a wonderful man. He must have been incredibly proud of you.
Deb I am thinking of you and your family and wishing you all well. I’m sorry for you loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Deb so sorry to hear this, but wierdly happy you concern us family to share this type of news with your readers. I will be praying for your family as you grieve!
Deb – your dad sounds like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing him with us! I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you find comfort in storytelling, family time, and of course, cooking. Sending you love and light during this difficult time. xoxo
Dear Deb,
My deepest and most heartfelt condolences for your loss. You have created such a wonderful little corner with this website and its no surprise that your father was so proud of your work. Sending my best.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Deb. Thinking of you and your family. Thank you for sharing such wonderful memories with us.
Sending hugs to help you and your family through these dark days. It sounds like you have lots of memories to light the way forward.
Deb – so sorry to hear your dad passed. It sounds like he was a great dad and a wonderful person in general. I feel your pain as my dad has passed too. I had 56 terrific years with him and now, 10 years later I can hardly believe I’ll never see him again. It’s a strange experience when you’re so close. But you will come to a peace with it, I hope it happens soon for you. And trust me, you’ll see him again in your dreams (a bonus). :^)
Deb, I am so sorry for your incredible loss. Take the time you need, we will be here when you return!
I’m sorry, deb. This sucks.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing such a lovely tribute. He’s sounds lovely.
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry. He sounds wonderful.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry about your Dad. He sounds like the best egg – jumbo xl with two yokes from free range chickens.
I’ve comforted many grieving friends by filling their freezers with your soups and countertops with your cookies. I hope you can find the same comfort in your food that so many others have done in similar times.
Ohhhh, reading this makes my heart ache. I’m so, so sorry. Sending love.
No words can make this easier for you. Just so terribly sorry for your loss – Cathy
I think whatever way you are grieving is the right way. I’m so sorry for your loss and please be kind to yourself. This will all still be here when you get back, whenever that may be. Love and light to your whole family in this time.
I read your post with tears in my eyes. Mom passed away a year ago and I still miss her, though doing “family” things brings back such a flood of good memories. Take care of yourself and your family, cherish that you had someone so special to love, and be loved by. PS I’m about to bake 3 ingredient peanut butter cookies- good for the soul!
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of your dad with us, he sounds like quite the character.
Dearest Deb,
Heartfelt consolences in the loss of your Dad. He sounds absolutely wonderful. You both were blessed. May time heal you and memories sustain you. We’ll be here when you’re ready. Peace.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending long distance love to you and your family.
Deb, I am so very, very sorry. Sending your whole family so much love.
I have no words that can console you. But others words often are more comforting. This poem has consoled me many times. Hope it consoles you too.
Our Roots are Intertwined
With their last breath those we love do not say good by, for love is timeless. Instead, they leave us a solemn promise that when they are finally at rest in God, they will continue to be present to us whenever they are called upon. Let us fear not, nor grieve beyond letting go the departure of those we have greatly loved, for in the Tree of Life their roots and ours are forever intertwined.
Prayer by Edward M. Hayes
I am so sorry for your loss and I hope his memory is always a blessing. Thank you for what you’ve always given us here, even today. ❤❤💔
I don’t want my comment to sound cliché, so please know I’m being 100% honest that I’m keeping you and your family in my deepest thoughts and prayers during this time.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I so enjoy your site, your recipes, your books and your Instagram. I hope you find some peace in your cooking and your memories. There’s no wrong way to grieve.
I am so sorry for your loss Deb.
What beautiful photos, and sweet memories. Sending condolences to you and your family. I hardly ever comment, but you’ve been teaching me how to cook for a decade! Thank you.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences. You and your family will be in my prayers. You have shared so much of your life with us, your loyal readers, that although you don’t know me (or us) I feel, like I am sure many others do, that I am almost a part of your family, or at least a very good friend. We are all here for you. We love and support you and wish you strength and comfort in this difficult time.
It made me miss my daddio to read about your love for yours. A good dad is a lifelong treasure. Thanks for sharing your heart here. Love to you and your family.
I know he was so proud of you, Deb. Thinking of you.
I’ve been a quiet follower for years now & have tried & continue to cook many of your recipes. Not only are your recipes delicious, but your blog is hilarious! My sincerest condolences for your loss. Hoping you find comfort in your memories of him & cooking for your loved ones. *virtual hugs*
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. He sounds like he was a wonderful man who loved you deeply.
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful supporter of you he was!
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Dads, especially loving and supportive dads, are wonderful people, and I’m sorry you’ve lost yours. Prayers for all of you.
Deb, I am so so sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a wonderful person. May his memory be a blessing and a source of joy in these hard times.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing about him today. And don’t you dare tell yourself you’re not “supposed” to be cooking; it is your journey of remembering and grieving and no one gets to tell you the best route.
I am so sorry to hear this news. Your heartfelt tribute was lovely to read. May you take comfort on all of the good times (and food!) you shared.
I’m very sorry to hear about your Dad, he sounds wonderful and I just wish I HAD gotten to chat with him at the grocery store. I’m sure it delighted him to talk to your many fans and hear how much we love you. Sending peace and light. It is very hard to lose your Dad ❤️
So so sorry for your loss Deb. May his memory be for a blessing.
Currently at 32, I lost my dad 2 years ago. I smile when I make recipes that I know he loved. You will always remember him through the food that made his heart sing..
Know that I’m thinking about you and sending you positive energy.
So sorry to hear this Deb. Sending you love, and please know that you have this beautiful online community supporting you. We’ll all miss SantaDad.
I always loved your dad’s comments. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. So much love to you and yours, Deb. ♡
Thank you for sharing some of your favorite memories of your dear dad. Wishing you and yours lots of peace, warm memories, and comfort during this sad time.
Lots of love to your family. What a beautiful honoring of your dad!!
This is such a lovely remembrance. Wishing you and your family comfort.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your memories of your dad and solace in the often-meditative work in the kitchen. In these times, it can provide the best escape from sorrow. Thinking of you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds just wonderful.
I sit here reading this while enjoying a crispy fried egg – a good egg, indeed. <3
Lots of love, Deb, to you and your family. What a touching tribute to him.
Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like he was an amazing father and an overall wonderful human being. My dad is also a fan of yours — we had a close call with him last May, and your matzo ball soup was the first thing I made for him when we got him home from the hospital… He calls it the elixir of life.
Thank you for sharing your life and grief with us. I’m sending you (and your family) love and comfort from Texas. ❤️
So truly sorry about your dad. My dad passed in May 2016 at age 69, but he held on just long enough to meet our third baby, Ezra Frank (Frank after my dad). Hugs to you, losing a parent (basically our biggest fans & the best grandparents) sux. 😭
thank you for sharing this sweet tribute! I’m so sorry for this great loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Reading your tribute to him brought commiseration tears to my eyes as I remembered the loss of my own father so many years ago. How lucky you were to live close to him and your mother!
Hugs to you and your family. What a wonderful space to have your dad’s daily musings about your work, and life!
Sad to read about your dad’s death. Dads are very special. I hope you can take comfort in knowing he loved you in his way.
Deb, thanks for sharing more about your dad. Sounds like a wonderful man and so proud of you.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know there’s nothing you’re “supposed” to do; just do what feels right. Wishing you comfort and peace. May his memory be a blessing.
Your dad was a friend and I miss him. We worked together at Learning Tree and I have many wonderful memories of him. I remember when he told me you were his daughter. He was so proud of you.
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family, Deb.
Thank you for sharing these memories…. your dad sounded like a great Santa to be around. All my condolences.
I did not think much about death until the death of my own father and then I realized life is more fragile than I ever realized. Now I know each day is a gift and should be treated that way, the bad with the good. Sending heartfelt wishes that your memories help to sustain you at this difficult time. xo
I am so sorry for your loss. What can I say as an orphan is: embrace all your good memories, take all the hugs you need from everyone you love. It will be okay someday. We are rooting for you always. Sending love from Brasil.
I’m so sorry Dear Deb for the loss of your Dad. I loved your post, and sounds like your dad would have been honored to be featured. Thinking and praying for you and your family.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like a wonderful man. How blessed you were to have him in your life. My dad passed away recently….I know the heartache you and your family are feeling. I pray the memories and love you shared with your dad are a comfort to you. He will be in your heart forever. Be well.
what a lovely post. Cooking can be healing. Lots of love and light to your family.
So incredibly sorry for your loss and all of the pain you and your family must be going through. Sending love from SF!
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. When I lost my grandfather, who was a father to me, I actually found cooking very helpful. I made the grapefruit cake in your first book for his funeral tea. And the ooey gooey butter cake, that turned out too gooey to serve in polite slices, so my family and I ate it out of the tin, sitting around the kitchen table. Food, and your recipes, helped. I’m thinking of you and your family at this very sad time. Sending you the warmest of wishes.
Deb, sending you much love as you remember him and grieve this loss. I feel like I know him, through these beautiful words and his presence on your site. Such a bright light. Thank you for sharing this reflection with us.
I knew your dad referred to himself as SantaDad, and I knew you are Jewish, but I never made the connection until now that that is actually quite hilarious! Goes to show what a fun-spirited man he was. In the photos it’s obvious that the three of you have the same eyes with the same twinkle. Peace to you and your family.
So very sorry for your loss. My mom died 11 months ago – just 3 months shy of my parents 60th wedding anniversary. Losing a parent is so incredibly hard. Sending you all my love during this time. Xo Deb
What a beautiful post about your beautiful Dad. I just made your roasted tomato soup. Take care of yourself.
I’m so sorry to hear this. When we lose our parents, even as adults, we lose our innocence and part of our childhood. May his memory be a blessing.
So sorry he sounds like a wonderful man
Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to read this! No matter what age we are our parents are, well, our parents, and so we mourn them when they leave us. Your writing is a tribute to him and to the love and respect you had for him.
Deb, So sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a very good egg. I hope you find that he keeps showing you his love for this site (and you) in your own special way.
Sending thoughts and hugs to your whole family. Thank you for sharing a bit of your delightful father with all of us.
Deb, I am so, so sorry. I would say may his memory be a blessing but I know that it already is to you all.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Cook away if it makes you happy and feel closer to your dad, it sounds like he would appreciate it!
Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Oh I’m so sorry, Deb. I hope you find all sorts of comfort, love, and memories in days, weeks, and years that pass. Thank you for sharing your life here!
Deb. I’ve never commented here. But this site and your books bring me great joy. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m holding you and your family in the light.
I am so so sorry. It hurts I know. My dad was my biggest fan and losing him is my biggest loss. Your memories really did humanize him for me. A great one. Carry that always.
How lucky to have such wonderful memories! God Bless you both.
So, so very sorry for your loss. xo
I’m sorry for your loss!
There’s never an easy time to lose a parent. What a joy that you, your family, and your children got to love and be loved by such a good man.
I am so sorry for your loss.
This post about your Father both saddened and delighted me. I loved the inflection of joy and happiness you put into your reminiscences of your Dad and his interactions here on your blog. I am deeply saddened by your tremendous loss…
My thoughts and prayers to you and yours!
Big hugs from Vermont!
Dear Deb, I’m so very sorry for your loss. As many others have already said, this is a lovely, authentic tribute to a man that you clearly adored (and he, you). I hope that the outpouring of support from this virtual community brings some element of comfort as you navigate the days ahead. Much love and light to you and yours.
Deepest condolences on your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man. :)
So sorry for your loss. May your dad RIP
My condolences- I am so sorry. You have brought me nothing but happiness and full stomachs over the years, and you have helped to bring me closer to my own family as we test out your recipes together. Nothing can make up for this loss, so I just hope to remind you that your own memories of and with your father go on to sustain me and my family when times are tough. He left a legacy with you, and that legacy continues to grow. <3
Aw Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds amazing. May his memory be a blessing.
My deepest condolences on your dad’s passing. It deeply, utterly & completely sucks. And it will always suck, but I hope that you’ll keep your memories of him close & take comfort in them.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope wonderful memories help you through the tough days.
I am so sorry. Cooking comforts me, too. Thinking of your family during this time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all during this time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man who led a wonderful life. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Soo sorry for your loss. He would want you to do what makes you happy. It a time like this keep cooking. Big hug.
So, so sorry for your loss, Deb. We’ll be lighting a candle for SantaDad tonight, and thinking of your family as we make something extra-cozy and comforting for dinner. Sending hugs.
I am so sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss, Deb. Thinking of you and yours.
Holding you and your family in light and love. Finding comfort in cooking with family seems like the perfect way to honor your dad.
My heart goes out to you. I feel like I know you even though I have never left any message for you before, so the feeling can’t be mutual. Thanks for being you.
In a situation such as you have right now, any behavior is appropriate.
Sending you good vibes.
I’m so sorry. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man – may his presence continue to be felt by you and your loved ones for a long time to come.
I’ve been here since 2008, but leaving my first comment. First, so sorry for your loss. Second, thank you for this lovely piece of writing. My dad and I are negotiating a new phase in our relationship, and I hope it can be like this.
Deb so very sorry for your loss. Thoughts with you and your family.
Thinking of you and your family.
I’m very sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing a little sliver of your dad with us here.
Dear Deb–
Thanks for sharing your losses, as well as your success in this space. So much love is coming your way, may it soften the hole such a loss leaves in the life of a family.
I think of John O’Donohue in these times—
“And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens…”
May love in all its forms of memory, including creating with food and finding all the ways in which that nourishes you, bring comfort in this time.
Be gentle with you.
Peace
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I’ve been reading you since your previous non-food blog, and it was always clear how wonderful SantaDad was and how much he loved you. When my own mother passed away in the middle of a birthday-heavy week in our extended family, I baked three huge cakes in a row around her funeral. (All recipes from here, actually.) We do whatever works to muddle through.
What a joyfully poignant tribute to your dad. While I can’t imagine how to get accustomed to the loss of someone so lovely, I do know the power of food and shared meals and memories is a great start. Sending lots of love to you and your family.
So sorry that your dad passed away. Very nice that you had such a loving and wonderful father and a ton of great memories of him. You have now peaked my curiosity and I think I’ll review your previous posts looking for your dad’s comments. Oh, and anytime you want someone to spell check I’m your girl! Hard to feel funny when you’re in pain, but you managed it. Your dad would be so proud.
So sorry for you loss. He sounded like a wonderful man.
Sending love to you and your family!
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your father’s spirit shines through in this beautiful tribute. You and your family are in my thoughts.
DEB – I’m so sorry for you’re loss. He sounds like an amazing father. Sending lots of love your way. What better way to celebrate his memory than to cook all the food he loved so much. ❤️
;( A very moving and evocative tribute. May his memory be a blessing x
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry to hear to hear of your loss. What a great joy it is to have a wonderful relationship with you father. It is delightful to hear of his pride in and love for you. It is good to have good memories. May you be blessed and comforted as you weep and laugh and mourn and remember him.
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds amazing!
So, so sorry, Deb. 💔
♥️ So sorry for your loss, Deb.
Heartfelt condolences, Deb, and a big internet hug.
I’m so sorry for yours and your family’s loss. He sounds like a wonderful, charming, interesting person, and a fabulous father and grandfather. Thank you for sharing a bit of him with us. I wish you peace.
I’m so sorry, Deb. How wonderful that you both loved each other so much. You will always have his love.. I lost my grandma a week ago also, we were very close and it’s very difficult to process the loss of a person who meant so much .. but we still have their love :)
Deb, I[‘m so sorry to hear this news. I understand the pain of losing a father too soon, and you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Very sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. Wonderful stories you’ve shared regarding his interest & enthusiasm for your work, he was understandably proud of you. You were both so fortunate! I’m so happy my daughter introduced me to your site.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my father in 2014 and while I still miss him every day, it has also increased my appreciation for the time we had together and what he brought to my life (A deep appreciation for wine and a love of puns to name a few)!! Wishing you love and support from family and friends as you go through these sad days.
I am so sorry for your loss. It’s hard to lose a parent. Stay in the kitchen if that’s what helps.
I’m terribly sorry for your loss Deb! I hope you find comfort in your family and celebrate his memories!
I’m sorry for your loss. Your dad seemed just like the dad I would have had if he had lived as long as yours. Ready to talk about his daughters, ready to chime in on whatever opinion he had, ready to share a little fun and joy at a whim. It’s so hard to lose a parent at any age. Take your time and process as you wish; cooking is a fine thing to do if it helps you get by and get on. Finally, it’s ok to feel whatever emotion comes to you during the days and months and years to come.
Much love and empathy to you and yours.
My father was a treasure too! I loved reading this…a farher’s love and pride is just so palpable, isn’t it? Thanks for sharing. I needed this today. ❤️ Blessings to you and your entire family. Keep those memories alive with many more storytelling sessions! Perhaps over the perplexing eggplant parm.
Sending love to you! Celebrate the memories and the beautiful life that was. 💙
My condolences… so sorry to hear about your loss!
Thoughts with you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man and wonderful father and husband. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss, but glad your dad got to experience the joy of your blog. I shared your site with my dad and we’ve since made recipes from it together–he’s a big fan of your whitefish salad.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
We readers are honored that you share so much with us, Deb. Thank you for what is surely the most beautiful post I’ve read in my 10 years reading your blog. Your dad sounds like one of the best. My love and condolences are with you and your family.
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He seemed to have so much fun commenting on the site. His memory for a blessing.
So very sorry for your loss. I’m sure that cooking is very therapeutic right now and makes you think of your sweet Dad. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time.
I’m so sorry for you loss. Sending warm thoughts to you and your family.
So sorry for your loss, Deb. xx
Dear Deb,
just wanted to tell you that my heart goes out to you and your family!
Sending much strength for these toughest of times! <3
Your dad is proud of you!
Big love and hugs
Linda
Deb, I’ so sorry for your loss. As usual your writing touches my heart. You are funny, poignant, and touching. Even though I have never met you (or our family) I will carry this beautiful tribute with me forever. (and therefore SantaDad too) Your love shows in every word.
Oh Deb, all my love to you, your Mum and your glorious family. xxx
I am so sorry for your loss. Your memories of your father are wonderful. Your words are a wonderful tribute to him. ❤️
Thanks for sharing some of your dad with us. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Your dad sounds awesome – proud and delighted in you. I feel your hole and want you to know I’m holding space for you.
Much love to you and your family, Deb xo
So very sorry.
Dear Deb,
I am very sorry for your loss. May your dad’s memory be a blessing.
I hardly ever comment, but I couldn’t let this one go by without saying I’m sorry for your loss. May you continue to find warmth and love sharing and holding those memories close.
Deb, I’m so sad that you’ve lost your dad. I loved reading this and it made me tear up. I lost my Dad this past November and it is still so hard to believe he’s really gone. How wonderful to have an archive of your recipes with his comments and your memories of his love and support. Cheers to your SantaDad. Sending lots of love.
So very sorry for your loss. From the loving way you have written about your Dad here, It is for certain that the memories you hold dear and the love of your family will provide solace. Wishing you and your family strength and comfort.
so so sorry to hear this. he must have been an incredible thing to make you such an admirable woman. May his memory be a blessing.
Much love to you and you family.
Losing someone while keeping your memories of them is one of the most saddening, gut-wrenching feelings in the world… I’m so happy that you are still cooking and keeping yourself doing whatever makes you happy. You have every right to maintain your happiness in this moment and be selfish for your mental well-being. And take as much time away as you need to. No good person would blame you.
So sorry for your loss. I’ve been following you for years and I’ve never felt closer. My own dad passed away a week and a half ago. Your father sounds like he was an amazing man and the world is definitely less bright for his loss. Like yours, my dad was endlessly proud of everything I did. Fathers are like that, I suppose. Glad you are doing things that bring you comfort.
May his memory be a blessing. Sending lots of love.
Rachel – my condolences to you as well. Losing a parent is so hard!
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Dads and their daughters are a unique relationship, and it sounds like yours was a good one. May his memory be for a blessing.
Much love. You two sound quite the pair! Thank you for sharing him with us. ❤️
I’m so sorry Deb. Dads are the best. Peace, love, hope and light to you and your family.
So sorry for your loss.
So sorry, Deb.
Condolences on your loss from another lurker..
I’m so sorry for your loss. And I totally understand your need to cook, in the midst of it.
Deb – I am so sorry for your loss! May your family have peace during this difficult time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Dad’s are amazing and great dad’s are priceless. What a blessing that you have this site to (amongst other things =}) fondly remember him. May your oven be hot and your Kitchen Aid be motoring as you navigate this grief.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for you and your whole family. Sending you virtual hugs from New Jersey tonight.
Deb,
So sorry to hear about your father. Have been following your blog for about 6 years, and really admire you and love your recipes.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Love to you and your family. And keep on cooking – I’m guessing he would have wanted that. Susan
So sorry for your loss Deb. If I had the chance I’d bring a chocolate babka to your shiva (the traditional shiva food in my family). Thinking of you and your family <3
I am so sorry for your loss.
My dad was born the same year as yours and he died at the end of 2016 and I still feel in shock. Two months later I got married and I could never imagine him not being there.
Remember the good times and the person he was. You are a part of him!
Loved the stories you just told here about him.
Dear Deb,
My condolences to you and your family. May your memories bring you comfort.
Peace,
Barb
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful dad. What good fortune to have a great relationship with your dad. I wish you strength in this difficult time and I hope you can surround yourself with all the people you love and need for as long as possible. It helps. I wish you all the best and am sending you a warm hug.
Awww I’m so sorry Deb.
Take Care & keep cooking!
Your Dad will be watching & will continue
To be proud
You take all the time you need
Your peeps will be here
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you will be comforted by your many wonderful memories, and by the knowledge of how proud he was of you. I lost my dad over five years ago and I can tell you that the pain will soften and dim, but it will never quite leave you. It’s so hard to lose these precious people – sending love and hugs as you grieve.
I am so sorry for your loss Deb. What a kind and sweet post. He sounds like a wonderful man, who loved you very much.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss of your wonderful dad. I lost my dad four years ago and, while I don’t know exactly how you are feeling, I have an inkling. Sending much love to you and your family. I hope the memories will bring you comfort as time goes by. Please be good to yourself. It is so important at this time.
I am so very sorry for your loss, Deb. All best to you and your family. I know you all are relishing in the love and memories your father has given you.
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine a few your ago and it’s rough for awhile. At a certain point my anguish diminidhed and was replaced by my joyful memories of him. I still miss him and think about him but without pain. Best wishes to you and your family.
Deb, I am so, so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a warm and wonderful mensch. Of course, he was unapologetically proud of you– as he should have been. May his memory be a blessing and may you find comfort in your many good memories.
Sue
What a lucky girl you are to have a dad who was so funny and proud of you. I’m sorry for your loss, but happy you got to have him for so long.
thinking of you and your family a lot at this time .your wedding photo and photo of your son and your dad tells all . food , really amazing food such as yours is the anchor for all of you now. naturally the opposite of the food anchor is your evolution as you delve deep into mystery of life and death . all of the best for you during this grand time of transition .
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray for comfort for you and your family. Your website and cookbooks bring joy to my family, and I wish only joy for yours.
Awww. So sorry to hear about your Dad”s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Awww. Sorry to hear about your dad”s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
May his memory be for a blessing. I lost my dad two years ago, and I miss him dearly. Thank you for all the recipes.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I saw your social media post the other day and my heart broke for you. Though I never knew your father, I could tell he was warm and funny and loving from his comments on this site; I always smiled when I saw a Santa Dad post. Prayers for you and your family as you grieve this terrible loss.
Deb and family — I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your dad was very proud of you and your accomplishments.
I have followed your site for years, and just wanted to reach out and say how sorry I am for your loss. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your family. ❤️
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a really fun, lovely man. May his memory be for a blessing.❤
May his memory be for a blessing, Deb. Sending you warm thoughts from our home to yours.
What a lovely and moving tribute to your father. I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you find solace and comfort in the beautiful memories yo possess.
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I lost my dad before I married and had kids, and have told them countless stories about him. Your kids are lucky, not only because they knew him, but also because you are blessed with the ability to share a good story. God rest his soul.
Will be thinking of you and your family in the days to come. So sorry.
I’m so sorry to you and your family, Deb. He sounds like an amazing man!! Hugs and love to all of you <3
I am so very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful testament to your dad this post is. I feel like I can see him in my minds eye just from how you describe him.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like a wonderful, caring man.
Sounds like his memory is already a blessing. And that you made him very proud.
I’m so sorry Deb. Praying for comfort for you and your family.
Deb, I was so sorry to hear about your loss, and I hope that this community can be an encouragement to you in sadness just as it has been in many joys over the years…
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb and family. A good dad is a treasure. May his memory be a blessing.
So sorry for your loss Deb.
Deepest sympathies on the physical loss of your father’s presence in your life. Your love and admiration for him resonated in the words you wrote in this post. There may be no greater gift we receive in our lives than being loved by our parents. And it sounds like your father loved you very much.
So terribly sorry to hear of your dads passing. It sounds like he was a wonderful wonderful dad.
May his memory be for a blessing.
Cook all you want, feeding yourself and your family and being together over favorite foods helps along the way.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad (a week before their anniversary too, though 48th). I’m just so sorry. xox
Condolences and love to you and your family. ❤❤
Dear Deb,
As an avid follower of SK, I was so sorry to read of the loss of your dad. Thinking of you and your family today.
Deb,
I think cooking sounds like a practical way to keep yourself whole and honor the memory of your dad, who sounds like he was a hoot.
My mom just died in January, and someone gave me a book of daily meditations that my family and I have found very readable and helpful: Healing After Loss by Martha W. Hickman.
May you and your family find peace.
I am so sorry. Sincerest condolences.
May these memories of your dad continue to sustain and inspire you Our thoughts are with you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I really enjoyed
Reading this blog post. Your dad sounds like a wonderful person.
Deb, so sorry for your loss. When I lost my dear sister, suddenly two years ago, cooking was the only thing that kept me going. We are a family of cooks. I’m blessed to still have my dad and just enjoying the time we have left ( he’s 84). I imagine I will honor my dad, the same as you are doing for yours. We all can see , he was very proud of you and the community and career you’ve created. I’m sure Santadad is smiling on you as you keep the legacy going in your tiny kitchen.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Cooking sounds like a sensible coping mechanism to me. Every loss leaves a hole that we try to fill.
Deb, I am truly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an amazing guy and a very special father. I’m excited to learn more about your dad’s favorite dishes. Thank you for sharing this piece of your life with us, your devoted readers and fan cooks. I extend my heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
My condolences – be gentle and patient with yourself – it is a difficult time to go through. Sending my prayers and kindest thoughts to you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss! There is no right or wrong in the grieving process. Cook as much as you need to, and then if you swing the other way eat nothing but carryout for days and days.
My condolences to you and your family. Sounds like an extraordinary and charming man. <3 We love and respect you, Deb, thank you for feeling comfortable in sharing this with your followers.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounded like a wonderful man. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.
Beautiful post. May his memory be a blessing.
I’m so sorry, Deb. I hope you find comfort in your memories.
SO very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart hurts for your family, thank you for sharing more about him with us.
May his memory be a blessing
Deb, suncere sympathhy to you and your family as you mourn your Dad. Your tribute here is beautiful, words from your heart so moving. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.
Such a sweet story about SantDad. Thank you for sharing. Though his bodily siie ceases to exits may the memories of who he was and how he lived continue to live on in the hearts of those who loved him. I am sorry for your loss and happy that you had such a fun and supportive dad. He will be with you in spirit.
May his memory be a blessing to you.
Much love to you and your family deb! I remember SantaDad’s comments on many of your recipes and have chuckled at how much he loved you and his sense of humor. I cook when I am sad too..and food is a wonderful way of remembering someone.
xoxo…
Sound like you have wonderful memories of a special dad. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Well this just broke my heart. I first saw the pictures and I just knew. My heart hurt because it just had that feeling. I’m so very sorry for you and your family. What beautiful words you shared about your dad. How blessed you are to have such a great, supportive father❤️
I’m so sorry to hear this news. Sending you and your family love and light during this time and always <3
Your dad sounds like a wonderful person and great father/grand papa. Thanks for sharing some of him with us. I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts. Many condolences
I am sorry to hear of your dad’s passing, Deb. I also lost my father a little over a year ago. We were very close and the thing that has surprised me is how close he still feels. I hope you find the same to be true. Don’t worry about what you think you “should” be doing or feeling as you process your grief. Everyone does it differently and you are doing it the way that’s best for you. I look forward to trying more of his favorite recipes from here. He sounds like he’s got great taste.
I’m so sorry for your loss. He’s sounds like a wonderful man. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad cooking gives you some comfort in this hard time. You obviously know how important food can be for family gatherings, so I hope your delicious food brings up fond memories. Please remember the time to take care of yourself.
Deb,
My father passed away 6 years ago, and this made me cry. I’m so sorry for your loss, and my kindest thoughts and deepest condolences to your mother. I still tear up daily with the missing of my father, but I’m (now) able to be grateful for the kind of father that inspires that kind of missing. Cook all his favorites and take care of you and yours. <3
Dear Deb, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a truly wonderful human being, and he must have been, to make you the gift you are to all of us. Wishing as much peace and comfort to you and your family as possible. May you find comfort in each other. <3
Hugs and love to you on the loss of your precious Dad.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss.
All the love to you and your family, Deb. What a lovely thing to write about your father.
Deb-I am getting to the point in life that I have always feared, someday losing a parent! I am so very sorry for your loss and even more sorry that your Dad isn’t here to see how many more of your wonderful recipes will fill all of our kitchens with aromas that he would have loved! Many blessings and prayers for your family this week!
So sorry Deb! My mom died the first week of December and so I know how surreal it is losing a parent. You and your family are in my thoughts. It seems he lived a happy and full life and loved you very much.
So sorry for your loss Deb, thank you for sharing some memories of your beloved Dad.
So sorry for your loss Deb, thank you for sharing some memories of your beloved Dad.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.
So sorry for your loss. Cooking food is love – and I totally get your cooking his favorite foods.
I’m so sorry to hear this sad news. Try not to pay too much attention to what you ‘should’ be doing. Find solace where it presents itself to you. Your father sounds like a wonderful man.
May his memory be a blessing <3
Dear Deb,
I am a long-time lurker who has been hugely uplifted, not only by your incredible recipes, but also by your love for your family. I am so very, very sorry to hear about your dad. Love and prayers to you and your family as you mourn.
My sincere condolences to you and your family… I’m sure your cooking brought him lots of happiness (as it does to the rest of us) and made him very proud.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear. Your dad was a gem. Thinking of you and your family.
Oh, Deb! I’m so sorry.
I lost my father almost 3 years ago, we were very close. Take the time and space you need, or don’t need. I have a literal ache in my chest for you. My prayers are with you and your family. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sending you all peace and grace. When Mom died, the emptiness and the silence were just crushing. I recited these lines from Edna St Vincent Millay over and over:
The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love,—
They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.
Sending you so much love, Deb. You had a wonderful dad.
What a sweet, loving tribute to your dad. Heartfelt condolences on your loss.
Deb, I don’t know you, but I read a lot that you write, and I know what it is to have a dad you’re really fond of who loves you a lot. I’m so sorry for your loss and extra appreciative of the pleasure and enjoyment you add to the world. May your memories be a comfort.
What a beautiful and heartfelt eulogogy for a man who sounds endlessly fascinating and very much in love with his daughter. I wish you peace as you come to grips with your loss, Deb ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. He sounds like a truly wonderful father. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad! This is a beautiful post. Thinking of you all.
Deb, so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man who will be greatly missed. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
I am so very sorry for your loss, Deb. Papas are near and dear to my heart these days as my own just turned 90. We cherish him just as I know you cherish yours. Keep cooking and reliving all your wonderful memories of him!!
I’m so sorry. My father just died (a week before their anniversary, too, but 48) and it’s all so emotional and difficult and full of gratitude, for me, at least, it has been (run-on of the decade). Thinking of you, in tremendous empathy. xox
He sure raised a winner………and every time you share your joy…….you honor your father
Deb so sorry to hear of your dad‘s passing. I hope that you and the rest of the family are pulling out all the old photos and telling the wonderful stories about your father that will help you get through this difficult time. Think of something he loved for Pesach and share it with us so we can remember him with you.
Like the dental hygienist, I am a lurker, but I wanted to express my condolences for your loss and gratitude for the beautiful picture you painted of your father. He sounds delightful. He had and has so much to be proud of! Thank you for all the fabulous recipes I’ve shared with my family! Sending hugs to yours.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your dad. It’s so tough, and words are utterly inadequate. It made me smile, though, to read that you are cooking for him, even as my heart broke for you. It sounds like you are honoring him with actions. My very deepest sympathy.
Just want to express my sincere condolence and sympathy on your dad’s passing. It is 35 years that my dad died but he still comes to my mind and occasionally I have an inhead conversation with him. May you find peace in your remembrance of him.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounds like a gem. May he Rest In Peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray that you have peace that passes all understanding. My Dad has been gone 10 years, but it is amazing how his wonderful characteristics that I cherish shine through my children. I hope all your wonderful memories of him will bring smiles through the tears.
Kristina
Sending you so must love and holding space for all the emotions you’ve likely felt and will feel. The best advice I got after my dad passed is that there are no rules. You are allowed to laugh and cook and be happy and be sad and all of it. All of that is normal and ok. Your dad sounds like a beautiful soul. Sending hugs.
I am so sorry for your loss. Well, we are. Your book, heavily bookmarked, is on our coffee table and I just shared with my partner that you lost your dad. We have both lost ours and our hearts go out to you. My mom is in the hospital right now, having had a stroke a few days ago and I know I shouldn’t want to cook either, but it feels right, even if I don’t want to eat. Something about being active with your hands and body, doing something basic. I’ll make something from your book soon and will send good thoughts out to you and your family while I do so. Maybe food is our love language :)
I have been reading and cooking with you for years but never commented; still, I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I hope the coming holidays are filled with peace and warm memories as well as sadness.
Beautiful post. My condolences. Clearly he was a great man to have raised an astonishing person such as yourself :) xo
I’m so sorry. May his memory be for a blessing. There is no “supposed to” here. Just time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounded like a gem!! May he Rest In Peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re Dad sounds like the best kind of egg. The kind that has a delicious runny yolk that makes you feel at home on the inside.
You and your family are so loved and adored by the thousands of people that you share your story with on this site.
Prayers and peace to you and your family during this time. And extra special love to your Mom, Mrs SantaDad.
May his memory be a blessing for you and your family
May his memory be a blessing. I haven’t lost a parent so I can’t fully relate but the week I sat shiva for my dear grandmother, I baked her favorite/famous sweet pizza cookies (jam crumble bars) every day. It helped. Funny that I noticed you weren’t here last week and sent a little ::internet vibe I hope all is ok:: thing. I’m mostly a lurker and didn’t know your father’s presence here, but he sounds like a real mensch. Thinking of you and your family this week.
So very sorry for your loss. Think it is wonderful that you are cooking this week – as food can be so healing, and also such an offering of love for your family during this difficult time. Hoping it is bringing you some solace too. Certainly your blog has brought me and so many others peace and a sense of grounding during challenging times. Thanks for all you do, and sharing your experiences with the rest of us. My warmest sympathies to you and your family.
Deb,
So sorry to read this news. For most of us, I think our fathers give us our first concept of God. After my dad died, when I would pray “Our Father who art in heaven,” I was never sure if I was speaking to God or my dad.
Hi Deb, So sorry for you loss! Your father sounds like a wonderful person. May his memory live on forever.
I’m a longtime reader and this is my first comment on your blog.
My heart breaks for you. I loved reading this post with some of your treasured memories. He certainly does sound like a good egg. xoxo
What lovely stories you have from many wonderful years together. My deepest sympathies to you and your family for your loss – I read your words and grieved with you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you warm thoughts.
We all cared about, and will miss, Santa Dad. Deb I’m so sorry. I don’t think you can really prepare for the loss of a parent, no matter what your situation. XO
This made me cry. Thank you for sharing with us! Oh my goodness what a great man he was I bet :) With my father ailing, this was a perfect post and my family and I are thinking of you and yours. Wishing you peace…Always, Jen
I am so sorry for your loss. I never comment but this is a loving and perfect tribute to him on this space. I hope you can cook up some healing for yourself and your family.
Dearest friend,
Because you are. I read your postings not only for the ideas but for the warm voice that seems to get through these pages. The beautiful goodbye you wrote about your father made me misty eyed. I hope you find comfort and solace surrounded as you are, by so many of us who only want your best. Dont stop bringing us into your life, as you are one of the most heart warming food writer I have ever read.
Stay true as always.
Sending love and hugs and condolences to you and your family, Deb. It’s a lovely tribute that you wrote here, and I hope that your dad’s comments on your site bring you smiles through your sadness.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for your Dad’s passing. May you find comfort in All the memories and love you shared. May his light forever shine in you and your children.
I am so sorry, Deb. Your always humorous and totally relatable posts have gotten me through some tough postpartum phases. I’m sending lots of love from California in the hopes that it will bring you some comfort during this difficult time for you and your family.
Thank you for sharing this, Deb. I know the people who made us seep into the things we creat. I hope the turkey meatballs I made from your first cookbook tonight for my family kept part of his spirit alive. Love to you all during this dark time. ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss, this must be an excruciating time for you and your family! I really enjoyed your moving tribute, and from what you describe, your dad would have loved it, as well.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s painful. My dear sister, who loved your site as much as I do, just passed away yesterday.
Your beautiful children will be your saving grace right now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope the many wonderful memories you have sustain you through this difficult time and bring a smile to your heart when you think of of them. His memory sounds like a blessing.
Blessing to you and your family as you grieve the loss and celebrate the life of your SantaDad!
Deb, So sorry for your loss. Your Dad would have loved how you chose to pay tribute to him. Your Mother and all your family will be in my prayers.
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds absolutely wonderful.
Very sorry for your loss, Deb.
Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. A Dad is a terrible person to lose; it sounds like his larger than life personality will live on. You’ve helped me get through graduate school. I hope that even though we don’t know you very well, we can be a drop in the bucket to help you keep going.
My thoughts are with you and your family,
Sarah
I was searching your site for a Passover dessert recipe (almond horns win this year) and saw you posted this – just read it three times. What a beautiful tribute to your dad. So deeply sorry for your loss – may his memory be a blessing. Hugs to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart aches.
The passing of a parent—especially one as dear as your father—leaves a chasm nothing else quite fills. All those questions you never asked now never will be answered. All the laughter you might have delighted in will never happen. All the sweet comments he might have left will never be written. But you will ALWAYS have the years of love and laughter and shared joy, and in time these things will soften the edges of the emptiness. May you find comfort in his memory.
So sorry for loss. It sounds like you have some great memories of him! Be kind to yourself.
I am so glad you have these memories. They are the only thing that gets us through!
So sorry for your loss, Deb. May you continue to find comfort in the recipes and memories you shared.
So so so sorry about your dad, Deb. He sounds like a wonderful guy and this is a beautiful tribute to him.
Condolences to you and your family. Your stories through recipes and warmth are what keep folks like me reading your site and feeling like we are sitting at your family table. Sending hugs and hope that you are finding what is nourishing yourself and your family during this difficult time.
I just discovered your blog (and some of your talks on video). I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sending you love and light, Deb.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an excellent man, made of the best stuff. :) May he rest in peace, and may you all be consoled. Please know of my prayers.
Love and prayers; he sounds like a really sweet dad <3
Oh Deb! I am so sorry….I lost mine a couple of months back….feeling your pain 😔
Deb he will still be looking over your work and I think he has already started his conversation about you in the next realm ☺️
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Baruch Dayan HaEmet. May you and your family be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem and may you know no more sorrow. Wishing you a zisn and memorable Pesach, sweeter for all the memories it will carry. And thank you for your posting.
May his memory be a blessing and may you find comfort among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem. Your dad sounds like a real mensch. Thank you for your sharing your stories about him. On a side note, I just read Mrs. Katz and Tush to my kids last night, and in that book, Mrs. Katz says her husband married her for her kugel. I guess a good kugel is hard to find!
I’m so so sorry for the loss of your father. Thinking of you and your family, may his memory always be a blessing.
Deb – thanks for sharing this with us. What a beautiful soul. Sounds like your dear father left you with a legacy of laughter. His essence will forever live on in you – particularly with all that love you put into your food (and I’m sure everything else you do). Sending you and your family boat loads of love and light. xx
Oh Deb. I am so, so sorry about your Dad. He was clearly such a wonderful person and hugely important in your life. I don’t think there’s anything to be said that will really make this better, but just wanted to chime in that I am thinking of you and your family. I hope this very sad time is full at least of good food and good memories that bring comfort. Sending BIG hugs from North Carolina.
So sorry for your loss. I really appreciate your dedication to caring about good food for us your readers. Just be sure you care for yourself this week as well.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss, and wishing you the comfort of family, friends and many warm memories.
So sorry for your loss! It sounds like you have many wonderful memories to cherish, which will be a source of comfort in the weeks/months/years ahead.
Your dad sounds like an extraordinary person, and an even better father. I’m so sorry for this terrible time for you and your family. I hope these wonderful memories will help provide peace and comfort.
Dear Deb, I am so very sorry for your loss. Your Smitten Kitchen family is here for you and we send you much love.
We are never ready to lose our parents. Never. My deepest condolences. I hope you find a tiny bit of comfort in knowing that so many people are holding you in their hearts. ❤️❤️
Sending so much love to you and your family. He sounds like he was such a special and vivacious man. He was obviously so proud of you! May all of the memories get you through this. I’m so sorry.
I am so very sorry. There is nothing like a father’s love for his daughter. My heart aches.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family. May history memory be for a blessing.
I am so sorry for this new reality of life without your Dad. Thinking of you and your family. Glad you are cooking and staying busy.
Deb- I hope you can feel all of our arms wrapped around you to give you comfort.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My love and prayers are with you and your family.
I can hear the love in your stories about how you treasured your dad. Take care..we’re thinking of you.
Perhaps at seder this year, a glass for Elijah and a glass for your father.
What a beautiful post. So sorry for your loss, Deb.
Ah — so much love in this post. The way in which you honor your dad is beautiful; thank you for reminding us of the importance of our elders (and I write this after losing my own mother a year and a half ago, and after losing her only sibling, my aunt, just last week, and my father-in-law last summer). Sending love and gratitude for all you share with us each day.
I’m so sorry. Love to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Keep cooking and recalling the fantastic memories.
I’m so very sorry about your dad.
Last Wednesday marked the one-year anniversary of my mom’s death. I can tell you that I have felt her with me every single day of this year. I’m not religious, but I believe there is something transcendent about a parent’s love for their child. Sending you many warm thoughts.
May his memory be eternal. This is a beautiful tribute to your father.
Deb and family,
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m also sorry that your kids will grow up without SantaDad. If I might make one suggestion, ask everyone who attends the funeral to write a letter to your kids that contains a fond memory of your father. This will help them remember him and give some shape to the type of man he was. Not an original idea by any means, but a close family friend once made a similar request and it was amazing to read what people wanted to share.
May you be blessed with treasured memories of your Dad as you grieve his death and celebrate his life.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying comfort for your family during this time. He left a beautiful legacy.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounds like an amazing guy and such a great dad. Hugs to you and your family.
Beautiful tribute to your father, Deb. I wish I could have run into him at a store and hear him heap praise on Smitten Kitchen, then I could have told him how much I adore this place too.
So so very sorry for your loss.
Baruch Dayan Emet. Sending heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.
So sorry for your loss. Totally understand immersing yourself in the kitchen. It makes you happy and how you make others happy even in a time of grief! Wishing you nothing but sweet memories of your father.
Oh, Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing dad and an all-around fantastic guy. I wish I could have met him. Hugs to your family.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds wonderful, and may we all be remembered by our children for such humor and love and full-of-life-ness.
My deepest condolences. :(
I wish you the joy of the happy memories you’ve shared here and many more. Peace to you and your family. Thanks for sharing the sad as well as the happy.
This is a beautiful tribute, Deb, and I am so so sorry for your loss. Much love to you and your whole family.
I don’t know how you made me cry when I never met him, or you for that matter, I wish you comfort and strength in this moment and always. I can always come here and read a post, and be sure to smile and chuckle out loud. Sending good wishes your way.
I am so sorry for the loss of your “SantaDad”. I hope you will be comforted by your friends and family, and I know you will be comforted by your Father in Heaven.
Thank you for sharing him with us and so sorry to hear the news. Hang in there… sending love to you & your family.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like a wonderful person and such a proud, loving father. I have both of your cookbooks and love your recipes and your writing, but this is my first comment ever — just wanted you to know that there’s one more random Internet stranger thinking of you and your family during this incredibly difficult time.
Oh Deb! I am so sorry! Sending you long distance hugs and thoughts from California.
Hi Deb – I’ve never left a comment before but I adore both of your cookbooks and use them all the time. I wanted to send some love your way – for you, your dad and your family. He sounds like a really wonderful man. I’ll put a little extra love into the next dish of yours I make for you, and for him!
So very sorry for your loss, Deb.
When I saw your Instagram post the other day I wondered if that was the news. Your Dad dies sound like a good egg—one you’ll miss a lot. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. ❤️❤️
Your recipes have always been a joy and comfort to me and my family. We have also experienced loss lately, and I’m so sorry to hear of yours. Your tribute to your father here is moving—what a lovely, lively person to share some time with. All of my prayers are with you during this trying time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. “Supposed to” or not, cooking is a way to show love for ourselves and the people we love who are also hurting – cook on, if it feels good, and take comfort in the memories that each bite brings.
Deb,
So sorry for the loss of your father. I know he must have been very proud of you!
I am so sorry for your loss Deb. You are so fortunate to have the love of your dad and have him be proud of you. Please take comfort in his memories. This was a beautiful post.
I’m very sorry for your loss. Your recipes have been such a big part of many of my family’s best memories. We will all think of you and your dad this Easter and at many more holidays and birthdays to come. I hope knowing so many people are out here thinking of you will help just a little bit.
My condolences and sympathy – so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing these lovely memories of him with your large extended “family”.
Deb I’m so sorry. Your dad sounds incredible, one of those truly radiant types. I am glad he got to tell the world and every stranger he met how proud he was of his amazing daughter. What an awesome gift. Thinking of your family right now during this loss.
Dear Deb, I know I’m not the only one who finds comfort in this space and your writing. Sending my hope that you can find the comfort this week that you continue to share with us.
My thoughts to you and your family.
Deb,
You’re family is in my thoughts and prayers. I hope all of your beautiful, nourishing recipes bring peace and healing in the form of community and shared memory in the coming days and weeks. From your post I’m positive your Dad was immensely proud of his daughter (and why not
be?), and you should be proud too.
Also, Happy almost 50th anniversary to your Mom, that alone is something to be proud and reason to celebrate your fathers life!
My condolences to you and your family, Deb. I’ve been reading you since 2008, you fee like family or a friend. My heart aches for you. Peace and blessings,
Julie
Deb you are a wonderful person and I’m so sorry to hear you lost your dad. Sending lots of love your way. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to do anything you need.
Sorry for your loss. A lovely tribute to him, was really nice to read, he sounds like a great dad that was cherished and will be dearly missed. Sending you warm hugs from Australia. Xx
Dear Deb,
Wishing you, Alex, your mom, and sister much love and peace, memories to bring you comfort as time passes, and enough butter, sugar, and rainbow sprinkles to soothe your soul.
Do whatever you need to to survive the difficult hours and days ahead, and know that there is an army of Smitten readers from all corners who have you, your dad, and the rest of your family in our thoughts.
❤ Heather
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Now I will always associate the sour cream chocolate chip coffee cake with your dad as well as with my book group friend Deborah, who loves it.
So very sorry for your loss. Praying comfort and peace for your family.
Hugs, Deb!! I am SO very sorry. What a wonderful dad! Wish we lived close by and I could make YOU something! Glad you are staying busy.
My sincere sympathy. What a wonderful and loving tribute to your Dad. It took me a while to admit after I lost my dad last year but I thought that he would live forever. I wish you wonderful memories and peace as you begin a new life knowing that he is with you always. We girls may go out and find our Prince Charmings but our Dads will always be King.
Sending love, love, and more love.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. May your father’s memory be for a blessing.
I’m so sorry, Deb. He sounded wonderful.
What beautiful memories – What father wouldn’t be proud of such a talented daughter! Im so so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. Thinking of you and your family.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry. I send heartfelt sympathy to you and your family on the loss of a loving father, husband, and grandpa. Thank you for sharing the wonderful photos. They say so much about him.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like an awesome dad. Hugs
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful memories.
So sorry to hear about your dad.
Sending love to you and your family
I’m so so so very sorry. I know how you feel. I lost my dad many years ago and it still feels like yesterday. Still not real. One more hug. One more everything. I’m so so so sorry hr won’t know your baby. I know how that feels too. It’s horrible and sad. Please know you’re in my thoughts and prayers. You’re a beautiful person I’m so glad I found you on Instagram !!
So sorry to hear of your father’s passing. My dad passed away last month after battling cancer for a year. It still doesn’t feel real. Lots of prayers and hugs.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds amazing. Losing my Dad is still a raw wound that I can’t imagine ever closing. It’s a horrible club to be in, but how lucky we were to have people we miss so much.
All my love to you, your family, and especially your Mom.
What a beautiful article. Thank you for sharing Santadad with us. May you find comfort in the many treasured memories. Much love to you and your family.
So sorry for your family’s loss. Can only imagine what a wonderful man he must have been to have a daughter like you that positively impacts so many lives. Thank you for sharing this glimpse into his.
Beautiful words and a lovely tribute. Cooking is my favorite way to reminisce about joyful memories and times past.
Oh Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss, but hope you find comfort in what a wonderful supporter he was in your life and all the years you had. My father was similar, my biggest advocate in everything, and while I miss him every day still, time has made me even more grateful I had him. Do what feels good and enjoy all those comfort foods. My mom, brother and I drove to a favorite bakery after the first visit to the funeral parlor and ate pastries and cookies for our first real meal in days. Take care, we’ll be here when you’re back.
Deb- While I have never posted a comment before, your tribute to your father has moved me to do so. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May you find peace, love, joy, laughter, and a feeling of warmth in memories of your Santa dad! Hugs.
May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem – may you know no more sorrow and may his memory be a blessing for you and your family. So sorry for your loss…
My condolences, to you and all who loved him, which sounds like nearly everyone who knew him. It’s so hard, no matter that it’s part of life. It still sucks.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my own Dad almost 3 years ago just a few weeks shy of his 100th birthday. I think of him every day. I hope you get a chance to visit your Dad in your dreams. He’ll be there for you.
May his memory be forever a blessing.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to lose a parent. Your love for your father comes across so beautifully in your post. May his memory be for a blessing. Although I don’t know you, I’m sending prayers of peace and comfort to you and your family.
Barb
So sorry for your loss Deb. Love to you and thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of him.
Oh honey, I am so sorry. I hope it’s okay I call you honey–we all think of you as part of our family, you know. As with most of my funny, smart, gregarious girlfriends, the little apple doesn’t fall far from the big tree, and your dad was surely a hoot and obviously so very proud of you (of course he was!). It’s so hard to lose someone so big and who loves you so unconditionally. Please know your Smitten Kitchen family loves you too and is sending a giant hug.
What an incredible tribute to your dad. Thank you for sharing this. It’s an honor to get a glimpse into the lives of others and he clearly was a very special man.
What a lovely way to remember your Dad…. through the food and memories you made and will make!
Even the comment “he was a good egg” is such a sweet tribute. My Dad and I connected through food….such a wonderful way to capture memories! Blessings to you.
So very sorry for your loss Deb. Thinking of you and your family at this most difficult time.
So sorry for your loss.
You’ve been missed.
Hi Deb,
Your site is full of so much love; love of food, love of family, and love of life. I can imagine you wouldn’t be doing what you do with the same passion if it wasn’t for your parents. I’m so very sorry to read about your dad, yet still the mention of your parents wedding anniversary is so touching, and a testament to your dad’s love of family and love of life. Sending lots of positive thoughts to your family during such a difficult time.
So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.
So sorry for what you’ll always miss. Glad for you that your “Dad stories” will be served with every item of food that helps prompt a memory or savor a feeling from your shared past. Of course your Dad must have been very, very proud of the gift you share with all of us—your family of hungry strangers.
Deb, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Your dad was, indeed, a good egg. Your tribute made me want to hear more of this funny, loving man. Grieve as you need…we’ll be here when you’re ready.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s always hard to have a loved one die. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man.
Deb, I am so sorry. I hope your many happy memories of him can be some measure of comfort. I’m glad that cooking can be a refuge for you (as it is for me). Much love and many hugs. Be well and be together with your family as you remember him.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Peace be with you as you sit shiva for your dad.
Oh Deb. I’m so sorry for your sad news. I know that in time your wonderful memories will sustain you, and your children are so lucky to have known their wonderful grandpa. You know you are in many hearts as you come through this. Instead of a place for Elijah at your Passover Seder, make a place for your dad. His spirit will be with you. May his memory be for a blessing.
Hi Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your Dad has been an incredible source of support to you through your journey, and I’m sure he will continue to be as you navigate through life, watching over you, ever proud of you. I pray you and your family and blessed with strength to cope with his loss. May his soul Rest In Peace. ♥️
I am no stranger to loss, myself, as most of us have experienced it. My mama passed away and also my brother. Losing her was like losing a piece of myself. My father is still here and I have said multiple times I do not know how to live in a world where he doesn’t exist. I coped by baking and swimming and loving my kids. So very sorry for your loss and for your children losing a grandparent. May God grant you peace in the days ahead as you and your family find ways to continue your journey.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Deb. Your father sounds like a wonderful person. I hope you and your family are getting lots of love.
I’m so sorry 💔 He sure was proud of you; thank you for sharing him with us!
My heart breaks for you. Your dad sounds like the absolute best kind of dad and real true treasure. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.
May he rest in eternal peace ❤
What a sweet tribute. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Crying a little for the sweet universal sadness of this post. My dad was like your dad. I’m sure we know that so much of the relationship couldn’t be spoken about. Anyway, May your wonderful father Rest In Peace. Sending you comfort and joy in knowing how much he enjoyed you and all you do.
I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. Your father sounds like he was a wonderful man. And I completely understand cooking as a coping mechanism as I used to do that too. In fact it’s due to the coping mechanism use of cooking that a former friend ended up with an absolutely ridiculous number of chocolate chip cookies. Take care of yourself and your family and I hope you find some comfort and joy in sharing reliving your memories of your father.
Dearest Deb – I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family, and especially your mom. My own father passed away when I was nearing the end of high school and it was hands down the hardest thing I had to go through. You are so brave to share it here in this space. And you are amazing for doing so in such a beautiful, honest, and touching way. Know though, that your dad will always be with you. He is forever in your heart and the memories keep his spirit alive through all his loved ones. sending you so much love and hugs and know you are not alone!
I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in your memories.
Deb, so sorry to hear about your Dad. Thoughts are with you and your family at this time.
Deb, so sorry to hear about your Dad. Thoughts are with you and your family at this time.
Condolences to your family. Your Dad sounds as though he was a wonderful guy. May the many memories your family shares of him sustain you all through this period of mourning and the years ahead.
So sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. I enjoyed reading this. Parents often remember things a little differently than the kiddos do.
May God give you and your family peace and fond remembrances.
Deepest condolences, Deb, to you and your whole family. From what you wrote, you dad was a special human being. The world’s loss, too, when such a person passes away. Take good care. Grieve. Let the loving memories sustain you.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss Deb. And you are so right, if one can talk in this space of the “happy” things, this should get a mention too. In fact, more than a simple mention; I am looking forward to hearing more of his favourites, and more of your memories.
Much love.
Dear Deb,
My condolences to you. Your Dad sounded like a joy to be around, and a cheerleader bar none. I wish you and your family comfort and peace.
I’m so sorry Deb, it’s the loneliest feeling, losing a dad. Stay busy and cook away. Time is the only helper. Good smells serve our memories and hearts well. Get some rest.
My condolences on the passing of your father. There is a very special relationship between a father and a daughter. Yours sounds like it was terrific!
My family just had a memorial service for my father who passed away 12 years ago.
I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss. Losing a parent is tough; especially when they are well-loved.
So sorry for your loss, my heartfelt condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my own father many years ago and still think about his favorite foods and associated anecdotes when planning family meals. There is nothing quite like the father/daughter bond… it is enduring. I know you will enjoy your memories and stories about him for a lifetime. He sounds as if he was a wonderful man.
ej
I am truly so very sorry for your loss. I know what it is like….I miss my dad every day. In your grief look for those quiet moments when peace comes over you. It is him, popping in to hold you close and let you know he is ok.
Deb, I’ve only ever (gratefully) made use of your recipes and never commented, but today, please accept my sincere condolences on your beloved dad’s passing.
So sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing father and you a blessed daughter. May God’s love comfort you all.
I am so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. It sounds like you had a great dad and a very special relationship. My dad’s been gone 23 years but he’s never left me. He is always present in my memories of him. It will be the same for you. My sincere condolences.
I’m sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like he was a wonderful man, husband, father, grandfather, and friend. Our parents are and always will be our biggest most dedicated support system. Even after they are gone, somehow, they are never really gone. They live on in our hearts.
I’m sorry for the loss of your dad. What wonderful memories and thank you for sharing.
Deb, thinking of you and your family during this difficult time and hope you find comfort in your happy memories. Even though you’re far apart, you’re still together in your heart.
I am on the Eve of my parents’ annual 2 week pilgrimage to my home for what I fondly call to the husband “the yearly in-law invasion”. Thank you for sharing this story of your Dad. I found myself smiling while I read it. Your Dad sounds like a hoot. You were certainly blessed with one of the best.
Dear Deb, I’m so very sorry for your loss. I can tell from your writing he was very special in your life.
I’ve never written before but I’ve followed you since you first year. (in your so tiny kitchen)
Thank you for your blog,
<3 Thank you for writing about him.
Deb – extending my deepest condolences on the passing of your delightful SantaDad. He sounds like a true gem.
Oh Deb, I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing can fix it but I am so glad you had such a “good egg” in your life.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to your father, hope you find comfort in your memories during this difficult time.
Bless you, you Dad and your family. He sounded like a wonderful Dad and friend. If he gave as much joy to you as you do with your books, blogs and emails, he is truly an inspired, wonderful genius. Hang in there, kiddo! ❤️
Deb,
So sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. I lost my Dad quite a while ago, 22 years actually. The pain lessens with time, but the pride and love we have for our Dads lives on in our hearts forever…
Ny condolences Deb
I am so sorry for your loss – he sounds like a wonderful person. Condolences.
Please accept my sympathies on the death of your dad
I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
Deb, I’m so so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your Dad painted such a vivid portrait of such a lovely and clearly beloved man. He sounds like the kind of guy who I would end up chatting with at the grocery store and leave thinking ‘is it strange that I would totally have a coffee with that lovely man (who is a complete stranger)?! My father died about 16 years started ago and it’s a loss that stays with you forever. But the wonderful memories will begin to provide you with comfort after some time. I look forward to hearing more about him and his favorites through your page.
I believe any time you look at the palms of your hands you will see your father.
Deb, I’m so sorry to read of your loss. The pictures of the two of you say it best: so much love and happiness. Cherish the memories of the times you were together as they’re more precious than gold. My condolences to you and your family.
Hugs to you! My dad passed away a few years ago, and was often my source of encouragement in life and in cooking. He’d take my boys fishing as long as I stayed in and made a batch of eggplant parmesan (so happily!). And when I miss him, I’m generally in the kitchen whipping up coffee cake or something sweet for my boys, who also miss their Grandpa. ‘So sorry for your loss, but I know he must be looking down on you with immense pride!
I’m so sorry for your loss. He’ll always be in your heart <3
It is so hard to lose someone who has been with you your entire life. He sounds like a great dad. My heart goes out to you and your family.
My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute. It is abundantly clear that you and your dad loved each other very much. I hope that love, time and good memories will bring you comfort.
So sorry for the loss of your beloved father. Thank you for sharing some memories of him with us.
Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your Father’s passing. I remember seeing Santa Dad’s comments at times, when I could wade through all the comments looking for your replies about a recipe. When you told us he was your Dad, I said to myself, Ah HA and recalled thinking that his turn of phrase must be where you picked up the knack; I could almost see a twinkle in his eye at times. He seemed very happy with all you’d accomplished and enjoyed talking with your fans as much I enjoyed his presence here as your biggest fan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I’m sorry to hear about your SantaDad. Do what you need to do for now. Grief is such an strange thing – there is no one right way.
Sending hugs.
I´m sorry for your loss. My thought are with you and your family.
Dear Deb, Deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your Dad. He sounded like a very proud Father and Zaydie. If cooking gives you comfort at this awful time then go for it. Grieve in your own way. Know he will always be with you smiling down when you prepare his favourite dishes, and that will make him feel closer to you. Wishing you peace and comfort. Please know your loyal readers will be here whenever you are ready to post again. Take care. Sending you hugs from Canada.
So sorry to hear of your father’s passing. Sending you peace and light.
Dearest Deb:
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have lost my dad too. I was a Daddy’s girl and miss him still every single day. May your heart heal with the many wonderful memories your Dad left you. Blessings to you and your family.
Respectfully,
Laura
So sorry for your loss💔.
Cry as much as makes you feel better.,,;;
What amazing memories you have of your father. May his name be written in the good book. Hugs to all and keep cooking. That’s what he would have wanted.
I am one of those people that comes and goes, loving your recipes and your amazing humor, but rarely commenting. But I have to say that I am very sorry for your loss. Your father looks like my father looked, and he died at the same age. So your story and pictures are taking me back to the time when I had to let him go. And I am reliving how hard that was. But your loss is yours, unique. And now you are going through that very hard journey. I am so so sorry.
Sorry for your family’s loss. I am one of thousands who love the stories about your whole family along with your recipes.
My condolences and what a wonderful tribute you wrote to your father. You must deeply miss him….hold those beautiful memories close to your heart forever. And keep cooking even if your not “supposed” to. Based on what you said about your dad, he’d probably tell you the same. ❤️
So sorry to hear this. I know exactly how it feels to lose a much loved father. And there’s absolutely no rules about what you are ‘supposed to do’ or not do. Would your dad want you to sit there doing nothing? Of course not. My thoughts are with you.
Baruch dayan emes.
So sorry about your Dads passing. Sending my condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss, Deb.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences. FOOD IS LOVE. You are contributing to an ongoing legacy. Your dad lives on in you, and yours. Still, I’m so sorry, as this will change your life and perceptions….. keep cooking, and eating, and sharing. Much love to you all.
Dear Deb,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for sharing some memories of your dad with all of us. Do what you need to do find comfort in the coming days. Be infinitely kind to yourself. Please tell us more stories if it feels good to do it. I hope you know that you are surrounded by hundreds of strangers who care about you from afar and wish that you and your family weren’t suffering.
May your father’s memory always bring blessings to you.
Deb,
Please accept my condolences. Your description of your father is wonderful — how lucky you were to have him as your father.
Boruch Dayan HaEmes BD”E
Thank you for sharing.
What a love letter to your Dad. I miss mine still, and it has been 23 years now. However the wonderful memories are strong, and I feel myself “channeling” my Dad from time to time because he never met a stranger. He was a meatcutter by trade, like his father before, and they ran a small meat market in a neighborhood grocery store. Good memories. Good food. Lots of love.
Extremely sorry to hear about your loss! Cherish those lovely memories!
My condolences to you & your family. I lost my father 9 months ago. I thank God for having given me such a wonderful father & I’m sure your’s was too. May the wonderful memories of him comfort you always.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace and may you always have beautiful memories of him and your time together.
Hugs to you from a stranger on the internet (but who feels like she knows you!)
What a lovely father! I am so sorry for your loss too. He had reason to be proud, and it’s clear you do of him too. Thinking of you at this hard time.
Condolences. Sorry, and just before Passover. The seders will be sad affairs, but, hold on to the memories of past joyous seders and what he contributed to them. The family he and your mother began and nurtured grew and flourished and he was proud….hold onto that…see what is around you at the seders and THAT is his legacy.
So very, very sorry for your loss. Your post provides a sweet and loving glimpse of your Dad and the special relationship it is obvious the two of you enjoyed. May his memory always be a comfort to you and your entire family. Sending love and comforting thoughts your way.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I sense, reading this, that the great relationship you had with him will carry you. Take care.
Sending hugs
Dearest Deb—Somehow, I knew something was wrong as I watched all the Food 52 activity and you were, of course, not with us.
My deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved Dad. Thinking of your family—old and young and in between—during these unbearable, sad days 💔
Oh I’m so so sorry to hear that. I know no words can be said in this situation to make anyone feel better, but please take care.
Sorry for your loss
I’m truly sorry for your loss, this post is so full of love that it hurts. I send you a virtual hug from Italy.
Dearest Deb,
Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your father, SantaDad. It sucks and it’s not fair–I tear up reading your lovely tribute to him! It is clear your dear SantaDad blessed you, your Mom, and the rest of your family and the world with his physical presence and was just needed for a higher calling.
He will surely be a treasured source of laughter, memories, and inspirational cooks and bakes to come, which I hope give you and your family strength, warmth, and joy. You have a great community here and we all care about you tremendously, and hopefully can be some light for you as you are for us.
Sincerely,
Char
Fellow lurker here. Ever since I found your site it has been my go-to for any time I make a dinner party and want to impress my guests. I have never been disappointed by a recipe and have never failed to be entertained (and made hungry) by your stories and descriptions. Your father was right to be proud of you. Baruch dayan emmet – sending you condolences from a grateful foodie in Jerusalem. May his memory bring you joy and may you know no more sorrow
Deb, Thanks for sharing your wonderful memories of your dad. As daughters, I think there is nothing more precious than to have your dad be proud of you. My dad passed away 14 years ago just this week, right before Passover, and remembering his comments about how proud he was of me still brings a smile to my face and a warm feeling in my heart. So many of your memories of your dad are bound up in your cooking….two things you love so much! I’m sure you will keep him alive in the eyes of your children through relating so many of your fond memories. My sincere condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.
I am so sorry for your loss. My das passed away 9 Years ago in Two weeks. How great that you have such fond memories of him. I hope you can cherish and Share them with your kids as Time goes by. So sorry.
Deb, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and wish you and your family long life x
Sorry for you loss! My deepest sympathies.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry. As a longtime lurker here, this is my first comment. Your dad sounds like a mensch. I’m so sorry for your loss. Right now and forever, ignore all of the grave concern over typos. We’re reading (and cooking) anyway. Sending you and your family love and good vibes.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. I can feel the love in how you wrote about him. You have cherished memories that will live on in your heart forever. Condolences to you and your family.
Sending you and your family my heartfelt condolences. May his memory be a blessing.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Oh, man. Condolences on your loss.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss.
So sorry to hear Deb, I hope you and your family are surrounded with comfort and love at this difficult time.
I’m so sorry, Deb. I loved reading about your dad, it is obvious your relationship is a beautiful one. Take care of yourself as you need to, and if cooking helps, go for it.
Much love to you and your family.
My deepest condolences to you and your family. SantaDad’s witty comments will be dearly missed.
Im so very sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. From your writing he sounded like he was a hoot. Loosing a parent is hard and it will leave a hole that nothing can fill. Not even really good food.
So sorry for your loss. Sending you love from Spain
So sorry for your loss :(
So sorry to hear about your Dad, he sounded a lovely guy. I lost mine over four years ago and still miss him.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a horrible time for you right now – keep cooking and hug your little ones tight.
I’m also married to a Santadad. Confirmed when, walking through an Italian village, we heard a chorus of ‘Jingle Bells’ from a group of lurking adolescents.
Much sympathy and love.
My sincere condolences Deb. I do remember your Dad’s presence in the comments and I am sorry for your loss.
So very sorry to read about your Dad. He sounds like such a nice person and one who would have been fun to meet. You are so lucky to have had him in your life as long as you did.
Long time reader, first time commenter. Please accept my sympathies.
I am so sorry, Deb. You had a good Dad, and that makes it all the harder, although less good Dads are also difficult to lose. I would know, having lost my own, imperfect but also in many ways wonderful Dad over 15 years ago. I understand why you feel better busy and, in particular, in the kitchen, sharing his favorites with the people who loved him. I’ll be right here waiting for you to share them with us as well, when you’re ready.
So very sad for your loss. Remember the good moments, they help ease the pain. Keep on cooking, you are an amazing inspiration and a special part of my week. Thanks for sharing. Thinking of you.
I’m so sorry for your lost Deb. I lost both parents between 2007 and 2009. They were one month shy of 60 years of marriage. 6 kids, laughs around the kitchen table, great hugs that I still miss so much.
Remember the good times. It helps. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
What a nice tribute to your dad. I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost both of my parents and as much faith as I have it’s so extremely heartbreaking.
Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like you had a very very special dad and he has a special daughter,
Sally
My deepest condolences on the passing of your father. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.
So sorry to hear this news ~ your Dad sounds amazing! Sending light and love in this period of transition for you all ~ Lisa
I am so sorry for your loss Deb. What lovely memories you have shared with us. God bless you and your family.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a Dad is so very hard, but what a wonderful tribute post. Thank you.
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Sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounds like a great dad!
Deb, so sorry for your loss. What wonderful memories you have. Sending you lots of love and strength.
So sorry for your loss.
dear Deb, so sorry for your loss, he sounds like a great person, he will live forever in your heart
Deb, I’m very sorry to hear about your Dad’s passing. Sounds like he’s filled your life with many wonderful memories.
A beautiful tribute. Big hug to you.
Oh, Deb, I am so sorry to hear this. I’m so sorry for your loss. What an incredibly lovely, loving post. Thank you for sharing him with us. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. May his memory be for a blessing.
So sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost my Mother earlier this month. Both of my parents are now passed on. I’m finding myself baking Italian cookies (fig cookies/sesame) and yes I’m Italian. I love to cook as you do. It’s an awesome way to reminisce about our parents/childhood. Wishing you comfort and peace.
Beverly
Deb, Thank you so much for letting us know. Losing a parent is a nearly universal experience, and yet the depth of the loss is so surprisingly stunning – how can something so ordinary be so horribly painful? Wishing you and your family all of the comforts you deserve at this difficult time.
Ellen
I am so sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you, your dad and family. This is a lovely post about him.
Incredibly sorry for the loss of you Dad. Baruch dayan ha’emet.
My heart is with you. Thanks for sharing your beautiful Words.
So sorry Deb. What a sweet column dedicated to him. May you cook in his memory.
I’m sorry to hear about your great loss, Deb. Your father seemed so wonderful and I imagine your heart is very heavy with sadness. I know this Passover will be quite painful to endure without your father at the table. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.
Warmest Regards,
Jennifer
I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. (hugs)
Oh I am so so sorry. Remember you get to grieve as you need to- there are no shoulds.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am so so sorry, Deb. Big hugs
My heart is with you. Losing a parent is so so hard, no matter how long you’ve been an adult.
My most sincere condolences Deb to you and your entire family.
Be very, very grateful for what your Father gave to you, some of us were not nearly as fortunate.
My heart goes out to your Mom and I wish her the comfort of knowing that others care.
May he fly high, to watch and protect his loved ones from above as only a real Father can.
so sorry for your loss, Deb. Your Dad sounds so wonderful and I love how you describe your relationship with him. What a beautiful legacy he has left 💜
Dear deb, such beautiful memories of your dad. Stay strong ! I am sure he is still watching you write in this space and will forever be proud of you and everything you do . Much love and hugs to you !
Dear Deb,
So sorry for your loss. May you take comfort in your family and your memories at this very difficult time.
Dear Deb, I have been enjoying your blog and those wonderful recipes for years. I look forword to seeing your email in my mailbox, like a letter from a friend. I’m sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Darlene
So sorry Deb! He sounds like a wonderful person. Losing a parent is so hard. The pain does lessen in time and the happy memories will sustain you. You have my sincere sympathy. Much love.
My dad died in December, and your dad sounds so much like my dad I find it real easy to imagine how you feel right now, which is presumptuous, I know, but I’ll say this. I always would have guessed from the open-heartedness of your site and your writing and your work that you were a well-loved daughter, that you had one of the good fathers, because I know what it’s like to be a better person, every day, because my dad was behind me for 87 years. Rest in peace, SantaDad. You did good work.
What a sweet and lovely tribute to your beloved dad, dear Deb. He surely was softly smiling as he watched over your shoulder as you wrote it.
I cannot express to you how very sorry I am for you losing someone who was so very dear to you – you expressed your loss beautifully and we could feel the love and sorrow in your heartfelt words.
Your dad is proud and satisfied that you are forming his legacy and what a wonderful legacy it is.
So sorry for your loss, and for your family’s loss, too. After all this time, I feel, vicariously, like a light has gone out, too. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.
I am sorry for your loss. May you be comforted by your memories.
Condolences Deb from across the oceans. I don’t comment much, but love your recipes (and so do my two daughters) and we have your books, or at least the first one. Don’t think the latest one has made it to South Africa yet. This is the end of a chapter for you and your family and your life will never be quite the same, but time will heal. My dad died a few days short of my parents’ 25th wedding anniversary and that was 40 years ago. As they say in this part of the world, sterkte! (strength)
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family at this difficult time.
It sounds like your father was a true mensch. May his memory be a blessing.
Oh, Deb, I am so very sorry. I lost my dad 11 years ago, and not a day goes by that I don’t think of him. Blessings to you and your family as you grieve. My heart goes out to you.
Condolences to your entire family, Deb, on the loss of your beloved father. Those we love so deeply never really go away. I hope it comforts you to know that he could not have had a better daughter.
My condolences.
I am so very sorry to hear your bad news, and I will keep your lovely family, esp your dear Mom, in my heart.
It’s a very hard loss to have to accept.
Wonderful tribute (and I also usually spend such times in the kitchen). I am so sorry for your loss. I know you don’t know me, but I’m keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve never written to anyone on a site before however,I was so touched by what and how you wrote about your dad. You shared your feelings in a way that made me feel,as you always have,that I know you personally. I also totally relate to your cooking frenzy-I did the same when my father died. It sounds like a myriad of wonderful memories will bring you comfort!!
So very sorry to hear of your loss; he must’ve been a wonderful man. Baruch dayan ha’emet. May his memory be a blessing.
My sincerest condolences on your loss. Cherish your memories and he will live forever in your heart.
Very sorry for your loss, may his memory live in your heart for ever
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. May you always be surrounded by the wonderful memories of your dad
What a wonderful remembrance, which probably only scratches the surface of the many memories that will keep your dad in a warm place in your heart. You and your family have my deepest condolences.
What a beautiful tribe to your father. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and by the sounds of it the world’s loss of this wonderful man.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. May you always be surrounded by great memories of your dad
I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing. I lost my dad 12 years ago and I miss him every dad. Thank G-d you have so many many wonderful memories to keep in your heart and pass on to your children.
So sorry for your loss—may his memory be a blessing, as his life was.
What a blessing to have such a wonderful man in your life. Sounds like a wind we ful father and friend. So sorry for this news. Thank you for sharing a bit of him with us.
Sincerest condolences to you and your family, Deb.
I’m so sorry for your loss. This site and your food is a beautiful tribute to him. Sending you peace.
May his memory be a blessing. A good guy for a daddy is a wondrous experience. May the fondest recollections comfort you and yours.
Condolences, Deb. Your father sounds like a real mensch. I will think of him, and my own Dad, as I make your recipes, and others.
Dear Deb, I hope the day comes quickly that the memories of your father bring smiles to replace the tears. And I hope for myself that my child remembers me with the love you have for your Dad.
So very sorry for your loss. Your dad was obviously an exceptional man. xo
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. Your dad probably taught you not to accept hugs from strangers, but I’m sending you one anyway.
*huuuuuuuug*
Sorry about your dads passing . I was fortunate to be be the cook and baker in my family. Our family both Polish and Hungarian drove me to preserve our history by cooking and baking all the family dishes that I grew up to enjoy. My mom passed on before my father and I spent sharing what I learned from my mom so he had comfort in his final years. In that time I became a chef and baker.
Deb, I am so very sorry for your loss. Sounds as though you two had a most beautiful relationship.
So sorry for your loss. I think cooking is perfectly fine, life does go on, and people need comfort food. I remember eating the most decadent chocolate cake, loaded with sweetened condensed milk, topped with whipped cream, and crushed Heath bars, after my Grandmother’s funeral, the best part of a sad day.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Deb,
Sorry for your loss. If cooking and baking bring you happy memories of your Dad and make this difficult time easier for you then you are doing what you should.
What a great tribute to a special gentleman..I love your site and tried many of your recipies. I am very touched about hearing about your Dad and his involvement via comments etc in your site…RIP
best regards
Selma
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like such a special person.
Deb, so very sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like a pretty special guy. Wishing you find comfort in these wonderful memories.
So sorry for your loss
Hi Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. Take take of your mom. Blessings for the family.
I’m so sorry. He really does sound like a good egg. <3
I’m so sorry for your loss. Much love and sympathy to you and your family.
I like good eggs. I did not meet your dad but feel your words made me feel like I should have. I hope you always remember the positive times.
So sorry for you and your family’s loss. May his memory always be for a blessing.
I did figure the early year post regarding future grandchildren had to be your parents. While the memories are still fresh, write down as many “stories “ about your dad. I would suggest creating a Grandpa book for your two children, complete with pictures.
Israelis cover their graves with Rosemary; scent memories last the longest. I find cooking with Rosemary always is comforting and helps me connect with a loved one who has passed.
Dear Deb,
So sorry for your loss, followed you for years and feel a kinship with your family. I know that he, as all of us are proud of your accomplishments.
Keep cooking, he will still be your best critic.
All good memories.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss…Dad’s are amazing friends, mentors and quiet (or sometimes not so quiet) instigators of fun like backyard leaf fights…..cherish all the wonderful memories, for they will live in your heart forever.
Deb – I’m a longtime reader, you feel like a friend to me and I am so sorry for the loss of you father. He sounds like an incredible, warm person who was endlessly proud of you. You are in my thoughts.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the hard as well as the joyful, and I so respect how you are making the hard joyful too.
— One more Laura
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. You do what you need to do to get through these difficult times. Everyone’s grief journey is different. Allow your self the time to remember and be sad…your family will be in my prayers.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for making this spot joyful, while keeping it true to life.
Much love,
Em
I am very sorry for you and your loving family, dear woman, so sorry indeed. I love hearing about men who are or were great fathers, it’s one of the very best things a man can ever be.
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. A loving dad is a priceless gift.
Deb,
So sorry for your loss. May his memory be for a blessing.
Honoring loved ones through cooking is a lovely way to celebrate a life. I always make my mom’s chocolate lace cookies and share them.
This is a lovely tribute! I wish I had known your dad, he sounds like an awesome guy. Hug hug hugs and love from Indiana.
I’m very sorry you’ve lost your Dad, but it’s very lovely that you’ve rememberd him here.
So sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a dear person.
My tremendous sympathy dear, and prayers for all who miss him to find peace in their hearts. What a blessing he seems to have been in your life – so glad you have so many fond memories to sustain you.
I have been a big follower of your blog for years but I have never left a comment. I love your recipes and make many, often.
I would also like to express my condolences on the loss of your dad. I hope your days of healing are filled with wonderful memories.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your father must’ve been wonderful since he helped to make you. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.
So very, very sorry for your loss.
Losing a parent sucks, I am so sorry Deb. It sounds like you got a lot of your verve and voice from him so he lives on but I know that’s little consolation. Sending you, your mom and everyone else lots of good thoughts. And keep cooking. It helps with the grief.
Saying a prayer for you. Losing a parent is hard, very hard. All those questions that you remember are still unanswered. But happy that you have so many wonderful memories. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.
Baruch Dyan HaEmet. May your dad’s memory forever be a blessing to you and all who knew him.
I’m s sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. Keep cooking and sharing these wonderful memories of this wonderful man. There isn’t a right or wrong way to do this. Sending you and yours live and light.
Deb,
May love cup your heart. May the memories live on and keep him alive within you. You shared a most remarkable journey together. You wonder why the grass still grows and he is not here… but he is Everywhere. And always, there will be many. Reminder of your life with your Dad at every turn you take. Enjoy the cooking ,the baking , the desserts he enjoyed, commented on and ravished. For that is sacred.
And thank you for sharing all that you do….
With much love,
Lauren
A lovely tribute. I am very sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family. Sending virtual hugs…
This post kicked me right in the gut. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Sounds like they didn’t come sweeter or more supportive than him.
So sorry for your loss Deb. I’m glad it sounds like you are mourning in community and I hope you’ll let others cook for you as well. I also hope they make your recipes because they are always such a comfort to others (and because they are the best :).
Hey Deb – I’ve followed this blog for several years, but don’t believe I’ve ever commented. I wanted to wish you joy in the warmth of all your wonderful memories of your Dad and lots of good healing kitchen time. So sorry for your loss.
Barukh dayan emet, my condolences to you and your entire family.
What a wonderful tribute, Deb. I’m so sorry for your loss. How lucky you are to have such great memories. Cooking is the perfect therapy.
(As a side note, I love your latest cookbook and renewed it from the library 4 times. Now I have to buy my own copy).
I am so sorry for your loss – you Dad sounds like a wonderful man. Keep all of those memories close to your heart. You will find yourself think of him at the strangest times or when you least expect it. You are your father’s daughter! He will be with you always! And good for you f
I’m so terribly sorry for your loss Deb. I lost my beautiful mother 6 months ago so I get what you must be going through. He sounds like a wonderful man.
I’m so sorry, Deb. He sounds like the best kind of dad.
I am so very sorry for your loss
My sincerest condolences Deb. Your recipes bring joy to so many of us. Your dad had much to be proud of.
My sympathies to you and your family in regards to your father’s death. He will live on in the memories that you will continue to share with your readers. His passing is a huge loss so take time to grieve as this is a process we all must go through with the death of loved ones.
Deb – So sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you comfort.
Deb, so sorry about your Dad. Sounds like he was a great guy. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Marcia
Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. The blessing of a good father (& grandfather) is a gift for life.
Dear Deb;
I am truly sorry for your loss and the pain that you and your family are going through.
Such beautiful photos, and memories.
May you have no more sorrows,
With love and hugs
Marsha
Sorry for your loss.
Sincerest condolences to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss and so amazed at your ability to share with us. Love to you and your family.
Love to you and your family. Thank you for sharing these stories about your dad . Made me wish he lived next door
I never comment here but adore your website. You write with such candor and humor – and generally make us all feel good about daily life. It sounds like your father was the same way – what a gift! You were lucky to have him and we’re lucky to have you. May he Rest In Peace.
What a wonderful tribute to your father. I’m so sorry for your loss. As you cook his favorites, may you always be reminded of all your wonderful memories with your father.
Oh Deb. I’m so sorry to hear of this loss. What a moving, loving tribute you leave here. I’ll add my voice to the chorus of folks who are holding you in the light, and keeping you and your family firmly in our hearts.
May his memory be for a blessing. And may your beautiful memories comfort you now and always, in your sorrow.
I’m so sorry, Deb. He sounds like such a lovely person. Cynthia Lempert
Deb,
I echo all the comments here. A terrible loss. I can see the love in his eyes for you and his zest for life in the photos you posted.
I still miss my Dad.
He’s been gone a long time, but I always feel he is near.
I hope that the memories of your wonderful Dad will sustain you in these sad times.
Deb,
Your dad sounds like a wonderful person. I’m sending you & your family kind thoughts.
Thank you for all the recipes ,
Sara
I am so sorry for you loss.
I am so sad to read of your father’s passing. Your memories that you shared of him in your post bought a smile (and some tears) to my face – he sounds like a truly wonderful man, who will be missed, and remembered fondly.
So sorry for the loss of your “SantaDad”; losing a parent is so difficult. I will think of him when I enjoy the eggplant Parmesan recipe (that is suspect will follow) and know that this and other happy memories will warm your and our hearts as time passes.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Thank you for sharing SantaDad with all of us. ❤️
What a lovely tribute to your dad <3 Wishing your family some comfort as you make your way through this loss.
Dear Deb,
So sorry for your loss! My husband recalls as a child coming downstairs during the Christmas season to find his father in a Santa Claus suit. He could never quite understand why a nice Jewish father would do such a thing. I think it’s Christmas envy, and Jewish guilt over not having a holiday that could seemingly hold a candle to Christmas. Whatever it is, it is one of those things kids never forget. I enjoyed reading your memories, and you are so lucky to have those.
So sorry for your loss…
I wish I’d met him in the grocery store to gush right along about you and your beautiful site. I’m so sorry, what a lovely dad to have. Wishing you well in the days to come.
So very sorry about your Dad. I can tell he was very proud of you and was a loving presence in your life. I really like how you are honoring him here in this post and sharing something about him with us, who go through the same things and are about more than recipes. Sending some good wishes to your whole family.
Deb I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad was an amazing dad to you. You have been richly blessed to have a man who loved you and directed your path. Many daughters do not have a father to share moments you shared with us. Grief is a hard path to walk at time but know the memories will comfort you in the years ahead!
ברוך דיין האמת
May his memory always be for a blessing. I am so sorry for your loss and can only wish that happy memories of time spent together sustain you and your family at this time—and in the years to come.
This is so beautifully written, he sounds like he was a treasure! I’m so sorry for your loss.
Dear Deb I am so sorry for your loss. My father was born in 1937 and passed away in 2004. When we were kids, we hated going anywhere with him, because he talked to everybody. We used to tell him “Dad, these people aren’t interested. They just want to get on with doing their jobs.” But he kept at it and talked to the lady who took his blood (he was on bloodthinners for many years), the filling station owner, the barber…
Turned out we were wrong. They all came to his funeral and years after told my mom how they still missed him. As do I.
Thank you for sharing a small *flavour* of your beloved Dad’s personality with us…my most heartfelt sorrow is extended to you and your family xxx
My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. It will be a different and difficult Pesach this year but I hope that special memories will comfort you during this sad time. And if cooking and baking offer you solace – go for it. Grief presents itself in many ways. Just remember that death ends a life, not a relationship. Baruch Dayan emet.
Lots of love to you and your family, Deb. Big celebrations are tough to match up with loss, and if cooking helps, do it. I love the memories you’ve shared here. Hold on to those. Keep them warm in your heart. Tell them to your kiddos. Looking forward to reading more of them.
I’m so very sorry for your loss Deb. This is a beautiful rememberence of him.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss! I will keep you and your family in my prayers….
Prayers for the comfort of your beautiful memories.
Sorry for you loss, Deb. We will share in your sadness as we have shared your humor and joy and frustrations.
Deb I’m sorry for your loss. From what you wrote it sounds like the world- not just this website was a better place because of him. May his memory be a blessing.
I am so sorry. My dad passed away in 2009 and I still think of him almost every day. Doesn’t matter if you expected it or not, it’s not any easier. The whole first year after he died I’d have sudden moments of being cranky and sad and didn’t know why. Then I would realize I was missing my dad. Things I didn’t expect would cause it. My deepest condolences to you. It’s so good you have good memories of him. It helps a lot. Time does heal.
I’m really sorry Deb. He sounds like he was delightful and loving – I know you’ll miss him. Hang in there.
Hold these memories near and dear. They are blessings to comfort you.
A beautiful tribute. My condolences.
Deb,
My sincerest sympathy to you and your family on the passing of your Dad. Sending prayers…
Dear Deb,
May you always have sweet memories of your father. Wishing you all the best. I hope that your Seiter table it’s not too sad .
I’m sorry you are suffering the pain of losing your dad. As an elderly fan of yours I identified with the pride he felt from your accomplishments. You gave him the greatest happiness with your love, respect, grandchildren and food. It sounds like he lived a good life and you were a big part of that recipe.
I’m so sorry for your loss
So very sorry for you loss. May all your happy memories bring you peace in the days ahead.
Deb,
Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself!
Kate B.
Deb, your tribute to your father shines with his joyfulness, humor, and love. May that halo of happiness brighten many days ahead for you. Sending wishes for comfort and a virtual hug your way.
Touching. My deepest condolences to you and your whole family.
My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family, Deb. I lost my Dad suddenly April 1, 1993. For you, this first year will be full of “first occasions” without your Dad celebrating with the family, but gives everyone the opportunity to relive those events when he was present. It is bittersweet while giving Anna especially, collective family memories. His spirit will be with you all.
Instead of traditional funeral flowers, a dear friend arranged for a pear tree to be planted, and one for my twin sister. She said, “Whenever you look at this tree, you will remember the good times, and a smile will embrace your face.” Every year on April 1st, hers bloomed as if Dad was right there hugging her.
Deep thank yous to your Dad and to you.
<3
Oh Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. But I am so glad that you had a wonderful father and I know that you will cherish the memories.
My most sincere condolences. I, too, won the ‘best dad ever’ lottery, so my heart goes out to you.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
You bring so much light into people’s lives. I can’t imagine how proud your dad was of you and how much joy Jacob and Anna brought him. May his memory be for a blessing.
So sorry for your loss. I hope you know that reading your sweet words about him shows all of us just how much love you two shared. Hugs.
Such a beautiful tribute to your dad. I lost both of my parents in my late 20s and early 30s and it is just a horrible time. So glad you have your mom and sister to be with and it just takes time to find your new normal.
What a wonderful tribute to your dad. May you find peace with his passing and enjoy the memories of his life.
May you cherish the blessing he was in your life and keep him close to your heart.
My condolences on your loss!
Dear Deb–I’m so terribly sorry to hear this news. Your father sounds like a wonderful person, and I hope there’s some comfort in knowing that his goodness and humor will stay in the world through his children and grandchildren. (And that noodle kugel!) I’ll be thinking of you and your family.–Debbie
Deb, so sorry for your loss. Daughters and dads… irreplaceable bond. I understand.
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Let your wonderful memories warm your heart and keep him close.
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
He touched your heart and will live there forever.
I know cooking helps.
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry to hear that your father has passed away. Thank you so much for telling us about him – we are all better people for knowing about him <3.
Life is about loving others, and it's in the wisdom of those who have lived a long life, and in sharing their stories, that we can learn the best lessons. Thank you for today,
Looking forward to learning more about, and from, your Dad ;-)
A devoted and grateful fan
What a lovely tribute to a your dear father. He sounds like a wonderful man. There is nothing like the relationship between and a father and and a daughter if you are lucky to have a dad who was “a good egg”. Condolences to you and all who loved him.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Tell your children stories of their Grandfather, show them pictures of his life (and videos if you have them). It will keep him alive, and make you happier as well.
Deb,
So sorry about your dad’s passing. As a long time consumer of your recipes and cookbooks, we feel the warm family environment that you have maintained..just a note to suggest to you that time heals the pain of loss, or at least let’ s it become more tolerable..anyways, we know that your dad must have been so proud of all that you have accomplished. Warm wishes..
My sincere condolences on the passing of your Dad.
So sorry for your loss. Your memories of your dad are wonderful and always yours.
I have been a fond user of your recipes for a long time, but I have never left a comment on your site. Just wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of your dad. I lost my a little over a year ago and I miss him every.single.day. I hope our dads find each other where ever they may be, I think they would get along great. My Dad loved my cooking and I loved cooking for him.
I am so sorry for your loss. What a joy to be able to share food and recipes and your work with him, though, and to hang on to those experiences. May his memory be a blessing.
My sincere condolences to you and your family, Deb. Your father sounds like an incredibly loving and engaged family man. May his memory be for a blessing.
My heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your beautiful tribute to your dad. May you all find comfort and strength in remembering his love for you.
So sorry to hear about the passing of your Dad. He sounds like an amazing person and I’m sure he will be missed by many.
Hi Deb, I feel for you, losing the day to day influence and fun that your father was in your life, but his memory will surely live on in the stories you tell and the person you are. What a lovely picture you paint of him with your words. Enjoy cooking, reliving happy times, even as you grieve. Kate 🇦🇺
Deb, I’m just so sorry for your loss. It is so tough saying goodbye to such a wonderful dad. I truly hope your memories bring you comfort and strength in the weeks ahead. . Much love to you and your family.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. It is a club that we do not want to join. :( My Dad was a foodie too and loved to get my Mom to try new recipes. My best wishes to you and your family. May his memory be a blessing.
Deb you fill our days with joy. I hope you feel comforted by the community you’ve built. My deepest condolences. xoxo
Death sucks. I am so sorry for your loss.
Food memories are my favorite kind. I have them for most everyone I know. They are something we can share even when they are no longer walking this earth with us.
I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your sweet father. As a follower for several years, I know you made him proud. My heartfelt condolences and warmest thoughts and hugs go out to you and your family.
Can’t help but think your dad would be so touched to read your post today. He left this world a better place because you, and your family are here.
My deepest condolences on your loss. I know how it feels to lose your Dad. I think of mine every day and miss him greatly and remember all the wonderful things he taught me and how he always made us laugh. I look forward to more stories of your Dad.
I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences. Candee
Very sorry, sending love your way
My sincere condolences for your loss. Your post is a beautiful tribute to your father. May memories and his favorite recipes comfort you and your family.
So very sorry for your loss, Deb and family.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your famiy.
Your father sounds a lot like my father-in-law (of blessed memory). I used to say that I often “color my father-in-law in” to whatever conversation is taking place; as if he’s the Great Gazoo from The Flintstones, sitting on my shoulder offering running commentary and wise cracks.
May they both rest in peace, and may his memory be a blessing, as my father-in-law’s has been to us.
I’m very sorry for your loss, Deb. Best wishes to all your family.
So sorry for your loss he sounds like he was the brightest soul your family was blessed. may God ease your loss and keep cooking for him he will be with you forever.
Deb – I am so sad for your loss. The world will not be the same again. Your precious memories are very special to read. Thank you for sharing them and giving us a picture of how extraordinary your father was. After following you for years and reading about the journeys of life you share, and after enjoying in the same food that you make and offer from your kitchen, I feel a sense of attachment to you even though it is on social media. So your sadness is felt. I have prayed for you and your family. May you be given a sense of peace and comfort in this time where grief is profound.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Big hugs to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing. And may you feel comfort in your kitchen making his favourite recipes.
Deb, May your father’s name be for a blessing.
Dear Deb,
Sorry to here of your father’s passing. I lost my Dad almost 20 years ago and I still miss him. I do not miss him in a sad way, there are just many things I do that always remind me of Dad, like your cooking this past week. Yet, that is the great thing about loving someone and being loved in return, even when they are gone they are never out of your heart.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and thinking of you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you all my love and thoughts of comfort during this difficult time.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. I hear and feel your love for him. How blessed you are to have such wonderful and fond memories of your dad. Thank you for sharing with us.
May you find strength in the love and compassion of your family, friends and the “strangers” who follow your blog. Much love
Passing my deepest sympathies to you and yours
I’ve loved your blog since day 1.
Memory eternal!
Oh Deb, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I am sorry for your hearts and for the empty space. I know we all are sending you and your family love and sympathy. And when we make your treasured recipes we now can include Santa Dad in the memory. With love, Jane MacDonald
My condolences to you and your family at your fathers passing.
So much care here in these comments. I think your dad wouldn’t have been surprised one bit.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
So very sorry for your loss.
Dear Deb & Family,
It’s always a good thing when children are raised by a good father. It shows. It doesn’t hurt if he had a sense of humor, either. I know. I had a wonderful Father & I still miss him. Sending love & thoughtfulness. Jayne
I am so, so sorry for your loss, Deb. Thank you for sharing this news with us. May you find joy and comfort in remembering the wonderful legacy he left, in the midst of the sorrow.
My sincerest condolences to you & your family. I know what a difficult time this must be, having lost both my parents just within the last few years. Your father will always be with you thru all the fond memories you have of him.
So sorry for your loss, Deb. The joy your father brought you is palpable in your photos and writing. Sending light and love to your family…
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds so wonderful and proud of you. May his memory be a blessing to you.
My Daddy died 15 years ago and I miss him every day. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. Cook his favorites and think of him and SMILE!
Bless you and your family. How wonderful that you had your dad as long as you did and that he was so very proud of you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your fond memories. He sounds like a wonderful man that I would have enjoyed standing in line with.
I’m so sorry for your loss! May you and your family be blessed by the wonderful memories and recipes he has left you.
Deb!!! I am SO sorry for your family’s loss! What a wonderful person your father was – I just love your tribute to him ❤️ I’ll be sending thoughts & prayers your way – thanks so much for telling us.
Oh, no :( I’m so very, very sorry for your loss. May his memory be for a blessing.
Deb, no wonder you are such a dear person. Your dad’s memory and his sense of humor will live on through all the generations in your family. Deb, we are all ready to wrap you in love and comfort when you return. <3
So, so sorry to hear this, Deb! Today is the 4 yr. anniversary of my mom’s passing. She was a foodie too! Still can’t bear to look @ her cookbooks with all the notes in the margins. I’ve been reading you since before Jacob was born, have both your cookbooks, & this is my first comment! I so get the cooking is my happy place comment! Again, sending sympathy…
Dear Deb,
Deepest condolences on the loss of your father. Losing a parent is devastating at any age. How sad for your mother that they did not get to celebrate their 50th anniversary together, and how extra difficult Passover will be so soon after his passing.
Thank you for sharing a piece of your father with us—he sounds like such a wonderful person. May his memory be a blessing.
What a beautiful, loving tribute. I am truly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like mine—lucky us.
Thanks for sharing. SantaDad sounds much the way I too grew up with the same contradictions and mysteries. Now, I’m SantaDad, beard and all. Just a few years younger than your Dad, and coming up on our 50th anniversary. SantaDad did a wonderful job and we appreciate him through all you’ve become and do! RIP SantaDad.
Sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
We expect our parents will always be there because they always were. It’s very difficult when we have to let them go. My deepest sympathies for your family’s loss. He will always be with you in your heart.
Ha’makom yenahem etkhem betokh she’ar avelei Tziyonvi’Yerushalayim
Deb, I am so very sorry. There are no words that can make things better. But kind thoughts are being sent your way. Food is so largely an emotional experience. I’m glad you’re able to find solace, and good memories, through your kitchen.
Deb I’m so, so, very sorry for your loss. My father also loomed large and loving my whole life until he passed. I think of him often. May the love of family and friends bring you joy, comfort, and yes, laughter, in the healing days and years to come.
May his memory be for a blessing!
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. He sounds like he was a light for so many people. May he rest in peace and may your family find comfort and solace in the days and months to come.
Deb,
I’m so sorry to hear this. Grief is a strange thing, and whatever way you’re dealing with it is the right way for you. Cooking is definitely therapeutic, especially since your cooking had such a special place with him. It’s lovely to hear all of his favorites; please continue to think about those things, take your time, and eventually it will get better. Love from Mpls
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope all the memories continue to make you smile. Love to you and your family.
We love you. I’m so sorry.
Deb, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Holding you in my heart here in Washington DC.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad years ago and think of him everyday.
I am so sorry for you and your family. Your column brought tears to my eyes. My mom died this past December, the week before Christmas. She left behind her husband of 62 years and a devastated family. My hope for you and your family is that your wonderful memories of SantaDad will bring you comfort.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Your dad looked like such a lovely man.
Thank God for memories, they keep us smiling through tears.
Condolences to you and your family. What a lovely tribute to your father. May his memories be a blessing.
Deb, so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an amazing man.
You have my sincere condolences on your loss.
I’m very sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounds like a wonderful man and a great dad. Praying peace and comfort for you and your family.
Bless you and your family always – and especially during this time. Thank you for sharing your Dad with all of us through this and other posts. Sending love and comfort.
My condolences to you and your family, Deb. May his memory be a blessing.
Your father was clearly one of the world’s best. Thanks for telling us about him. What a wonderful Santa!
Your father sounds like my father. They were both AWESOME!! I’m very sorry for the loss of your father. Thank you for sharing a little about him.
So sorry for your loss.
I just wanted to express how sorry I am for your loss… <3
So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family. Your dad sounds awesome!
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Oh Deb, I’m so very sorry you lost your dad. I lost my dad in January and it’s very…untethering.
He sounds like so much fun and he clearly loved what you do, that you’re doing that now, well, that’s the right thing to do.
Thank you for telling us about this, and again, I’m so very sorry for you and your family.
Take the time you need.
Condolences on your father’s passing. I completely understand your need to bake during grief. When my dad died, my sister in law and I cooked/baked/chopped up a storm- threw it out and started again. It’s all we knew how to do! Cooking is comfort. Peace.
I am so sorry for your loss. My 14 year-old is an avid cook, & aspiring baker. She absolutely loves your site, and is a regular reader. I will have her bake something in his honor. God bless.
I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful father with us. I’m so sorry for your loss. He must have been so very proud.
My sincere condolences for the lost of your Dad. I have lost both of my parents and I know how the empty feeling can consume you. As time passes you will remember all the good times. I am not Jewish but I am a very active Mormon. I know he is in a wonderful place and released from the worries of the world. I believe with all my being that you will see him again. Keep cooking and know he is still very proud of you. Take care.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢
Loved the beautiful words on your father. So wonderful he was so proud of you. I appreciate your sharing some of your thoughts on him and hope he will stay with you as the proud father always. My parents shaped my food and cooking world- and I would give anything to share another meal with them. But, now I cook as you did- in loving memory. Keep cooking, keep sharing your recipes and may your dad remain forever proud.
Beautiful sentiments. Thoughts and prayers to your family.
My sincerest condolences on the passing of your beloved dad. Sounds like he was a great, funny, loving man, and his loss is painful, even to me, a total stranger. May you and your family stay strong, and may his memory be a blessing.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard losing your parent. I too would be cooking up a storm to help me through it all. My best to you and your lovely family.
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Deb, I keep opening and closing the post, starting and deleting my sympathy because I’m not sure what I, as a stranger, can say that would be meaningful. My daughter and I refer to you as Deb, and we both know who we are talking about. We watch your kiddos growing up and comment on much of what you share, as if your are a distant friend. In a weird internet way, we share your loss and grieve for you. Praying for your comfort and for your family.
Deb, I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. Looking forward to his favorite recipes. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Condolences to you and your family. I’m happy that you shared such lovely memories of him.
My heart goes out to you, Deb. You’ve brought so much joy to so many people. I can only imagine how proud your dad was of you and your accomplishments. But his participation on your blog indicates that he was more than proud; you made him happy and gave him a chance to be involved in your life. I am so sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss Deb. And what a beautiful way to remember him. He was clearly a wonderful man and a fantastic father and grandfather. And don’t you worry about what you are “supposed” to do or feel – if cooking and keeping busy brings out the happier thoughts and memories, cling hard to those, that’s what matters most.
Deb…I am so sorry for your loss. I have been a subscriber for about 3 or 4 years and enjoy each and every “Smitten Kitchen” post. Even this one. Your passion for and realization that food binds our families, friends and memories rings so true. Although we have never met (and probably never will), please express my sincerest sympathies to your mother and family. Bless you at this difficult time. But keep cooking. Time and food shared with dear ones work miracles.
Thank you for sharing about such a precious and tender time… as you always do. Sending love to you and our family.
So sorry to hear about your father. I lost mine in 1994 and still think about him everyday. I’m very sorry for your loss.
Sincerely,
Liz 🌞
Sending love from Seattle. Your post moved me to tears – in part because I’ve lost my dad too, and I can imagine how the loss is echoing in so many parts of your life right now. He sounds like he was an *amazing* egg, and that shows in the faces of his child and grandchildren. May his memory be for a blessing.
I am so sorry for your loss, Deb. Your post moved me to tears – in part because I’ve lost my dad too, and I can imagine how his absence is echoing in so many parts of your life right now. He sounds like he was an *amazing* egg, and that shows in the faces of his child and grandchildren. May his memory be for a blessing.
hamakom yenachem eschem betoch availay zion v yerushalayim
may g-d grant you comfort amongst the mourners of zion and jerusalem
have a year of joy and happiness
How absolutely generous of you to share your Dad with us! He sounds to be as wonderful as I have come to believe you are. I am so sorry that you must endure his passing. Sending you love and light ~ susanne
I’m very sorry for your loss. My mum died last fall and I found comfort in the love of my family and also in the condolences I received. I wish the same for you and your family.
Such a loss, he will always be with you in your heart, in the food you eat and in the stories you tell. My sister and I lost our mother in 2001, we always are surprised it was so long ago. Loved people are always remembered for their kindness, their humor, the lessons they taught us. What better legacy.
Lovely post in tribute to your father. Thank you for sharing his story with us. He reminds me of my own dad – who I will hug a little tighter the next time I see him.
Deb, I’m so very sorry to hear about the death of your dear father. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family. Sending you love, peace, and light.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for the loss of your father.Your Father sounds like a wonderfu, kind and thoughtful man. I am sure he will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Hold on to the wonderful memories that you made together.
My heart goes out to you and your family. May his memory be a comfort and a blessing.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope the outpouring from this lovely community you have created helps to ease some of your pain.
Know that you have touched all of us and all of us are thinking of you and your family and that we are sending you all of our love and support.
I am so sorry for your loss
Sending you love. Dads are special gifts. You clearly are the product of amazing parents.
Many blessings, Deb. Xoxo
May his memory be for a blessing.
So so sorry for your loss Deb — sending you and your family lots of love.
My sincere condolences. Thank you so much for sharing a few Dad stories.
Many, many hugs and prayers for you and your family. My sister and I remain amazed at how much we yet miss our parents, gone now 20 plus years. But they’re so constantly with us in our own gestures and voices.
Oh, Deb. What a truly genuine, loving, and wonderful man your father sounds to have been. How very fortunate you all were to have him….and how fortunate he was to have been gifted with you and a family that loved him so much. I wish you all so much strength in these days, and comfort in the memories of his love and humor.
So hard losing a beloved parent, especially when they’re as unique as your dad sounds. Lost my mom a year and a half ago and think about her every day, especially when I cook. She was a master
So sorry for your loss. I enjoy your website and the many recipes. I am sure your dad was very proud of you! Hoping the many happy and wonderful memories you have of him help you through this tough time. He will always be with you.
I’m sorry for your loss, Deb. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I know you will always cherish your many lovely memories.
Dear Deb,
Sorry for your loss. I loved reading about your
happy, funny and loving memories. May these
help you get through this sad and difficult time.
Condolences to you and your family, Deb. Your dad sounds wonderful and I’m glad your children will have such wonderful memories of him, too.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb! Hang in there! Your site is the one I go to most frequently for amazing recipes and this is the first time I’ve posted. You are such an inspiration and your recipes have brought so much joy to my family and friends. I’m sure your dad is smiling down on you from above. Sending you love and comfort.
-Ann
Condolences to you and your family. Cooking and baking is what I do when I am in need of quiet solace. God bless.
I’m so sorry for your loss. A beautiful tribute you gave him here that shows just how wonderful of a person he was to you, your family and I’m guessing anyone who met him.
All the best…love, prayers and peace…for you and your family.
So sorry for your loss. My Dad meant the world to me too. He passed away quite a while ago, but I still tear up when I think of him. Do what you need to get through, I cooked too through the shiva. I have been a lurker from the beginning!
Deb,
I have never in my life commented on a website. I am a relatively new reader to your site but, having met you in California on your recent book tour, I feel like you are a neighbor sharing your life’s tidbits as we all do. I’m so sorry for your loss; know that your memories will provide comfort and that you will still feel him peering over your shoulder, reading and commenting.
Thank you for what you share and for your wonderful recipes.
I am so so sorry for your loss.
Sending you so much love. I have always loved your writing style and humor. Not to mention your wonderful recipes. My heart aches for you.
So very sorry for your loss. He has so much to be proud of. I can feel so much love and joy in your family from your writing, thank you for sharing. Lots of love to you and you and your family.
Blue skies and tailwinds~ sorry for your loss, Deb.
I’m so sorry – it’s always hard to loose a loved one, especially a parent. It sounds like he was an awesome dad. :( At least you know that he’s with loved ones on the other side… Take care!
I’m so very sorry for your loss. It can’t be easy to lose someone with such life and positive energy. The world seems as if it dims a bit when we lose someone so bright. But, together, we can be the bright positive force for others. Thinking of you… it can’t be easy, and I would guess that cooking helps immensely!
Deb, the love for your dad is evident and will abide. It can’t be taken away or diminished like so much in life. You and he and what that was still is.
Thanks for telling us of your profound love for your dad in these days when men seem to be on the ropes and suffering from a universally felt loss of self-worth.
My condolences to your mom whose loss of her life partner is of a measure unfathomable to most.
Now about that ‘Noodle Kugle’… will have, too, check that out.
With due regard…. AL
So sorry for your loss. Hopefully you and your family will find comfort in the future, in your many memories.
Sorry for your major loss. He sounds like a great person. Take care.
Thank you for sharing your life and your dad with us. He sounds wonderful. You have countless memories to make you laugh and warm your heart when you are lonely for him. Sending you a tight squeeze, honey.
Oh Deb, I am so sorry for your profound loss. Your heart will ache, for sure and for a long, long time. The love you shared with your father lives forever, and he’s part of the fabric of who you and your children will be forever as well. May his memory be for a blessing and comfort you, your mom and the entire clan who loved him.
You’ll miss your dad in so many ways, especially his comments which kept him close to you.
How beautiful the two photographs! How special the love of a parent for his
child, and the love returned to the parent….all evident in these two pictures
taken years apart. I’m glad you know…could feel… how much your father loved you, and how proud he was of your many accomplishments.
I know you are all sad, I’m sorry for your loss. I envy your having a wonderful father all those years.
I’m so sorry for your loss – he truly must have been a very special man since he helped raise someone as talented and giving as you.
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. May you find comfort and joy in your memories during this difficult time.
Wishing you all the love and comfort that cooking and remembering these moments and stories will give you. Write as much as you can… I promise you, you’ll be grateful in a year, two years… 10 years when you happen upon your words again. I so enjoy your blog and look forward to reading more recipes and relishing in more of your beautiful memories too. :) Thank you for sharing.
I’m so sorry to hear this. Vey hard news.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Take time to come back on here. We will all still be here waiting for you…❤️
Wonderful memories of a life lived with love. Thank you for sharing him with all your readers. Holding you and your family in my thoughts.
Donna
So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a source of comfort. A friend shared that ‘grief is just love with no where to go’. Sounds like you can send that love out through your food.
What a wonderful tribute to your father. My grandpa was this sort, definitely a good egg, and I’m so sorry you didn’t get another ten years with your dad. I hope memories of him buoy you, and you hear a thousand new and wonderful stories about him this week. xx
Sorry for your loss, circle of life but does not make it any less sad. I am sure he was delighted with your success.
so sorry for your loss.
Here’s to your Dad, he sounds wonderful. ❤️
I’m sorry you have lost such a great support. My dad died nearly 10 years ago and I still miss talking with him.
A beautiful man and a lovely relationship …. a dad’s love is a blessing. My deepest sympathy.
So sorry for your loss. I hope the many memories will help you get through it and bring you peace.
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great guy and awesome and very special dad. Mine was like that too. This won’t be the easiest Pesach, but it will get easier. We are so lucky that we had dads that we loved so much. ❤️
I’m so sorry Deb. What an amazing tribute. All the love and light from West Virginia!
Nothing any of us can say will change the feelings of this moment, but know that he will be remembered not only by those lucky enough to know him personally, but also the rest of us who got to see his warmth and love through your writings on this site. No tribute can ever equal the value of the person being remembered, but that is still a pretty good one you’ve created, and I hope someday that brings you some comfort.
I’m so sorry for your loss. But what wonderful memories you have of him, and have now shared with us. Sending my best to you and your family.
I’m so sorry about your loss. Sounds like you and your Dad had a wonderful relationship. Remember.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. This is such a beautiful tribute, and he was clearly a wonderful man and father. Sending love to you and your family.
So very sorry to read about your loss. There is never a good time to lose a father… I love that he was so “into” your site. Over time, I hope you have many fun memories of him that help to ease your grief.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your father sounded like a wonderful man, and I know he will be greatly missed. Know that everyone in this community you have built is thinking of you and your family and wishing you peace and warm memories in this difficult time.
My condolences to you and your family.
My sincere sympathy on your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful person which is no surprise—the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Thoughts and prayers during for you and your family.
Oh Deb,
I am so very sorry about your dad. Dads and daughters have very special relationships and it sounds this the case for you and your sister. Thank you for sharing your stories about him with us, your devoted readers. My sympathies and thoughts go out to you and your family.
So sorry for the loss of your Dad. It sounds like you two had a wonderful relationship. What a gift and lasting legacy. Sending you love!
May his memory (continue to) be for a blessing. This is a beautiful tribute, as I’m sure are the dishes coming out of your kitchen this week. I hope your family has a good Passover.
I am sorry for your and your family’s loss. Your dad sounded like a lovely man who readily shared his opinions. It’s nice that you have wonderful memories of him that will keep him near to you forever.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. May your sweet memories and time spent with your dad sustain you and comfort you. Much love to you and your family.
I also sorry for your loss. Take comfort in your memories. Your tribute to your Dad is beautiful! Thank you for sharing during such a difficult time.
I’m so so sorry for your loss, Deb! He sounds a lot like my dad and I can’t imagine how hard it will be to lose him. I hope you’re taking good care of yourself, you’ll be in my thoughts.
The first line of your blog entry stopped me in my tracks. Thank you for this touching tribute to your father. Sounds like he was a very proud man. These are very difficult life transitions and celebrating the memories is one of the ways through. I am sorry for your loss.
Dear Deb,
So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
Deb,
I am sorry for the loss of your dad. He sounds like a loving and lovely man. How wonderful to have a dad that followed along with your blog and accomplishments and touted them to all he met. Thank you for sharing him with us. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. He sounds like a great guy. And there is no reason a Jewish man cannot play Santa Claus, if he is inclined to do so. Clara
So sorry for your loss. Treasure the memories and let yourself grieve. Take care.
I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful, personal tribute.
Baruch dayan emes. May HaShem comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
❤️
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My mother unexpectedly died last week, too.
What a lovely tribute to your Dad. May his memory always bring a smile to your face and a warmth in your heart.
I think you’re “supposed” to do anything that makes you feel better, and if cooking makes you feel good, then by all means cook up a storm! I’m sorry about your dad; mine died about three years ago and I’m still finding things to ask him, and tell him… he started showing up in my dreams after about a year and it’s very comforting. I wish the same comfort for you.
Deb, my blessings are with your family, your story about your dad was very moving, I love my Dad lots.
oh honey, i’m so sorry. i just got some very jarring news about an old friend (also in your neck o’ the woods) a few minutes ago, and now this and i’m just so, sooo sorry and sad. much love to you and your family. <3
Sending you love and hugs. Hearing you describe your father helps me better understand how someone as genuine and warm as you came to be. Thank goodness for both of you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away 15 years ago and I still miss him. The first year is the hardest as you celebrate holidays and milestones without him. But over time the loss goes from being raw to bittersweet. My prayers are with your family.
So sorry for your loss, Deb. He was rightly proud of you.
Your post made me cry. You were blessed to have such a wonderful father.
Prayers to you all.
What a wonderful tribute to a man who sounds absolutely delightful. It’s nice that you can eulogize him here and share his stories with so many readers. Food and family are so inextricably mixed in my memories that I may not remember what someone said at a family gathering but I always remember the food that was served, food made with love. My thoughts are with you during this sad time.
So very sorry for your loss. He sounds like such a special dad/grandpa.
I’m so very sorry for your loss! I can already see his memory is a delicious blessing.
So sad to hear about your dad. You’re so generous to share your love of life, family, and food with all of us. Sending you and all those you love much love back with prayers (admittedly heathen ones from this Jew-Bu).
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear this. My grandfather passed away last Friday, and it’s been a strange couple of weeks for me, too. I keep reminding myself it wouldn’t be so hard if we hadn’t been so lucky. My wish for you is time with family, remembering fondly the man you loved.
My deepest Condolenses Deb! I too have lost a great father. It sounds like yours was a wonderful man. He will always be there in spirit.
When my mother died in November of 1995, I came home and made 8 Linzer Tortes, a recipe she and I made together.(thank goodness I have a no freezer and Xmas just around the corner)
I just found the recipe and am making for Easter.
Cooking is good grieving, don’t deny yourself.
Deb,
Sending deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Dear Deb,
I am sorry for your, and your family’s, loss. May he rest in peace and be remembered with love and appreciation.
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was an incredible guy.
By the way – in the wedding photo at the top, you can see the resemblance between you two :)
so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful, loving tribute. Thank you for sharing
I always enjoyed his contributions. He was lovely and so are you. ❤️
What a lovely tribune to a lovely sounding father. I wish you ease in your loss and encourage you keep cooking.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. May your father’s memory be for a blessing.
Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of your father. You have graciously allowed us to join with you in your loss as well as collectively celebrating a life well-lived, and no doubt, well-loved.
I am a long-time reader, baker, and follower, but only an occasional commenter. This entry, however, has moved me to tears. You are a gifted writer, as well as a phenomenal baker and cook. I am very sorry for your loss.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Dad’s are so dear to their daughters, and vice versa. It took a long time to be able to remember without tears. You are in my thoughts.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my mother two years ago this month and the longing to just pick up the phone to talk to her never seems to go away. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with your father–as they say it seems he was a real mensch! My father was also mensch, but he died so young that I didn’t get to enjoy his company when I was an adult. Rejoice in all of the memories, funny stories, bad jokes and kibitzing that your enjoyed with him.
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful father and grandfather.
Beautifully, poignantly written, as always— my deep sympathies to you for this great loss. I think it makes perfect sense to cook a lot this week. It’s one of the simplest, most practical ways we try to comfort grieving people, and I think it’s perfectly fine to comfort yourself in the same way. Wishing you peace.
The loss of a parent is something we never get over. We just learn to live with it. Gone are the days of calling them for advice or to just call them to talk. There isn’t a day goes by where you don’t think of them. Through our memories of them they will live on as long as we do.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Much love to you and your family. <3
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. This is a lovely tribute and your dad sounds like a wonderful man and father.
I’m so sorry to read this… losing your dad brings such grief, I know from experience. I think staying busy and honoring your father in the manner you choose is a very good and peaceful way to help you move forward. Yesterday, I spent several hours re-reading my dad’s WWII military papers and diary–very comforting, even though he’s been gone for 14 years. I hope that every time you make certain dishes (his favorites, things he made, etc), you will remember him and smile–at least, this is what I do. It becomes less painful and more of a wonder that you are this dear man’s daughter. Blessings to you and your family.
May your Father’s memory be a blessing! He sure does sound like a ‘good egg!’
Please accept my most sincere condolences for the loss of your father. May your journey through grief in mourning for him be filled with all the special memories you have and all the moments you shared. It is your legacy and the best gift a parent can give. Blessings to you and your family.
Blessings to you and yours. Hoping all the happy memories keep coming, they make the hard time easier.
Kelly
I’m so sorry to hear about your father’s passing. He seems like an amazing man and he definitely raised a great daughter. In the links at the bottom of your post, I clicked on the “chocolate chip sour cream coffee cake” link and I was floored! When my mother passed away 18 years ago a family friend brought over a very similar recipe. It was a really difficult time, but I remember that chocolate chip cinnamon cake vividly. Probably because it was the only thing I nibbled on for about a week. I’ve never had the recipe and always been a little sad about that. But now I’ve found your recipe! I will make it and think about my mom and your dad. Maybe somewhere they can have a cup of coffee together and think of their daughters who love to bake. Baking is therapy to me. Thank you, as always, for SK. It’s one of my favorite places!
Condolences to you and your family. He sounds like a wonderful man. Lives are too short. Everyone, enjoy yours, even in the bad and depressing times. Love your family and take care of them any way you can. That’s real life.
My condolences and virtual hugs to you and yours. Losing a parent ages you in ways you never thought possible while at the same time making you feel more like a child than you ever did before. Hang in there and do what YOU feel you want or need to do for the time being.
My condolences to you and your family. What a loving tribute. I hope you find comfort in all the love and prayers coming your way
I’m sorry. That’s so inadequate, but I sincerely hope you enjoy the memories and share them.
Heartfelt sympathies. I pray for strength and peace for all your family.
I lost my dad earlier this year, too. I knew it was coming, but that didn’t make it any less difficult. I’m in the “do what makes you feel good without being self destructive” camp. If that’s cooking, do it. I’m sorry for your loss.
My condolences. The loss of a parent is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone but it happens to everyone. Be kind to yourself and be patient with the grief process. It takes so much out of you and it can take months before you realize it.
My sincerest condolences to you, your mother and your entire family, Deb.
What a lovely man he was. So sad for you and your family.
I’m so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. I hope you will find comfort in your memories of him. It sounds like he was a great dad.
I am so incredibly sorry, Deb.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May your memories of him bring blessings.
I’m so sorry to hear this Deb. Sending lots of love your way.
Deb I’m so sorry for your loss, may him rest in peace… The hurt lessens as the time goes by yet you miss more and more ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss.
So so sorry for your loss, Deb
I am truly sorry for your loss.
So much love to you and your family.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your words are touching, and give a poignant glimpse into the wonderful man your father surely was. I’m a longtime lurker, first time commenter. I didn’t fully appreciate the sense of connection I’d developed from reading your amazing work over the years, but the story about your father makes my heart ache.
May your lovely memories comfort you in this sad time.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad in January and it’s the worst club no one wants to join. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself as much time as you need. It’s tough but please let all the kind words and memories lift you up. I’m so happy you’re cooking I haven’t been able to due to travel. BUT as soon as I can I will make your dreamy scones with chocolate chips, my dads all time favorite, which I made triple and quadruple of your recipe to send home with him every time either of us visited one another.
Hugs,
TinaLouise
So very sorry for your loss.
Deb, My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family!
I am so sorry for your loss.
Deb, I’m so sorry for the pain of your loss. Thank you for sharing this lovely tribute to him with us. Wishing you and your family comfort in your memories of him and the dishes you shared.
Dear Deb, Sending good thoughts to you and your family at this difficult time. I am very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the beautiful photos of you and your Dad.
I’m so sorry. Thanks for treating us like family with this post and always.
Deb, My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Dads are a very special blessing from God. I hope that cooking and spending time in your kitchen will bring comfort to your soul.
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.
I am so, so sorry for your immense loss. May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
I usually never post, just enjoy the recipes and leave, but let me take a minute to extend my heartfelt condolences.
Very sincere condolences.
Dear Deb, I have never posted before but I was so moved by your beautiful tribute to your father. I never knew my father having lost him when I was six weeks old and have always missed growing up without him. Your wonderful memories will be with you forever. So sorry for your loss.
Deb – I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t usually post, but I want to share with you what we had our children do when we lost a loved one. We had them find a photo that they liked of grandpa or grandma (usually they were in the photo). And then we had them make a frame out of construction paper, popsicle sticks or whatever else we had in the house. This framed picture went by their bedside. And 5, 7, and 8 years later, it is still in the bedroom. They look at everyday – sometimes just a glance – and the memory is still with them.
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am happy that you are finding some solace in cooking. When my mom died a few years ago, I found hiking in the woods with friends to be a comfort. Whatever works.
Sending love and comfort to you and your family. I have cooked my way through my share of emotional trauma (often making your recipes) and hope you are finding comfort in it, too. Know that your online “family” has your back.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Thinking of you and your family. I hope cooking helps you get through this difficult time, just as your recipes have brought comfort and joy to so many of us.
Your grieving time is yours to do with as you like. There are no requirements or restrictions. I’ve enjoyed your blog for several years. I never thought about your dad reading it–I’m sure he enjoyed seeing it show up in his email box even more than I did.
Dear Deb,
Thank you for honoring your loss by sharing in this space. As you point out, the good things are easier to share. But it’s the hard things that make us a community. I share your experience of recently losing a wonderful and supportive father. My heart goes out to you. The road ahead is bumpy and long. Someday you may notice the pain is easier to carry. For now, please be kind to yourself.
Your father sounds to have been a fine, warm, enthusiastic man who loved you well. I am sorry he died. I know you will miss him and grieve him. Treasure your memories, they will always be with you.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Your Mom is especially in my thoughts.
That fiftieth wedding anniversary is tough to achieve. So sad for her. You will never forget your Dad and he will live always in the minds and hearts of the people who loved him. Speak of him often and your children will never forget him.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man who loved you very much!
Dear Deb,
I am so so sorry for your loss. Though I did not know your father, I am so grateful to him. You, wonderful, kind, talented, hardworking, Deb have made my life better for 10 years. If he were here, I would thank your father for loving and supporting you so that you can do this work in the world. Though a light has gone out, he created a ray of sunshine in you. You two will always glow bright together. Sending love and care during this most difficult of times.
Yours,
Fern
I, too, have a precious dad that is no longer on this earth. My heart aches with yours as well as being warmed by loving memories.
Please accept my condolences for your loss. Your father sounds like a wonderful person.
You have my sympathy for your loss. My mom passed away yesterday. Thank you for everything you share.
I am sad for your loss, Deb. While I have never commented on your site before, I thoroughly enjoy your blog and your recipes. Wonderful fathers enrich and bring such light to our lives and your father sounds one of those.
My Dad is my “person” in my family so just want to send love and prayers to you. Words are never the right ones but keeping you in my thoughts.
Fathers are some kind of special – I’m so sorry for your loss.
Oh, Deb, I lost my own mother 9 years ago tomorrow, so I have some idea of what you must be feeling. Strength and courage to you and your family right now. It’s clear from the way that you’ve written about him that your father was a wonderful man.
My condolences to you and your family. Thank you for your post, which must have been difficult to write, and for the beautiful photos.
So sorry for your loss, Deb! He sounds like a great Dad.
Oh, my dear. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry to hear of your great loss. May warm memories comfort you and your family.
Deb, Although we’ve never met, I feel as if I know you (like so many of us) through your words. I started crying when I read your news. My heart goes out to you in this difficult time.
Deb, thinking of you.
PK
My condolences on your dads passing. Cooking and baking to keep you busy makes sense to me. My stepfather passed away last month and I’ve enjoyed making dishes that give me remind me of him and keep my mind busy.
Deb, the comments here are testament to how much you and your Dad are loved.
remember * cook * laugh * eat * cook * smile * remember
Those memories of him will surround you like a long hug for the rest of your life. Lucky is the little girl who grow’s up with a loving dad. My heart aches with you as I have felt the loss of my dad as well. But he will be with you every day when you smell bagel’s or see cherries or look into the eye’s of a child. His warmth is with you even now. I raise a toast to all of you! Love is all.
Your father lives on in these memories and delicious meals he enjoyed. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here and I hope you find comfort in his love and “spunk.” Sending love from Hawaii, Mina
Peg, So sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. He was much too young to be separated from his loving family. He sounds like a dad we all wish we had. I am so sad for your loss and it probably will take a long time to heal. but with time it will get easier. Stay strong and enjoy the wonderful memories you have of him. With my deepest sympathy, Lucy
I am but one of the hundreds of people that love you, as is evidenced by the poignant and lovely replies to the news that your Dad has passed. I will not try to add to any of these posts but will say my thoughts of love and support for you are the same and lovingly sent. I am old enough to have lost almost all my family now but my Dad went first. He was funny and loving, supportive and dear. What I learned about grief is that even long after the loss, grief will sneak up on you in the smallest or weirdest ways/times. It catches you off guard. But as time went on, I realized it wasn’t just grief visiting unexpectedly, but a lovely memory. And most often a very sweet memory I could enjoy. My heart goes out to you and yours, Deb. God bless.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Wishing you and your family peace during this time.
So very sorry for loss. May your many wonderful memories of him provide you some comfort. Love to you and your family
Take care of yourself and be gentle during this sad and challenging time. Cook and do whatever seems right at the moment because there is no “right” way to grieve the loss of a cherished parent.
wishing you moments of peace….
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry. I remember my mom, who passed away just two years ago, most fondly through food. It was a language we could speak together (even though we had vast areas of disagreement at times–she was an avowed mayo hater, I see nothing wrong with it/she loved beet, I would rather eat toenails, once I made the chicken with grapes from your first book for her just to see her reaction…oh that was a hoot! etc) and I sense that same connection in these words of love you’ve shared about your dad. I hope that eggplant Parmesan is delicious. Much love.
Sorry for your loss, sounds like a great father!
Hi Deb. So sorry to hear this. A light has gone out in the world, for sure.
I join in offering my sympathy. I lost my dad 4 years ago, and I still enjoy saving things to tell him. Your father will always be with you.
Abby
Sending lots of love and light to your family during this difficult time.
Sorry for your loss. The musings you provide with your recipes make you feel like family. Savor the memories of your father.
The only things that kept me from completely breaking after my dad passed 1 1/2 years ago were cooking and cleaning (the latter of which I normally loathe). I’m with you. And I’m so, so sorry. Sending lots of love your way.
So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this lovely, touching love letter in his memory! He sounds like a great guy. I’m sure he would have been 100% on board with you coping through cooking! All the best for you and your family, Johanna, another lurker
What a beautiful tribute to a great Dad😢
I’m so sorry Deb…my Dad is 93 and I know that my days with him are precious. I too cook or bake when I’m sad or upset – it seems, to me at least, a very practical and sensible way to deal with grief. It simply makes me and those around me feel a little bit more ‘normal’ and we are all fed a comforting meal. All of my thoughts, prayers, hugs and peace are offered and sent to you during this difficult time…
May his memory be a blessing. <3
Dear Deb, I hope it’s some comfort to you right now to think about all the people you’ve helped through their grief and their rituals of grieving with your recipes. Its so wonderful that your dad had such a child to be proud of and that you had such a father. All best to your whole family.
Thanks for sharing your delightful memories of your Father, Deb.
I am so sorry for this loss.
I am so sorry to hear this, Deb. Thank you for sharing the photos and stories about him — you’ve given us such a vivid glimpse of who he was. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re surrounded by food and love this week and ongoingly, as you make your way through this loss.
Oh Deb – so sorry. No matter how old you are, it is so hard to lose a parent. My Dad dies in 2004 at the same age as your Dad. In some ways it seems a lifetime ago and then it seems like yesterday. You are lucky that you have all those food memories with/about your Dad and that he was such a supporter. My thoughts are with you, your Mom and your family. Kristin
I’m so sorry. It’s so clear from your Dad’s comments on your site how wonderful and supportive and proud of you he was. I know there’s nothing I can really add to what’s already been said here—just count me among the many sending healing thoughts your way.
I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m tearing up here and I didn’t even know him.
Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.
So very sorry for your loss, Deb. 💛
I am sorry to hear of your loss. He was certainly a great father and person.
I am so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing, Deb. I have no adequate words …
Tears, nothing short. Passover is literally when the “good eggs” pass over. My Dad’s yahrzeit is tomorrow, my mothers three days after, and my maternal grandmother just a day after. I know the pain. May his memory be for a blessing.
I am so so sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your sadness and the loss of a seemingly lovely man/husband/dad/grandpa. May you find solace in cooking his favorites. With love to you and your entire family…
So sorry for your loss… what a blessing to have such wonderful memories to sustain you even as you grieve.
Dear Deb, so sorry for your loss. May your fond memories bring you a sense of peace. Condolences and blessings on you and your family. Sincerely, Debra (from one Deb to another!)
My condolences to you and your family, Deb. You Dad sounds like a wonderful man. I enjoyed reading your fond memories of him.
Sorry for you and your family that you lost your father. It’s nice that you can keep his memory alive with recipes he enjoyed.
Deb I am sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Hold onto the memories!
I’m so sorry for your loss but so happy you had such a good relationship with him. Sending love and peace you you and your family. ♥️♥️
I am so very sorry for your loss! My condolences to you and your family…my dad left us last June…he left a huge hole in our family! There is no right or wrong way to get through the process of grieving. Do what feels right for you. Your dad looks like a truly wonderful person. The memories you have of him will be with you forever!
Sorry for your loss Deb. It’s always hard to lose a loved one. Hope you and your family get the strength to help you cope with the loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and so happy you have so many wonderful memories of his life and his love that are part of you. I hope your cooking brings you solace, and that always, his voice will be part of what comforts you and strengthens you as you move through life.
Oh I’m so so sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute of your father. And perhaps cooking is the perfect way to spend the first week of grief – it’s an emotional act on the best of days, and so what better way to process such deep emotions on a hard day?
Deb, I had grief described to me as waves. In the beginning, the waves are high and strong. As time goes on, there are still waves, but they are milder and farther apart. I lost my beloved Dad 16 months ago, and my sweet Mom three months later. There are days that the waves come rolling back in, but not as often or as intense. The first birthdays without them, the anniversary of their deaths, the anniversary of their wedding, family celebrations, holidays…they all have their “I miss them” moments. But I also find myself looking upward and talking to them when I need to. Hang in there kiddo. Thanks for sharing your life with us as well as your recipes. You are not alone.
I am sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like a wonderful person. I pray that your memories of him will comfort you and bring a smile to your face in the midst of your grieving.
There is never a good time to lose a parent, you’re never ready and it always hurts. Let yourself grieve his loss while you celebrate his life and his love. Do what you need to do to get through (I always cook up a storm when I’m grieving, too) and don’t rush to get back to life as usual. Thinking of you and your family
You are never grown up enough to lose your dad. Love to you. Judy
Oh, no. My condolences to you. ❤️
so sorry to hear about your loss… may fond memories help to comfort you during this difficult time… may his memory be for a blessing…
Phyllis Bienstock
What a sweet tribute to your dad! He sounds like an amazing person, so sorry for your loss.
So, so sorry for your loss! Good dads are few and far between…sounds like you had a fantastic one!
I am sorry about your loss! Please be patient with yourself and nice to yourself! Grief takes times and comes in many forms…you are allowed to feel sad, angry, relieved, and whatever feelings come over you! Keep on cooking – maybe include your dads favorite dishes in the menu for a while…..
Dear Deb, sending hugs! So sorry to hear of this news. Do take care of yourself.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs to you! I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending loving thoughts your way.
Oh Deb,
so sorry for your and your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing your love for this “good egg”. He does sound like a wonderful father, husband, and man. Take care of yourself as much as possible. I hope it truly gets easier as the days go on. I’m Turkish and there, when someone has lost a loved one, they say “Basin sagolsun” which means “may your mind be healthy”. May your mind be healthy as well as your spirit during this terrible time.
Your dad sounds delightful. I’m sorry for your loss.
I send you my love, prayers, and empathy! I am truly so sorry. I know that death is not the end, but it is still hard. Have Jacob and Anna tell you everything they remembers about him, and write it down. My kids were two and three when my mom passed, and I wish I had written down in their own words the things they remembered.
Sincerely sorry that you have lost your father but oh what a mark he has obviously made in your life. I hope you will add to your next cookbook a tribute chapter called, “Dad’s Favorites”. Personally, I would like to make several of his favorites as a tribute and because he probably had extremely good taste. Blessings to you.
What a beautiful memorial to your father. He sounds like my kind of guy! My thoughts are with you, and your family, during this challenging time.
What a wonderful man! Thank you for sharing this bit of him with us, your cyber friends. Peace to you and your family.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. I am heartbroken for you. Anyone who has read your blog for five minutes knows how much your family means to you. Sending you and your family much love and prayers.
Deb
So sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad died very young many years ago and I still miss him! I guess the only thing you can do is cherish every moment while you have them and if you’re lucky you’ll have them a long time and then you’ll have some wonderful memories. i know several people who don’t have those great times with their parents so we are the lucky ones. And, yes cooking some of my Dad’s favorites are helpful at these times too!
I’m so sorry to hear this, Deb. When my dad (another Santa dad) passed away (7 years ago now) I got into the kitchen and baked bread. It was good to have something tangible to do because when you lose a parent you feel – untethered. This is a lovely portrait of him. I know you miss him terribly.
((hugs)) He sounds like an amazing man and you were and are blessed to have shared your lives. Wishing your heart peace, and hoping that tears of sadness and pain are soon joined by deep belly laughs and smiles from all the great memories.
I’m so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. My dad just passed in January after a brief illness. I too cooked my way through the grief. I’m still doing that. I’ve been enjoying your cookbook this last month. Thank you for what you do… Giving people the opportunity and the means to make good food and make it acessible. It makes life more enjoyable and sadness more bearable. God bless you during this time of sorrow.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Wow, what a nice tribute. Nonstop cooking always helps with a major loss. And this is major. I always smile when I make things my dad loved — which was just about anything I made for him. ❤️
You feel like family to so many of us, Deb, and I’m so sad to read this post. I am sending you love and comfort from one of the many kitchen tables — and families — you’ve brightened.
What a lovely tribute. Your dad sounds like a real gem. What a lucky life that you got to have him, and he you.
You feel like family to many of us, Deb, and I so sorry for the loss of your dad. Sending you love and comfort from one of the many tables — and families — you’ve brightened with your recipes and stories.
I came looking for a sweet treat to make and found something much sweeter. What a lovely tribute. Be well and cherish the memories. They are tastier, heart warming and more filling than any meal.
Be well. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Best-
SYP
Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. Thank you for sharing these sweet stories about him. May your family find comfort in one another at this time.
He sounds like a wonderful man. Strength and love to you as you begin your life without him. Hold your wonderful memories close, at first they are painful but will ultimately sustain you. Big hugs xx
The world is richer for having had your dad, and clearly we are all most fortunate to have you carrying on his spirit… Peace to you and your family
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man and a really wonderful dad. My sympathies to you and your family.
Deb- I love your recipes and make them all the time. I will routinely tell my boyfriend while making dinner, “This is what Deb says to do!” I have never commented before but felt so moved by this post. Know that I am thinking of you!
I’m not one to leave lots of comments on websites, but you have moved me with your sweet and lovely words of honor of your pops. Though I do not know you personally, I am quite familiar with the personal feeling of losing a beloved parent. I wish for you love and comfort from your family and friends, and I wish for you to be kind and gentle to yourself and to cook and bake as much as you like. My most sincerest condolences on your great loss.
I just lost my dad not too long ago, too. It’s like joining the world’s lousiest club. I’m so sorry for your loss–it always sucks, but it eventually gets less strange. I’ll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts. You know, my dad never read your site, but he sure did love all of the food that I’d bring him made from the recipes here. There were more than a few things that he would go ape over, and immediately hide so he wouldn’t have to share. I bet he would have had a great time talking to your dad about how awesome Smitten Kitchen is.
So sorry for you loss. I would have loved to have met your dad. He sounds like a very good person. May you cooking console your heart and keep your memories alive.
He sounds like a wonderful man, and my heart aches for you as you learn life in this new season. With arohanui (lots of love) from a big fan of yours from Down Under.
I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Deb, my dad passed away 20 years ago 3 months short of their 50 anniversary.. so sad.. my dad died in his sleep .. good for him hard for us.. still think of him everyday.., thinking he’ll call as he always did daily..
The firsts are always most difficult as you will experience thus week with Passover…
My thoughts are with you and sending hugs..
Ps I am a huge fan.. my son came to Your signing in nyc and got me a cookbook signed. I live in Michigan and wish she would’ve come there but I sent my son and he gave you a hug for me. Try to get through the holidays things will be OK just different all my best
Gayle
I’m so sorry for your loss.I loved his bagels guest post.
I am so sorry about your dad. Its really hard to lose a parent, but I think he was very proud of you. Hugs to you and your mom!
I say you’re “supposed to” do whatever will make you and your family feel a little less awful. Doing something that gave your dad joy seems perfect to me. Love to you all.
Deb! I’m so sorry. It sounds like you have much of your dad’s humor, and for that we are all grateful and our lives are enriched. I’m thinking of you and your family with much love.
I send a hug to you today. I was the child of a German Catholic mother and a Russian Jewish father in a small town where he was the only Jew. In a more innocent time, every Easter he would sit in his big chair, cackling, and lay colored Easter eggs which my friends and I could pull from the space between the cushion and the arms of the chair. It was a SMALL town. Everyone knew him because he was kind and funny. We would take our colored eggs for “Show and Tell” and report that Mr. Goldberg had laid them. He has been gone for 20 years
but I still miss him.
I am so sorry to hear this. My Mom was also born in 1940 and she passed away last year. It hurts to lose a parent but the lovely memories will see you through your grief. My sympathies to your family. Big Hug, Claire
Oh. I’m really sorry to hear this news. Hugs xx
Ps: last night I cooked for my 80 year old father in law a recipe from your new cookbook: the pork tenderloin with pumpkin and sweet and sour onion sauce. It was a hit!
My sincere condolences. I too was a Daddy’s girl and the loss seemed such that I would never recover but one does and the memories are what makes us strong.
So sorry for your loss! May his memory always be for a blessing.
Oh, Deb. I’ve followed this blog more religiously than any other for what I think is more than a decade and have never commented. I lost my dad a few months back, right at my parent’s 50th anniversary. Thanks for the love and light that you bring into this world by sharing your cooking that is so closely related to family. Thanks for inspiring a ridiculous amount of my own cooking. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself space. Love to you and your family in this tough time.
Very sorry for your loss — may the memories you cherished together comfort you in the days to come.
Dearest Deb, My warmest thoughts and prayers for you and yours are with you. Please accept my deepest condolences. May God keep you closer than ever as He helps you to walk through this very difficult time.
I am so very sorry that your Father has passed away. He sounds like a delightful person. My prayers go out to your Mother, you, and your family. You will all think of him with love every day. I am glad he was a giant part of your life for so long.
Oh, Deb, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like the best kind of dad–loving and supportive and fun. Will be thinking of you all.
Deb,
It is something we do, thinking of our parents and how they loved particular dishes.. lots of ups and downs will be a part of going through this process. My thoughts and sympathies go out to you.
My heart is with you. My first thought was “I need to make Sweet Potato Pie!”
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m wishing peace and calm and good memories for you.
I’ve been following your blog for probably 9 years. The way you write, it feels like you’re my childhood friend who shares your favorite recipes and updates me on all of your life’s adventures. I’ve drooled over your trips, beamed at your ever-growing children, and been inspired by your cooking. When I saw your post today, I immediately teared up. From your internet friend in the ether, I am so so sorry. Losing a parent is a certain type of heartbreak that can’t be described. He may be gone, but he will never leave you. My heart is with you and your family.
Dear Deb,
I’m saddened for the loss of your Father. Like you, I had a Jewish father who was very proud of who I am, and never shy about saying so. He had a song or a joke for every occasion, and sounds a lot like your Dad. The world is simply not as bright when that kind of a light goes out. May his memory be a blessing.
Oh, Deb … I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing those wonderful photos and memories. Sending love and light to you and yours …
I am so sorry to hear about your beloved Dad’s passing. My heart goes out to you Deb, I am sending you some warm vibes. Lots of love.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed reading about your dad: thanks for sharing a little bit about him. Will be thinking about you as I continue to cook my way through your wonderful new cookbook…
Oh, thank you for that lovely remembrance. I wish you and your family well.
May the memory of your dad be a blessing
Surely a wonderful man and father you had! I am so sorry for your loss! Memory Eternal! Praying for comfort for you all. He will be surely missed in your lives and here.
Oh, Deb, I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. But you did great in remembering all the little things that made him such a special person to you. It’s the best way to remember him! May you continue to get a big smile on your face every time you make a dish he loved, and a chuckle when those typos sneak in! Baruch Dayan Harmeth❤️
I am sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss, Deb.
Memories are the best ingredients. I have been saying this for sometime now, “this is an amazing food blog”. Deb, you are a good egg. I admire you. Peace. Be. With. You.
I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful post you’ve written. Your father sounds like he was a wonderful man. I made it most of the way through your post, but the last paragraph made me teary. I, too, turn to cooking and baking when my life is topsy turvy. I can imagine the catharsis of turning ingredients into meals to love my people with and to keep me busy. I’m praying for you and your family and sending you every ounce of love and good energy that I can muster.
Oh, Deb. I am so sorry. Please share more stories of your wonderful Dad anytime – he sounds like an amazing man. You and your family are in my thoughts. Much love.
I’m so sorry for your loss, but your memories of him and his pride in you are so special and sweet.
❤️
So sorry to hear of your father’s passing. I think cooking was probably good therapy for you, he obviously enjoyed talking –and eating — food. It’s a way to keep those good memories alive.
It’s so hard when someone you love is gone. You miss them even more than you ever thought you could. Your heart actually hurts. It won’t bring him back but love remains forever.
Please know that I hope you find some comfort in this heartfelt “I’m so sorry”.
Deb~My heart goes out to you and your family. I agree with the previous comment in that this is especially hard for us girls when our Dads were very close to us. May your memories of him bring you comfort and time spent in your kitchen cooking and baking for your family be a cathartic distraction as it was for myself when my Dad died. Your recipe for Fresh Cranberry Scones just came out of the oven! I omitted the lemon and added 1/2c chopped Ghiradelli white chocolate. Best Scones Ever!! Will have to try the chocolate chip sour cream coffee cake next!!! ;) So sorry for your loss, Hugs from MN!!!
Dear Deb, I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in staying busy in the kitchen while your thoughts and memories remain with your father. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
So sorry for your Dad’s passing! Keeping you in my prayers
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss.
So very sorry for your loss…big hugs…
I am so sorry that your dad has died. Even as an adult, I know it is a shock and I remember wondering how the world could go on after my dad died. How could the sun shine? How could people laugh? Who will look under the hood of our car to check for things amiss?
I found myself once in the drugstore, months after he died, staring at a gentleman on the next aisle because something about the way he moved made me think of my dad.
I hope the memories of your dad will give you comfort and that you will remember to tell your children silly little stories about him. He sounds like a very proud daddy, and I love him for that too!
Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother in August, and cooking was all I could do in the weeks that followed. The food we share with others shapes our relationships with them, and I truly mean it when I say that your food, and your site, have shaped my relationships with many. In fact, before I started a proper recipe binder, I kept my grandmother’s handwritten “secret” recipes hidden in pages of your cookbook. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself here, and may your family find solace in each other right now.
So sorry for your family’s loss…..keep his memory close and often.
I am so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man and dad. Thank you for sharing your memories with us readers. May they give you comfort as you grieve his loss.
Awww Deb! I’m so deeply sorry to hear of the loss of your father. It may seem utterly silly to tell you that your loss saddens me as well, since we don’t know each other in real life, but it’s true nonetheless. For what it’s worth, you are not alone in feeling comforted by the act of cooking. I find it so and I’m sure there is a crowd of others who do the same. Much love and sympathy in this time of grieving from Nashville.
Sincere condolences <3 Sending you so so so much love. Thank you so much for sharing those beautiful memories.
Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. We will be holding you, your family, and your father in the light.
With love,
Karen
Aww, I’m so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and all your family.
May his memory be for a blessing.
Dear Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your family peace and the comfort of many sweet memories.
My condolences sweet Debbie! May your dad’s memory be eternal!! God bless you and your family.
Im so sorry for the loss of your dad, Deb, but thank you for sharing him with us in this way. I look forward to trying his favorite recipes and will think of SantaDad as I make them. (And being Jewish myself, I think that nickname is hilarious!)
Deb,
So sad and sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories and have only happy days in your future.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sending condolences and support to you and your family.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. May the wonderful memories of your dad bring a smile to your face and help you through the difficult times.
With heartfelt sympathy,
Elaine
Sorry for your loss. I understand what you are going through. It takes time. A long time.
I am so, so sorry for your loss of this extraordinary man…yes, I can read into your post. He was nothing less. A good egg indeed. I know because I didn’t have that. And he passed way too young.
I’m glad he lived to see you become what you dreamed of. I pray you cook until you are exhausted. It works from me. Make a few typos just to rile him up, way up there, out there, anywhere.
Love and hugs, my friend.
Jane x
Deb, So very sorry for your loss. Your father was blessed to have a daughter like you, and you are blessed by your memories of him. Keep on cooking, writing and feeling – things seem surreal now but time helps and heals. HaMakom yenachem et’chem b’toch shar avay’lay Tzion vee’Yerushalayim. May the Omnipresent comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry about the passing of your dad. I remember so many of your references to him, in a lovingly way, throughout the years on your blog/website. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom and your entire family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It is never easy. I hope that that the memories and love of food that you shared bring you and your family peace.
Thank you for sharing all parts and seasons of life with us. Food brings us to the table to be shared with those we love. What a gift to have been able to share this with your father. Peace be with you and your family during this time.
Deb,
I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. Your community here is holding you in our hearts.
Sending love and support,
Kate
I am so sorry for your loss.
He sounds like an incredible father and someone who gave flavor to whomever’s life he touched.
You cook and do whatever you gotta do through the shiva and everything else. Everyone feels and does loss differently.
Sending lots of positive energy for you and your family.
I wish you all “long life”.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family find comfort in the wonderful memories you no doubt created with your beloved Dad. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Deb – really sorry to read this news. Your love for your dad is clear to see. I hope you and your family can find some comfort in beautiful memories. xx
So sorry for your loss, Deb.
I am so sorr for your loss. It sounds like he was super proud of you, which means the world when it is your Dad.
Touched my heart. Enjoying his and your favorite foods will help bring some comfort. This post is a great tribute to him
I’m so sorry you are going through such a sad time, Deb. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, but it does make them a little less raw. 💔
Truly sorry for your loss. Losing parents is devastating and life changing. We feel like orphans. God bless your dad, mom, you and all your family. Cook on sister. It will give you much comfort and peace.
Deb, I was so sorry to read this. My own father passed away recently, and in the last month of his life I flew out to spend time with him and help ease my mother and sisters’ burden. I cooked many meals for them – mostly recipes from your website. Thank you for helping us through a difficult time, and I hope that you have plenty of love and support now.
I am so very sorry Deb, to hear about your father’s passing. He sounds like he was a darling and lovely man, which isn’t surprising given you sound exactly the same way. What a lovely legacy you and your children make for him. My deepest condolences to you.
Deb. Sorry for the loss of your Dad. The love you have for him is clear in the memories that you have shared.
Waves of grief will continue to hit you when you least expect them, but the flip side of that is that it will also reinforce the love that you feel for him.
Take the time you need and do whatever you need to get through the next little while.
Wishing you lots of hugs and good memories. Sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. I know I don’t know you, but my heart lurched when I read your title. And what a lovely tribute to him. May your memories of him bring you comfort.
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute to him, he sounds wonderful.
Oh, Deb. It’s been at least eight years I’ve been silently lurking, silently following this blog… and here I am, finally posting a comment. It’s been over a decade since I lost my father; I feel it less now than I did then, of course, and it sounds trite and slightly gauche, but the thing I cherish most is the memories. You’ve shared some of your life and even in this post, some of those memories with all of us, and for that we all owe you thanks and all of our sympathy.
Cook your way through this, and leave that last slice of cake for him– but remember to take a breather for yourself in there, somewhere.
Thank you, thank you. I needed that. I miss my dad and the hero he was in my life.
Take care,
The Middle Smith Girl
Deb – your food brings so many people joy, including me, and obviously your dad, too. I caught some of his comments, and always thought, “that’s what my dad would say, too.” I’m so sorry for your loss, and I don’t know you, and yet I do. That’s your sitch. So, I hope you can appreciate that people who don’t “know” you, still care.
This space you’ve created and the recipes you’ve shared have been an immense source of comfort and joy for so many of us over the years. I hope you find sources of comfort during this time and know that there are people near and far holding you and your family in their hearts. Thank you for sharing this little piece of your dad with us. It’s no wonder he was incredibly proud of you.
What you have written is a lovely glimpse of your dad, a beautiful tribute
My most heartfelt condolences. Your humour and grace is a testament to the father that he was. I see him in Jacob’s handsome young face. He’ll always be with you. My prayers are with you and your family, especially your mother who has lost the love of her life. xoxo
Deb,
I hold you and your family in my heart and am sad for your loss. How could he not be a wonderful man with you as his daughter?
To echo an earlier comment, “Grief is hard, and it hits in unexpected ways.” My Grandmother came to mind while reading about your father and I burst into tears. She died in 1989, and I miss her every day. I filled the big hole in my heart with the memories of her and the love we shared. You have wonderful memories and much love, too.
So very sorry for your loss, Deb. Much love to you and your family, and the wonderful memories you carry with you.
Your eulogy to your father was so vivid, poignant, tangible. I was looking for Glicks Bakery challah when voila, Smitten Kitchen. I have heard you interviewed by Melissa Clark and Lynn Rosetto Kasper so it felt like finding a “friend”. Then your news that your dad recently died. I am so sorry for your loss, for the journey you have entered is not so easy. The fragrance from the onion bialy I bought this afternoon reminded me of my dad who could light up my heart and the room.
Your father will never really leave you in your heart and memory. My condolences.
Peace and blessings to you, to your family, to all those who mourn.
Very sorry for your loss, loved reading some of the memories you shared with us, he sounds wonderful. xo
I’m so sorry, Deb. It sounds like the world lost a great one.
What a wonderful light in the world! Still touching so many people 💖
I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory always be a blessing to you.
Love to you and yours.
He sounds amazing. So so sorry for your loss.
Oh Deb, So very sorry to hear about the loss of your great SantaDad! You have such a warm, kind, and generous heart and it is clear that he was instrumental in passing on those traits. The photos of you two are so sweet and show an obvious closeness and shared humor, that words don’t do justice to. May you feel comfort in this painful time of loss.
That’s such a lovely post, I’m sure you had to wipe a few tears writing it because I had to just reading it!
We’ll be looking forward to the special Santadad favourite recipes.
Big virtual hugs.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great Dad always joking around! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
First time commenter here, I’m so sorry and sad for you about your dad. I don’t have anything insightful to add really except that I know this kind of loss is almost insurmountably hard, from personal experience. I’ve loved this blog for years and I know your father is proud of you. It feels so profoundly unfair. I am thinking of you and your family, and Deb, if there’s anyone who can turn an awful loss into a positive that will do your dad’s memory proud, it’s you.
Dear Deb,
My condolences to you and your family. May your many memories of him bring you some comfort.
Hugs.
Deb, I’m so so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
So very sorry for your loss. What wonderful memories you have. Prayers of peace and comfort for your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing
Deb,
I’m a long-time avid reader of your blog. So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of your Dad. Endings are always hard, and shiva is a time not only to grieve, but also to try to remember the joy and the pleasure of a loving relationship and happier times. He must have been immensely proud of all that you have accomplished.
Please accept my sincere condolences.
So sorry for the loss of your wonderful father. Warm thoughts to you and your family. Take time to process and grieve. If cooking helps, that’s great!
Oh, so so sorry to hear this sad news… My heartfelt condolences to you. I am sure your dad is and will always be watching over you and family. Our loved ones really never leave, they are with us, within us..
This doesn’t make facing the loss any easier, I know… loads of hugs to you. Take care of your mom..
I’m sorry for your loss. Dads and daughters have a special relationship. Tell all your favorite stories about your dad and just keep cooking.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad – he sounds like an amazing wonderful joyful presence and just hearing your musings on him above are making me smile big. I hope you find solace in your cooking and your memories and the love of your family around you. Sending peace and healing thoughts your way.
So sorry for you and your family. He sounds like a wonderful man.
Deb, I’m so sorry about your Dad. Thanks for sharing so much with us. You’re a good egg too.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost both of my parents. The grief is overwhelming but the gratefulness is there too. I hear it in your voice and thoughts. We are the lucky ones who have parents who love dearly. I am always rooting for you in every way and your recipes!
I’m so sorry for your loss your dear father sounded like a wonderful mench. May you always carry his wonderful memory with you.
I opened this page to consult your blog this AM and my heart broke for you. I lost my dad 6 months ago and he was my biggest fan.
I’m an executive chef and I absolutely love your wit and whimsy in this blog. I, too have found that cooking and staying busy was the only way to cope. My love of cooking came from my dad and I know he’s sitting on the counter watching as I make each dish. Your dad will always be with you.
Much love
So sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and he had a wonderful relationship. May your memories of him help you in this difficult time. My deepest sympathy to you and your entire family.
My heart goes out to you at this dark time, Deb. I remember how hard it can be. Keep writing about him here; we will be honoured to help you keep his memory alive. Meanwhile, stay busy and be gentle with yourself and your family. Strength and good wishes are headed your way. (((Hugs)))
Dear Deb,
My condolences on your loss. From my experience, the next year will be the hardest–almost like having a baby, it’s a year of firsts. But then it gets easier.
The best advice I ever received was: Cry when you need to and laugh when you can.
Deb,
My deepest condolences. You and your family will be in my prayers. Sending you what peace and comfort I can.
Sending love Deb
I was touched to read your piece about your dad. Everyone has different ways of coping with loss, and instead of someone else cooking for your period of shiva, you kept busy doing something that your dad loved to see you do. Nothing to apologize for. Also, I do think that being able to make a good bagel is a supreme achievement!
so sorry for your loss, Deb. Your dad sounds like he was amazing, and you’ll have wonderful memories.
Dear Deb,
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, and what a lovely tribute to a good egg. And I say cook away– I’d be doing the same thing.
My deepest sympathy to you and your family Deb! I, like your dad, absolutely LOVE your website! It is my “go-to” for so many things and I think you are responsible for actually teaching me how to cook. I love your style, your recipes, and all things Smitten Kitchen. Prayers and comfort to you during this time!
My heart goes out to you and your family. I love reading these wonderful rememberings of your father. Know you will hold them tight and revel in sharing them though the years.
So very sorry for the loss of your greatest fan and dear dad. Hugs.
I’m so sorry for your loss. What beautiful memories you have of him — it sounds like he had a life well lived. Blessings to you and your family.
What a lovely tribute. It brought tears to my eyes. Your dad reminds me of mine, who died four years ago. How we miss him. Food is love, especially for those of us who cook and share. Last night I thought of you as we celebrated my son’s birthday with the amazing vanilla cake from your second cookbook.
So very sorry to hear this. He sounds like a wonderful person.
I am very sorry for your loss, Deb. Cooking his favorites in his honor sounds just right.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. The feeling of ‘just one more day to hear his voice’ will never go away, I know. But you will always hear him in your heart. Wonderful memories, of a wonderful man, never to be forgotten. Memories only a daughter can have. My sincere condolences.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish that I’d had a chance to meet your dad. He seemed to be a fun, joyful guy with great taste. Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.
I@m so sorry for your loss and I wish you and your family long life.
I am so sorry to read about your father’s death. He sounds like a wonderful and loving husband and father. Sending you best wishes and condolences. Love your articles and cookbooks.
Dear Deb, My dad died 22 years ago as of April 9 and whether we are 10 or 50 when it happens, it is a deep connection to who we are that is forever changed. Sending love and light to all who mourn. May his memory be for a blessing.
Such a warm, loving tribute to a wonderful dad. I’m sure he would be qvelling. So sorry for your family’s loss.
This sucks. You and your family are in my prayers. Amen to staying busy, lots of comforting food, and reminiscing a good egg.
Deb, I’ve been lurking on your site since the days of Smitten Kitten and I’m unlurking to tell you how sorry I am. Be gentle with yourself and do what you need to do to feel better.
What a lovely man, and what a great loss for your family. May his memory be for blessing.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Rest In Peace <3
So many wonderful memories!! You were blessed, and so was he. Fathers who love us unconditionally and yet always with some kind of push are so very special! Thanks for letting us know.
Dear Deb, I am heartbroken for your family. I’ve been along time reader and Smitten Kitchen has been my own *go-to* place for recipes that have marked birthday parties, holidays, favorite weeknight dinner rotations – it feels like a significant place for me and my own family. Getting glimpses of your own family celebrations and life events made this more then a place for reliably great recipes. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
I’ve never commented here, but I visit the site regularly. Wanted to pass along my condolences – I hope you can be surrounded by friends and family during this difficult time
Deb,
Of simchas! I’m sorry. He sounds lovely and obviously you had a warm, wonderful upbringing with him, which happily you share with many grateful readers, including myself. We are all lucky to have known him through you, and he will always remain here in these pages, in the warmth and generosity of your recipes and notes. Would love to hear a few anecdotes, recipe-related or not, if you’d like to share! Wishing you and your family healing and solace in the commemoration of all your happy moments together, in Santa costumes and beyond.
Deb, I’m so sorry. My heart hurts for you and your family.
Keep cooking, baking or whatever you need to do. There aren’t any “shoulds” or “shouldn’ts” at this time.
Oh I’m so sorry. Sending so much love, and hope that the kitchen can ease your pain, if just a tiny little.
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. The photos you posted are wonderful.
Dear Deb,
My deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your beloved father. Please know that although we’ve never met, I feel like I know you from your blog, and you’re in my thoughts and prayers at this terribly sad and difficult time.
Sincerely, Paul McDonnell
NYC
I’m sorry you’ve lost such a great dad.
May your memories comfort you forever.
I am going to make this mushroom soup in honor of your father and my own. Thank you for making our lives richer with all that you share.
I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss. Your father sounds like a wonderful person.
Your father sounds like a wonderful person (and the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree as they say). So sorry for your entire family.
Your Dad was a good egg, so sorry for your loss. It’s weird to write this to someone I think I know? we have a great deal in common, a love of food. family and celebration? but now the loss of a beloved father. Take care.
May his memory be a blessing, and may your family’s Passover be full of his light & spirit.
Oh Smitten, much love to you and the whole family. And that your children will long remember the love and lap time from your dad. I can still feel my gentle grandfather’s arms holding me from when I was three. We are never better than our parents. are we? But you are a wonderful legacy to him. Praying for y’all today.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, he sounds like he was a wonderful person and a really proud Pop! My Dad was too and twenty eight years later I still missing him everyday. But aren’t we lucky to have had great dads? To have a father who sets a clear example for their children of what a strong, loving and kind man should be is such a blessing. It was one of the best gifts my father gave me although there were many. Your father is still alive in your heart and in your memories, death does not change that.
So sorry about the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful man!
So Sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing always.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Much love.
I’m sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like a lovely man. Thank you for sharing your family with us along with your recipes, they help bring your food to life for us as well.
I’m very sorry, Deb.
I am so sorry. I don’t know you, and I don’t know your dad, but I love your blog and have followed for a long time. I lost my dad last fall and still have the hole in my gut, though it gets a teeny bit smaller every day. Hearing specific memories and thoughts about him from friends and family felt like such a gift. I wish I had a story to offer you, but since I don’t, I’ll just say that I’m sending warm thoughts your way, and that your dad sounded like a truly lovely man.
Deb- my deepest condolences to you and your family… thank you for sharing some of your dad’s photos and stories with us- what a wonderful man who was very proud of you! I’m sure he’ll be watching over you and your family- that kind of love never disappears… also, what a wonderful thing to be married for almost 50 years!!! Outstanding. Sending much love and prayers.
So sorry for your loss, Deb, and I know how hard it can be to go through this when a family holiday is just around the corner. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Passover and a healing time filled with good food and good hugs. You’ll be in our thoughts (as we make a Very Deb Perelman Passover at our house this weekend, filled with your recipes). xoxo, Juliana
What a lovely commemoration – thank you for sharing. Wishing you and your family comfort and peace.
My condolences to you and your family, Deb. This was a beautiful post, honest and funny and sad and brave. Thank you for including us. #2GoodEggs.
Deb,
So sorry to hear about your loss. I am newer to your blog and had not read any of the SantaDad posts. Reading this post was so “uplifting” and I hope cathartic for you when you wrote it. The love you have for your dad, just jumped off the page. I hope that as you cook your dad’s favorites that you will have great memories to share with your children of him.
Deepest sympathy and prayers for you and your family. We appreciate what you shared of him with us. May you find comfort in many happy memories.
So sorry to read of the loss of your father, he was still pretty young. Funny, my husband often looked at as Santa-it’s the white beard I think. Glad though that you are remembering him fondly and through food preparations and memories.
Our thoughts are with you and yours.
I’m sure this is devastating to you and your beautiful family. So sorry for your loss.
Oh, Deb, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He sounds like such a wonderful father and a wonderful man. May his memory be a blessing for you.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. I’ve been reading here for many, many years and my own dad thought you and I were actual real-life friends because I sent him so many of your recipes. Your dad sounds like a very good egg indeed. I’m glad you are still cooking, there is no “supposed to” about this. Lots of love to your family.
So sorry for your loss Deb. The photos are so beautiful. Hold on to the memories, they are golden. Thinking about you, your mother and your sister during this massive event in your lives. Hugs.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my dad about five years ago and I often chuckle at something I think he would like, or to something he might say in response to an article I am reading or to a conversation. You will always enjoy the memories. I might suggest recording some of the stories you remember right now, so that you can remind your kids about the best times. Be well. Peace.
Deb,
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family are comforted by all the wonderful memories that you have of your dad. Thank you for sharing some of them here. I don’t know what else to say, except that you’ve got a great big group of internet people sending you kind thoughts and prayers, and if we could we’d be bringing over some of our favorite recipes of yours.
Sending you some cauliflower cheese from Texas!
I am so sorry for your loss.
My mom passed right before Pesach. The rabbi said that if we were considering hosting a large seder we were absolved of the commandment as we were still in mourning. We literally got up from shiva to the seder.
I don’t know what denomination you are, but keep this in mind. You have my email. While my seder will not have all the yummy food yours would, there is always room at my seder table for more and I believe you are in the NYC area.
Where there seem to be a lot of “should” and “shouldn’t” when it comes to Jewish mourning, there really is not right or wrong. Shouldn’t means you have no obligation to. So cook away if it makes you feel better. The salt from your tears will lighten your cooking.
May his memory be a blessing and may you be comforted along with all who mourn.
I am
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Your loss. Your father sounds like an amazing man and I can only
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Proud he was of you. You should find
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hello Deb,
Words cannot express my sorrow on hearing of SantaDad’s passing. You should know how much his ‘antics’ always remind me of my own Daddy. I would take a minute to call him to simply say “Hey Daddy”.
Work sometimes keeps our minds busy, but the best time is spent with loved ones who shared his life and can share their memories with you. Take care of yourself and your family.
So sorry for your loss, a great Dad is a special thing. And even though we all know that they don’t live forever, it would be nice to have them longer. Sorry, sorry.
Deb, you have often been in my thoughts these days. This (and much of your whole site, really) is a beautiful tribute to your dad and I’m sorry for his passing.
I’m so sorry to hear this sad news. Sending warm thoughts to you and your family. Your yummy recipes have gotten me and my family through some hard days, too, so I think cooking is probably a wonderful thing for you to be doing :)
Thank you for sharing this with us. I don’t doubt he is busy bragging to those in heaven about his daughter.
Deb, I’m so, so sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful human being. The world was lucky to have him.
Your blog has brought me so much comfort and happiness over the years (though I’ve never before commented). I hope I, and your other readers, can offer you the same at a challenging time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Feels like a favorite uncle, never forgotten, has passed.
So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Dear Deb, Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. May his memory be a blessing.
Oh Deb, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Sending my warmest thoughts to you and your family and hoping that you each find some small comfort in remembering all of the wonderful memories with your father.
I’m so sorry. Losing a father is just hard.
If staying busy is what helps, then do what you need to do. I am a long-time reader, but apparently I don’t read the comments as much as I should: I had no idea your dad would post! He sounds like a beautiful person and his personality reminds me of my own father. Love and hugs to you.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is like losing a bit of yourself. My father passed when I was 39 (16 years ago) and I miss him still. I talk about him with my kids, only my older two remember him, and think about him especially when we eat Chinese food! This will be a hard time for your mom too, so I’m sending warm healing thoughts to your entire family. Keep up the cooking- I consider it (Jewish) therapy. May your dad’s memory always be a blessing.
This is the worst. I’m so sorry. I just passed the one year anniversary of my mom’s death earlier this month. Grief like this is harder and stranger than I ever knew. Take your time and give yourself many breaks since it sucks that there’s no way out but through.
So sorry for your loss! So glad you have wonderful memories of years together!
So sorry for your tremendous loss… It’s so very hard to lose your Daddy! Yesterday would have been my dad’s 75th birthday (we lost him 14 years ago). I always eat his favorite foods on his birthday and tell my kids about the way he chewed the ends off chicken leg bones and made the best silver dollar pancakes. His memory will live on, hugs to you.
My deepest sympathy
So sorry for your loss. 😢
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my own mother just over a year ago–so insane writing that. It’s a blessing the time your father got to spend with you and that he got to meet his beautiful grandchildren. This is a gift. Know that this loss will likely hit you in waves, sometimes slowly and gradually and other times crashing without warning. Snuggle close to your loved ones and know as your readers, we’re always here for you. I also read the book, “Stir,” by Jessica Fechtor. It wasn’t about the loss of a parent to make you cry all over again, but it was a beautiful, hopeful book in a period of mourning and it was lovely. I think you might enjoy it, too.
I’m sorry for your loss ! My father recently passed away too. Praying for your family’s comfort at this time.
My heart-felt condolences. Mi dispiace tanto for you. And yet, you will have, eventually, beautiful, very beautiful memories to buoy up your days. Che bel papà, what a great dad!
So very sorry for your loss. It’s not hard to see why your Dad would be proud of you. Your site is a continuously bright and useful corner of the internet, and you’ve managed to maintain your authentic and humorous voice even while you’ve gone through so many life changes.
You’ve also directly impacted my life, though you don’t know me, and we probably won’t ever meet. The “Baked Brownies, Spiced Up” recipe is the first thing my now-husband and I ever made together and I realized I loved him about the time that he was showing me how to properly temper eggs.
When our oldest son passed away, my husband made them for me and they were literally the first things I actually tasted in days. I hope that your food brings you as much comfort in the coming days and weeks as it has for me.
I am so very sorry for your loss…the world shifts a bit on its axis with the death of a parent. May his memory be for a blessing.
May his memory be a blessing.
May his memory be for a blessing.
Sorry for your loss but at the same time you are so fortunate to have had such a wonderful dad to share with your husband and kids! God bless.
So sorry, Deb.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your father. He sounds like quite a guy.
Deb, I’m so terribly sorry to read this. Your love for your Dad, and his for you, shines through in every word. We lost my Mom very near my parents’ 50th anniversary and it made it much harder on my Dad. I don’t recall if your mom is still alive, but if she is, I hope you all can be together as much as possible and treat yourselves gently and with kindness during this tough transition. Sending much love and warm thoughts.
Sending you and your family lots of love <3
What a beautiful post and such a sad loss. I’m so sorry.
May his memory be a blessing, as it certainly seems to be.
If you want to cook, cook! If you want to blog, blog! If you want to sit around and eat raw cookie dough out of the package, do that! Don’t let anyone tell you what your grief is supposed to look like. Sending you and your family so much virtual love and hoping all that comfort food is bringing you some comfort.
Sorry to hear you lost your father. Always like your posts and wish I had time and talent to try more of your wonderful recipes. I too cook when Im sad or anxious. I made a noodle pudding the morning of the LA earthquake in 1992 even as aftershocks had me holding the counter for support. Funny thing is I didnt even remember doing this until my family reminded me.
Best regards,
Jeanne Barron
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear father. What a beautiful tribute. As long as you remember him, speak of him, and hold him in your heart, he will live on.
So sorry to hear this. Love to you and your family. He sounds like a wonderful man.
I’m so sorry for your loss and the loss your family must be feeling. We lost my grandma last year and she was the one who taught my dad to cook and who co-taught me with my dad (she was the queen of baking). He’s one of those proud but still magically constructively critical about my work dads too. When we lost Grandma I immediately baked like 4 things, my dad cooked a feast, and then my brother showed up with another feast. People kept trying to bring us food but we had to explain that we wanted and needed to cook. It was how we kept busy but also how we honored her. I made pumpkin bread in August for goodness sakes.
Sending all the love from Texas! <3
~dawn
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your memories will comfort you when you miss him the most… xoxo
So very sorry for your loss. This is such beautiful tribute to your dad. Wishing you peace and comfort in the days ahead.
What can I say that the other almost 1,400 people here haven’t already said? You are loved, you know that. We are all sad with you. Wishing you healing amid your loving memories and sending those healing thoughts to all your family. <3
My father died just before my parents’ 50th and I felt so bad that my mother missed a chance for the spotlight. She didn’t care a fig for that, but the loss of my fathers company and affection haunts her still. Me, too. Most days his sweet memory visits me.
I am so sorry. You will have a rough year ahead. He will always be with you.
Deb,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a year and a half ago…it is heartbreaking. Hold onto happy memories, which will offer you some comfort, and embrace the grief, whenever it comes…mine comes in waves, at random moments.
Keep on cooking, and writing, and sharing. It will help. Your recipes and your humor have brought much pleasure and deliciousness to my family. I thank you.
May your father’s memory be for a blessing.
❤️
Oh, Deb, I’m sorry. Sending you virtual hugs and condolences.
May his memory be a blessing. It sounds like happy memories with give you comfort but be gentle with yourself. I lost my Dad to cancer 7/26/16 & my mom suddenly 4/7/17, 3 days before Pesach. Pesach was our Dads favorite holbday so I think he needed her with him for Seder. Making their recipes helps comfort us. We laugh & cry as we adapt to our grief and gratitude for having had them in our lives. Wishing you sweetness in the charoset and cleansing tears in the salt water.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. God bless you & your family.
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, Deb. It’s so hard when someone so vital to our daily lives vanishes in an instant. While it may not mean much that some stranger from NC is sending love and light, but I hope it helps a little.
I hope the joyful memories of your father bring your family peace.
I’m so sorry, Deb. He produced you so… I’m sure he’s as good an egg as there is. Thinking of you and your family. xoxo
Deb,
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. ❤️ What a wonderful man it sounds like he was.
I am so sorry to hear this news. Hugs to your family.
Deb, I am so very sorry for your loss. Your post was very touching. You have my heartfelt condolences. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I know that we don’t know one another, but I am holding you and your family in my thoughts. Sending you much love.
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss. This was a beautiful tribute to your father, and it is clear that you have many wonderful memories of him. I hope they bring you some comfort in the days ahead.
So sorry about your dad. When I lost my dad it was a huge loss for me. Hope you can see the love and light he is now sharing with you.
Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss.
Love to you and yours. So sad to hear this.
Oh Deb I am sorry to read of your Dad passing. What a beautiful tribute you wrote to him. May he remain fondly in your memories – though I know he will. This is my first comment on your blog after being a fan of yours for close to 7 years! I love your voice and the fact that you have occasional grammar and spelling errors. You are so relatable and in reading this it sounds like you are just like your Dad. Sending warm comforting thoughts to you and your family.
Deb, I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. He must have been a wonderful man and an amazing father.
Hi Deb,
My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family…your dad sounds like a wonderful and loving man and a truly GREAT egg! My heart aches for your mom as he passed just shy of their 50th anniversary – my father also passed 1 month shy of my parents 50th its been 5 years now, and I still feel how heavy my mom’s heart is about missing this extraordinary milestone in their lives.
Thank you for sharing your life with the world and making me feel like a part of your circle of close friends. I have been a fan of your site and cookbooks for many many years and have recently been more active on IG and follow you there as well…I have made many of your lovely recipes, some more than once, and never have they disappointed. I don’t usually comment, but felt compelled to tell you how your blog has inspired me in so many ways, and I look forward to drooling over more great recipes – such gorgeous photography!
Sending you & your family peace and healing.
Dawn
I am so sorry for your loss. My mother in law passed away last week also. It’s a very raw place to be but take solace in great memories.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear this! Wishing you all luck on the journey you face now.
ברוך דיין אמת
May you and your family be comforted by a life well lived!
Deb, I’m so sorry about your father’s passing. Yet I’m sure heaven has welcomed him warmly and may your heart be comforted by that thought.
Dads are very special people to daughters, mine was the best. I know there is a huge hole in your heart right now and it will heal in time. We never stop missing them and adjustment to the new normal can be a slow process. Wishing you wonderful memories and love and comfort of your family. Wallow in your memories and create everything he loved. Blessings!
So sorry for your loss. Glad you have such wonderful memories of your Dad. Karen Brown
I’m so sorry for your loss Deb. What a wonderful loving Dad, and so proud of you. My Dad died in February, it is such a sad time. Keeping busy is good, doing nothing is good too, take it as it comes :-)
PS I love aubergine parmigiana too!!
I’m so terribly sorry for your loss.
Your father sounds like an incredible man, he will be missed.
Much love to you and your family.
I am so sorry to read of the passing of your Dad.
You write beautifully always, and you write beautifully about your Dad also. You obviously had a great relationship with him, and I’m sure he was very proud of you.
I hope you’ll be kind to yourself, and remember all the good times you had together, because it’s a hard road, this grief.
And I hope you’ll be able to share some more stories of your Dad, and associated recipes here, I will look forward to them.
Love to you and yours.
So sorry, Deb. How fortunate you were to have such an amazing, engaged Dad. Although I am so sad for you, reading this post made me smile — a man filled with warmth, a sense of humor and devotion. What wonderful memories you will always have… xox
I’m so sorry. My sympathies to you and your family.
My greatest condolences. There’s no “supposed to be” when grief hits, and I hope you find a refuge in cooking.
Oh Deb, I am so very sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your dear family.
Deb, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like the ultimate cheerleader, faithful taste tester and a really special man. I hope you keep his spirit close as you celebrate his life and may his memory be a blessing.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself.
I’m so sorry for you loss…be gentle with yourself.
So, so sorry to hear this, Deb. I know the hole that is left in your heart after the loss of a beloved father, and feel for you.
So very sorry for you and your family. This is a beautiful tribute. Food is love. Keep expressing your love through your cooking and sharing.
None of your wonderful recipes or amusing stories have compelled me, a dedicated lurker, to make my first comment, but this does. I am so sorry for your loss. It is so painful to lose a beloved parent, and the period after is so disorienting — figuring out how to function in a “new normal” that has a big hole in it, and always will. I wish peace and strength to you and your whole family. And now that I’m commenting: Thank you for your lovely website and delicious recipes. You likely will never know how much this safe and welcoming space has helped various readers who also have suffered loss. To create that place for others — that’s no small thing.
Deb, I’m so smitten with the love you have for your father because I too mourn the loss of my wonderful father to this day. Father’s have a way of making an impact on a daughters life that is so unlike that of our mothers. Our mothers show us how to be a girl, a woman, a mother, a sister, a grandmother. They show us how to be so many things, how to do so many things, while fathers get to give praise for our accomplishments, achievements and protect us. Fathers show us things too, but in different ways, their daughters are their pride and joy and they want the world to know about their daughters, about all their daughters can do, have achieved and accomplished. My father wasn’t a perfect man but he was one of the best men in my life. He was my friend, my confidant, my total cheerleader! He was intelligent and a collector of trivia, his mind never faltering. He would give me quizzes to challenge me, which made me a better person. He would use psychology to show me the err of my ways.He loved me, unconditionally and I miss him so. December 26, 2011 was the morning he chose to leave, the morning that crushed me. I throw myself into cooking as a crutch, as therapy, as a release. When I lost my mother on February 6, 2009, I cooked for the entire funeral dinner, by myself, it kept me busy, it kept me from breaking. I’m still waiting for that break, I still can’t come to grips. I keep them both in my life and always will. They are still with me, still pushing me on, still holding me up. I’m feeling for you, for your loss, but I have a feeling your father will remain very much alive within your life, as he should be. Praise God for our Fathers!
Those pictures of you and your dad bring tears to my eyes. I’ve been missing my dad now for 30 years. When you’re so lucky to have such a dad, he’s always with you and you always wish you could just pick up the phone and tell him something. My deepest sympathies go with you now in this sad time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad too young as well (I mean, it’s always too soon, isn’t it?) and I wish you peace. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Enjoy his memories. Talk about him often. My kids never met my dad, but they have heard many stories about him.
Dear Deb, my dad passed away at the end of February, and I immediately started baking. Your jacked up banana bread seemed to be the thing I needed to smell in my house. I hope the cooking and talking with your family and the happy memories help you the way they’ve been helping me. It’s hard living with a dad-sized hole in our hearts, I think. Big hugs, Jennifer
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry. Please know I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Dear Deb, I have been a faithful reader of your blog for many years but rarely post, however, after reading about your precious dad I wanted to send my sincere sympathy. The loss of a father is life changing. The pain is always there. It dulls with time but never goes away. As other readers have said, the journey of grief is a very personal one. It differs for each person. The loss of a father is life changing and the pain is always there. Be kind to yourself. Spend quiet time. Ask for what you need; people want to help but some are not sure how. Lots of hugs help a lot. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories of your dad and may peace slowly come to your heart.
Thank you for sharing your memories with me. I lost my father fourteen years ago, and my family and friends still talk about how he used to fry chicken and burgers at ten o’clock every night when they were over, just because he liked to feed people. I loved reading this entry, and I look forward to seeing more of your dad-inspired posts in the near future.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Thank you for sharing this sweet memory and pictures of him with us, your fans.
Deb – I’m so sorry for your loss – my heart goes out to you and your whole family. Your Dad/Santa Dad will always be with you – when you are cooking in the kitchen and forever in your heart!
So sorry for your loss. Nothing will take away the missing, and there will be times it is overwhelming. Time will help–the overwhelming moments will have more space in between. But you are now changed forever with this missing. Be kind to yourself and allow the grief–there is no way to get “over” it–but to absorb and hope it becomes less acute with time. Take pleasure in whatever brings you comfort.
Hi Deb: I have followed your site for years, and bought both your books. I have never commented b/c I am just not much of a commenter, but wanted to come out of hiding to express my condolences for your loss. It sounds like your dad was hilarious and awesome and that you have a lot of lovely memories of him through the years. I hope you have are having a restful week. Best, JA
I am very sorry for your loss, Deb. I enjoyed reading the stories about your dad, who was clearly a mensch of the highest degree. May his memory be a blessing for you and your family
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. May you and your family find comfort in your memories of your father, and in one another. (Which sounds trite, but can be such a blessing, if indeed it happens.)
Also, the link you have up to your dad’s comments on the bagel recipe? I totally remember reading that post when you first put it up, and that bagel recipe kicked off my bread-baking. I hadn’t realized just how many years a) I’ve been reading your site, and b) I’ve been baking all my family’s bread, until I saw the date there. I loved your dad’s “been there, done that”-authentic commentary on the subject of bagels, their texture, and their taste.
Oh, golly. I’m so terribly, terribly sorry. Your sweet, funny SantaDad’s comments were a delight to read so all of us feel like we owned a little tug at his sleeve. You can never be ready to say goodbye to the people you love, but then they are never really gone from you either. Share some coffee cake with your family and remember.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Glad to hear Dad was a typo fanatic, too. I’ve been meaning to share a badge I bought — it says “Grammar Police. To Correct and Serve.” and has a picture of an apple on it.
Take care, and hope you have a nice Passover.
May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.
I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my dad a little over a year ago, and it is still a heavy weight, especially because my older daughter was only 7 months old when he passed and my younger not born (conceived surprisingly soon after–I think a gift from him), so they will not remember him or know him and what a great grandpa he would have been. I made a book for them on zno.com with lots of pictures of him–the pages are sturdy like a board book and my older daughter loves looking at it and hearing me tell her about what is going on in the pictures. Your kids are older, but may appreciate such a thing, and you may enjoy picking out the photos from such happy times. Love to you and especially your mom–losing her companion before such a great milestone must be terrible.
So sorry for your loss.This is a privilege that you have to be able to introduce him to such wide audience
I was late getting around to this post, but I am so sorry for your loss and wanted to add my sympathies.
My dearest Deb (you don’t know me, but I feel like I know you):
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Although I never had the opportunity to meet him, your beautiful words about him make me feel your sadness. I hope that it will bring you some measure of comfort to know that I care about you and your family and will think about you during this difficult time.
With sympathy,
Caitlin
No words are adequate, but I hope you take comfort in how much he loved what you are doing in life. I’m so sorry for your loss
Ann the RVer here. So sorry to hear about your Dad. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
Hugs.
May his memory be for a blessing! I feel like we must mourn for part o our family. Celebrate his life and remember all the good things. Hearts to you and to your family.
These photos, these words, and everything about your father just brims over with love. So, so, so terribly sorry for your loss, Deb. Sending thoughts and the biggest hugs.
Deb, your Dad sounds amazing and very special. I’m sure you and your family will miss him very much. My deepest sympathy.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Deb. This community is here for you, because of what you have created. May his memory be a blessing.
I am sorry for your loss, Deb. I’m a fan of Smitten Kitchen, and just wanted to leave a word. You don’t lose your witty writing even in times of grief. A great gift that I’m sure reflects your dad in some way.
Sending you and your family lots of love <3
He sounds like a wonderful dad. I’m so sorry for your loss. <3
Love to you and yours, Deb. May his memory be a blessing.
My condolences for your loss, Deb–your father sounds like he was a great person. Reading your blog has often been a delightful part of my day and for that I thank you and your father for making it so.
Heartfelt sorrow for you and your family. Your dad sounds like a wonderful guy, a great dad! All my best wishes for peace and rest and fond memories for your family.
Lots lots lots of love to you.
Thank you for sharing these lovely memories. May his memory be a blessing.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like he was wonderful person and father. Thank you for sharing all these personal parts of your life with us, even the sad ones. You are in my thoughts, and I hope that your countless warm memories give you comfort and help you through this tough time. <3
Thank you for sharing so much of your life and your cooking adventures with your readers and fans. I’m very sorry for your loss. Blessings to you and your family.
So sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family at this difficult time especially with the holidays here.
Deb – you have created this space that feels intimate, where you have shared your wedding, the birth of your children, and now this. I’m sorry for your loss. It sounds like your dad was incredibly proud of you. I’m about your age and my father is 5 years younger than your dad. I don’t exactly know what I’m saying, but thank you for sharing this part of yourself with us, and I hope you find some moments of peace.
So sorry for your loss!
Deb,
I have been a fan of yours since the first book and have never posted, but this elegant, eloquent and loving tribute to your dad was so touching. Echo everyone’s comments about anything you need being ok. I wish I could make you some chicken enchiladas suizas, the most comforting food ever. love and peace and health to your whole family.
lisa in s.m.
I love this. I lost my dad last year, and it left me totally heartbroken. I’ve been posting about him a lot on my FB and Instagram. I’ve learned that people really seem to love when people are honest and open about their love and their grief, so thanks for sharing that here. Lots of love to you.
I came here earlier today looking for kosher potato side dish recipes for a co-worker and found it and yes, it is about to go in oven… but also saw this.
Cooking, is what those who love to do it, do it for people. The loss… emotionally it sucks, it’s gonna suck, it’s gonna continue to suck for a long time. Nothing wrong with expressing what it is (lost my dad in 2004).
Thoughts to you and family and the months ahead. Now I have to go slice some yukon golds.
So sorry to hear your news, Deb.
Deb (and family), I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t know if I’ve ever commented, but I’ve been making your recipes long enough to know of “SantaDad.” I’ve lost my dad, too, and have cooked through a lot of the food memories he and I shared–it hurts and helps at the same time. Wishing you peace.
This post made me teary. Keep cooking and baking your way through this grief, Deb. You’re a gem. Sounds like your dad was too. p.s. You have inspired me! http://www.delorenzo-desserts.com/
So very sorry to learn of your loss, Deb. You have so generously allowed us all to become part of your family from afar; please know that we are thinking of all of you and holding you in our hearts now. May his memory be a blessing, and may you be comforted.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. In a funny coincidence, I made that sour-cream chocolate chip coffee cake last week for the first time in a long time, so perhaps your family cooking in this time of sadness was beaming out across the world.
Memory Eternal for your dad, and God bless the family at this time. I was sad to read he just missed the 50th anniversary. He had such joy with your work, and that is precious.
so very sorry for your loss. thinking of you.
How wonderful you were blessed with such treasured memories of your Dad.
No Money, No Facebook,No Amazon could ever offer or substitute those thoughts and memories you have.
Enjoy those memories, and the perplexities that accompany them…
I’m so sorry- he sounds like an amazing and all together interesting person. Wishing you peaceful thoughts and happy memories.
So sorry! Sounds like you lost a good, good father.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I too lost my father, who meant so much to me. Hold on to those precision memories; he is never too far away. I
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss.
Deb- So sorry for your loss. May your memories comfort you during this difficult time as your blog has done for me so often.
Oh Deb. I’m so sorry. I lost my dad last August; my husband and I are still toasting his weird sense of humor, his unique eating habits, his extraordinary (for a Jew!) love of fishing/camping/kayaking. May your father’s memory be for a blessing. Take care.
Dear Deb, I am so sad for you at the loss of your father. I know how much it hurts; my mom just passed last month. I’m certain that your father was so proud of the wonderful daughter he raised…he sounds pretty wonderful himself. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Diana
Zichrono l’vracha! May his memory bless you always.
What a handsome guy your dad was, with a wonderful twinkle in his eye. Condolences to you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like a great man and an important part of your lives.
So sorry for your loss and hope you are filled with happy stories and memories. All the best to you, your children, your mother, sister, Alex and all the rest of Santa Dad’s family and friends.
I am sorry for your loss Deb. Your dad sounds like a great and funny person. Thnak you for sharing a bit of him with us. But beware of typos, now he’ll have all the time in the world to find them all!
As I sit here thousands of miles away in Beijing, China reading your post and grabbing tissues. I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. Love and light to you from Beijing. You have made being an expat in China so much easier. Your recipes are the first thing we grab when we miss home. From one New Yorker to another. Thank you.
Deb, sincere condolences to you and your family at this sad time. I lost my dad five years ago and there’s still so many things I want to ask him. Now I make up answers about what he would say.
On his first birthday after his loss, my mom and sister and I went to dinner at a very nice restaurant. The server brought us dessert, which we hadn’t ordered, as she had heard us talking about the meaning of the day. It was chocolate cream pie, my dad’s favorite and his annual birthday dessert request! It meant so much to us all. Your dad will always be with you through your wonderful thoughts of him and, of course, through food. Take care.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. I just lost mine last month and they were similar, including the Santa clause and jewish background. I appreciate this blog so much.
Sending you much love from Khartoum, Deb. There’s no “proper” way to act in a time like this, so if your heart longs for the kitchen, then that’s where you’re supposed to be xx
So sorry for your loss. thanks for sharing the memories of your Dad. Peace be with you.
So much love to you and your family Deb. He sounds like a great man. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so very sorry for your loss!
So incredibly sorry for you and your family’s loss. He sounds, indeed, like what could only be described as a good egg. My thoughts are with you.
So sorry for your loss <3
I’m so sorry to read this; it is an incredibly hard loss. My condolences and best wishes to you and your family.
I’m so sorry. I hope that you and your family are able to find moments of comfort when you share your favorite memories.
Peace to you.
Deb – I am so sorry for your loss and for your entire family. I know he will be missed sorely. I’m glad he was someone so wonderful as to be missed sorely. I wish your mother peace and comfort.
Nothing to say except I’m so so sorry for your loss. Hopefully a little bit of anonymous internet sympathy provides a tiny slice of comfort to you. :(
HELLO,
As I was clearing my emails and yours caught my eye. I too lost my dad but it was back in 2010. He was around the same age as your dad when he passed. Born in 1931 and passed in 2010. He was a good egg too!! And sort of a nut at times. lol I loved hearing his stories of growing up in the post/depression era. Life seemed so vivid then. Hard but beautiful…
My parents had also been married 50 years in April of 2003 when my mom passed in July of that year. So, the similarities caught my attention.
I’m very sorry for your loss – it’s not easy and the void never fully goes away. I still miss my Dad (and Mom). My prayers are with you for comfort at this time.
Losing a parent is such a diffucult time, but you have wonderful memories. Take each time you think of him as if he was kissing you on the check while he is thinking of you in heaven. I find that really helps, he is still hoping and praying for you. Kiss
I am so very sorry for your loss. This was a wonderful ode to your father, he would be proud.
I am so sorry for your loss Deb! Thank you for sharing your wonderful memories of your dad.
Heartfelt condolences on your loss, may love and comfort surround you.
Heartfelt condolences to you at this sad time. May love and comfort surround you and your family.
I’m so sorry about your Dad, Deb. My dad (1937-2018) died suddenly at the end of January. Honestly, even 2 months in, it still feels like he’s gone on a trip somewhere and I’m still saving things up to tell him when he gets back. I think whatever you feel like doing in the wake of his death is the right thing to be doing. I spent the week after falling down the rabbit hole of finding places to stay in the UK for an upcoming trip–not exactly traditional mourning of my dad, but a) compartmentalization isn’t necessarily a bad thing and b) I could hear his voice with all of his UK recommendations from the last time we talked about it. Sending condolences to your whole family.
I love your blog and your recipes so, so much. I am saddened to hear that your father has passed on as I too have a daddy that inspires me and means a lot to me. Sending love and prayers.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. My mom passed away last year and it’s a void in your life like no other. It sounds like your dad was a special person, and I hope your memories will bring you comfort going forward. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I am so sorry about your father. A very difficult time of life . With your cooking you will help not only yourself but many others.
The mushroom soup was a huge hit.
I’m a long time lurker here and I’ve always enjoyed hearing about your dad. I’m so sorry for your loss. All the love to you and your family in your time of grief.
My mother and I were talking about our family last night, and the stories we have about our various family members. Most of Mum’s family has passed away, with a few distant cousins, my brother, and myself being the only members left besides her, so she always gets sad when she remembers them, but it’s a happy and grateful kind of sad.
I am so sorry for your father’s passing, but I am also very happy that you have so many wonderful stories, recipes, and memories to remember him by. They will be a great comfort in the years to come. *Hug*
Hello Deb,
A short note seems so inadequate to say how very sorry I am for your loss.
One of such depth I can only imagine after reading your loving tribute to him.
I don’t need to tell you that a good egg with so many opinions will always live in your ear:-) but I hope that a reminder of that will give you comfort.
Lot of hugs to you…
xo
-Bernadette.
Sorry for your dads passing
Dear Deb. I have never written, but have enjoyed your Smitten Kitchen blog for quite some time. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad – I appreciate that you are doing things that bring such sweet, funny memories of him. I am a nurse, but have chosen to forgo my professional position to provide my mom with whatever care/company I can. She is 88, an artist, and has played such an important role in my life. I cherish every day with her, again I am sorry for your loss. Clearly you will have a lifetime of memories. Fondly, Patty B.
I am so sorry for your HUGE loss.. I always say a father is a girl’s compass and obviously he never left direction nor held of ship… he WILL always be with you in the sweetet tiniest ways..My father passed 33 years ago and I still feel his presence and guidance. Hold your heart high ….pamela singer Happy Holiday and celebrate his life yours and the lives you touch…
Deb — I’m a lurker on your site, though have enjoyed it for many many years. I just wanted to say how sorry I am. While we are all, in a way, trained to bury our parents, it’s still horrid. I send you love from afar.
I am sorry for the loss of your father I lost mine 12 years ago and while it’s gotten easier, I still miss him. A father-daughter relationship is special. He is the first man that shows his little girl true love.
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. There is nothing like losing our mainstay guys – it is just jarring. The good part is that time makes it feel better – I kind of feel like a keep seeing more of my dad in myself (scary in some ways). But that is comforting. Prayers your way.
Dear Deb,
Your Dad sounds like he was a wonderful human. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in December and know how deeply sorrowful it is to lose a parent. For me, I have tried to transfer all the love and goodness she gave me back into the world. I like to think this is keeping her energy alive and keeps her with me. May you find comfort in all the happy memories you have of him.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Your dad’s pride will continue, but now you will feel it in your heart instead of here in the comments. Your best memories will bring you the most comfort. Enjoy his favorite dishes…he will be enjoying them right alongside you.
Deb, I’m so sad to read this. I’m glad you’re staying busy, and thank you for sharing a little bit about him with us. Sending love.
Thinking of you and your family <3
I am so very sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost mym mom when I was 23 so I have been there too.
My condolences to you and your family, Deb. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless, Julie
That is sad news. The older we are when we lose our parents, the older the friend we lose. It just sucks.
I’m sorry for your loss and I’m thankful for your honesty. Loving thoughts to you and yours. XX
My heart just sank when I read the first line of your post. I remember writing something similar after losing my dad 8+ years ago – it felt so surreal. My parents were approaching their 50th too which makes it seems just that much sadder. I’m glad you’ve identified quickly what helps you feel better. Take care of yourself and allow your family to lean on each other during this difficult time. I join your wonderful fan club in sending you peace and carrying a tiny bit of your sorrow.
Oh Deb, my heart goes out to you. I lost my Dad 11 years ago. Please know that while it never gets easy, it will get easier.
Thank you for the joy you bring, and thank you to your family for their role in all of that.
Deb, this was a beautiful tribute to your dad. I know you will miss seeing his name pop up here. I am so sorry for you and your family.
So sorry for your loss. What a lovely man.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing such precious memories with us.
I am so sorry your Dad has died. There is no way to compensate for the loss of your father (especially if you are a “daddy’s girl”). I think it is wonderful that you can share your happier thoughts and memories here. The good memories will bring you peace. Blessings to you and your family.
p.s. And thank you for all your wonderful recipes.
Nancy Smith
i’m so sorry for your loss, deb. there is no “right” way to cope with grief; we all manage in the ways we know how. and cooking seems like a great tribute to a man – your father, who loved your blog and more importantly, loved you. much love to you and your family. xx
I read this when you first posted, and came back to read it again. Grief is never easy, there is never a right time and I’m sorry it is hitting you now. Sounds like he was a wonderful man and a fantastic father and grandfather. Thank you for sharing with us
My condolences. So sorry for your loss, Deb.
Losing a parent is so very difficult. The grief is intense now and it will well up at the strangest of unexpected times. I’m so glad you know how much he adored you. He clearly raised you with love for his family, for you’ve turned out delightfully.
I feel so much sympathy for you and your entire family from this great loss. Your mom, too, how she must miss her companion.
I know you will persevere through your grief and I hope you find some small comfort that your extended blog family grieves with you. Your tribute to him is splendid. I wish I had known him.
I’m terribly sorry, Deb… I love the stories about him… It’s a wonderful legacy to get a hint of who the person is (I like to keep it present tense…) from stories told by loved ones.
And by the way, you bring a lot of joy to a lot of people, clearly one of whom includes your father.
Sorry for your loss. My husband lost both his parents last year. Cooking always brings great comfort to me (both in keeping busy & decluttering my mind). Thank you for your wonderful recipes, and insight. Wishing you and your family peace and light during this difficult time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Adding my voice to the chorus of sincere condolences to you and your family. 💔
Deb and family, I’m so sorry for your loss and your writing of him is wonderful. Love you.
I’m so sorry.
Sending love to you and your family, Deb <3
Deb – longtime lurker, but I wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear of your loss. Your dad seemed like a good man and I am sure he was very proud of you!
Best wishes,
Jessica
Deb, so sorry to hear that. That’s your picture at the top in wedding finery, isn’t it? You have that wonderful friendly kindly glow, and looking at your Dad, maybe a bit toned down with age, it’s there too. Wishing you every strength and support and warmth through this sad time.
Oh no. I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful dad and this is a beautiful tribute. Love to you and your family as you remember and celebrate him. <3
I’m so very sorry, Deb.
Oh, so much tender love for you, your mother, and all your family. With your family’s love and support, you have cultivated this amazing community of people whose lives are richer because of it…and their families are more connected and healthy (even desserts promote family relationships!). Seriously. You have changed the world. I can only imagine the delight and pride he experienced every time you posted a new recipe and it rippled around the world. I am appreciating and loving my father even more after reading your beautiful tribute. Peace.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Deb,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like he was so proud of you.
May The Lord give you and your family comfort during this time.
I just stumbled onto your site, I’m very sorry to hear of your dear dad. I lost my dear Dad October 13th 2011. Was my saddest day ever. I loved him so much. I may try your Melting Potatoes today for our Easter Dinner here in Strathmore, Alberta, Canada. I do hope medium reds will work as I’m in the country and its all I have on hand. Best of luck to you with your Blog, and I’ll keep in touch checking it out every now and then. 😊😊
Deb, I am so so sorry for your loss. Sending you loving kindness in this time.
Deb, I am so so sorry for your loss. Sending you loving kindness in this time.
So sorry for you loss, he sounds like a wonderful father. Love and prayers to you and yours.
My condolences to your and your family Deb. I must confess that I seldom, if ever, read the comments here so I missed Santa Dad but I know what its like to loose my dad. Whatever the circumstances, its not fair and its too soon and it sucks so I am sending all the virtual hugs to you and yours.
So sorry for your loss. Sending you and your family lots of love. He sounds like a very special man <3
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. He sounds like such a wonderful man. <3
When I first read this, my heart sank for you and your family. Hope you know you have so much love and support from your readers, we’re right alongside you. If you need a break, take one, we’ll still be here. If you want to crank out some posts, we’re ready to devour them. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
Also, after reading this, I decided to finally make your family’s sour cream coffee cake and it was/is pure comfort. A new favorite and sure to be a tradition. Then I got inspired to make something citrus-y and came across your lemon bundt cake post and was intrigued, so I went to the comments to investigate. Sure enough there was a Santadad comment cheekily calling out a preference of chocolate to lemon desserts. I couldn’t believe the coincident or kismet or whatever, but I really felt the love your dad had for you and the site. I feel privileged to have been able to share in all this with you. Many thanks to you and Santadad. Wishing you peace a comfort.
Dear Deb,
I am sorry for the loss of your father.
Nancy Woelfle
I rarely post here but I was catching up on my reading and saw this post. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Clearly he was a giant part of your life, and a big part of who you’ve become. My deepest sympathies.
Deb, I’m so very sorry for your loss. My most sincere condolences.
God bless you and your family. May your dad watch over you and each day you will smile when you say his name.
I’m sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this news. Your memories are so rich and will keep your heart full. Your dad was spot on – every recipe of yours that I’ve made has been wonderful, tasty and well received. Thank you.
Your writing about him makes me love your dad. And isn’t it strange how holidays, especially food holidays like Pesach, make you miss your beloved dead family members so much harder but at the same time make you feel like they’re there at the table with you because their recipes, or their favorites, or even their least favorites, remind you of what they would have said if they were there? I love that about food.
I’m so sorry Deb. Thank you for sharing this little piece of him with us. He sounds like a wonderful human being. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Deb, I’m so truly sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like an absolute character and I always loved reading about him. Condolences to you and your family x
Sorry about your Dad. No matter when, we’re all children and losing a parent hurts. My other reason to email is that for Easter dinner yesterday, I made (or the first time) your shortcakes (from “easy drop berry shortcakes”) for the strawberry shortcake dessert. Rave reviews like “best shortcake I’ve ever eaten” were received. Thanks for the recipe!
Deb, I am so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. Your tribute to him was wonderful. Many prayers for you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. May his memory be a blessing.
My sincere condolences for your loss … some time has elapsed since it happened, and I am hoping that the good memories are beginning to take over the pain of ‘losing’ someone you love so much. I expect he is beaming down on you from Daddy Heaven somewhere …
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your cheerleader and father. Sending you love and peace.
Holding your family in the light. Your dad sounds like a wonderful guy.
A beautiful tribute. May all your memories, food related and other, bring you pleasure and comfort as you relive them. I dont post alot but rately make a holiday or company dinner that doesnt have a sk recipe included. Always with rave reactions😋thank you Deb
Sorry for the loss of your Dad! Lean on family, friends and those loved recipes. Hold on to those precious memories as they will get you through these emotional and difficult times. You are so blessed to have your father all of your life because it helps you navigate how you see yourself as a woman! I will be praying for you, your Mom and family!
I just read your post and am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a wonderful dad (and grandfather). Treasure your memories and i hope that being surrounded by your family eases some of the pain.
I just saw your post and wanted to offer my condolences. Your father looks so happy and joyful in the pictures with you and Jacob. You can feel the love!
I’m sure that you have a lot of great memories to share. How wonderful for you to know that he was so proud of your accomplishments.
Alison
Deb, My love to you, your family and your dad on his passing. I had the good fortune to attend your book talk and signing in Kansas City and knowing you, from your blog, cookbooks and hearing you talk, your Dad must have been and still is (his spirit lives on)a great human being. Thank you for sharing with us in your warm, personal, Deb self way. You are a amazing person and the world is a more beautiful place for your presence! I do believe that your Dad would agree.
WIth gratitude and love, Miryam
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my daddy when I was 21. It’s never easy to lose someone close to you.
Some of the best ‘advice’ given to me about the loss is to realize while you may never stop hurting, you will grow used to, and even comfortable with, the hole in your soul that your dad left. Because if he wasn’t great, he wouldn’t be worth missing.
I hope you found comfort in feeding people. That’s exactly what I would have done. And hugged those sweet babies of yours. Again, I’m so sorry.
Deb, I am so very sorry for your loss. May you remember all the wonderful times with him. Sounded like he was sure proud of you. Sending lots of prayers to you and your family during this very difficult time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have wonderful memories :)
oh, deb. I am so, so sorry. you must get your wit and your warmth from him. sending all the love, all the healing, all the hugs. xo
Lots of love to you and your family, Deb. I love that you have been continuing to cook, especially making the recipes that remind you of and honor your dad. I hope those moments brought you some sort of comfort, happiness, tears, or whatever moment you needed at that point in time. From someone who lost who father and mother less than five years ago, thank you for sharing your (and your father’s) story. <3
I’m sorry, Debbie. You’re the amazing product of amazing parents and I’m so sorry your pops is no longer quite so near. It’s best to eat at time like this. I bet your pops would tell you that too…
I’m thinking of you and am so sorry for your suffering. Jen.
Deb-
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I cried reading while reading your post; forget what everyone else says you just do what you need to do and if that means staying busy, stay busy. Keep including the posts about your family and the memories with your Dad they’re some of my favorite parts about your blog <3 I feel like I've been learning to cook/bake all while getting to know your family (it's been a pleasure over the past ten years!). Your in my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Katie from the Chicago Suburbs
Deb-
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I cried reading while reading your post; forget what everyone else says you just do what you need to do and if that means staying busy, stay busy. Keep including the posts about your family and the memories with your Dad they’re some of my favorite parts about your blog <3 I feel like I've been learning to cook/bake all while getting to know your family (it's been a pleasure over the past ten years!). You're in my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Katie from the Chicago Suburbs
I am late to comment. But I’m so sorry for your loss. There is no “supposed to” when it comes to the death of a loved one. If cooking makes you feel better, then cook all the things. May your family be surrounded by love and peace.
I am so sorry for you and your family. He will always be close when you think about him as you make his favorite recipes. (emoji heart break)
So sorry to hear about your dad. I was his dental hygienist for many years. He could not have been any prouder of you. He really was one of my favorite people. Please send my warmest condolences to your mom and sister.
May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
Rona
So sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man and I’m sure that somewhere out in the cosmos he will continue to cheer you on and whisper In your ear to correct your spelling. The loss of a parent is one you never get over completely, but it’s a small price to pay for a lifetime of love from them (well that’s what I tell myself). All the best and keep doing whatever feels right to you. x
Deb…I’m so very sorry for your loss. My warmest wishes to you and your family.
Hi Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sarah
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing a glimpse of him with us.
Dear Deb, I feel a bit strange writing you (who does not know me at all) here in the comments (where anyone can read what I write), but you are a part of my everyday life thanks to your diligent, witty, and helpful posts, and I’d feel very strange about not saying: I’m really sorry to hear about your dad. Must have been hard to do the seder without him (though maybe the Hogwarts stuff helped a little? If I lived nearby I’d offer to copy/paste some transliterations in there for you to repay you for all your wonderful recipes over the years!). I hope you are dealing with it in whatever way you need/want to.
My condolences to you and your family on the passing of your dear father, may your memories of him bring you peace.
So very sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute.
i am so sorry for the loss of your dad.
may all the memories you have be a comfort to you and your family
My condolences, Deb, to you and your family. Know that you are all in my prayers.
I am usually a lurker here, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss.
Hi Deb, Just want to give you and your family a hug. Your father looked like the type of people one would love to chat with randomly in a grocery store, and that’s a serious compliment nowadays. More importantly, you all looked so happy in the photos. Please remember the happy times and one day, eventually, they’ll bring a smile to your face without the tears. Happy days, sad days please know that I and the many readers of your website are here for you.
I’m so very sorry. I don’t know my dad well but I know it’s a real blessing for a girl to have a loving relationship with her father—one of those things I wish fate had dealt me a better hand in. I say all this to say what an enormous gift you had to grow up with this man, and to always know how proud he was of you and how much he loved you. And, he got to enjoy your beautiful children and lived to see your success. I hope you are comforted as time goes on. I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb.
Dear Deb,
I am so sorry for the loss of your father, you biggest cheerleader and greatest fan, and for what it sounds like, your dear friend.
I want you to know that what you do, what you photograph and what you write and publish brings me immense joy. Your website is a true respite from any harsh realities of the daily newsfeed. Thank you for the love you share through your beautiful food and beautiful (and often clever, witty and poetic!) writing. Your love of words and of language is apparent – please know that it is noticed and greatly appreciated.
-RM
I am so so sorry.
So Sorry for your loss. My his memory be a blessing. Sounds like such a wonderful man
Deb, so sad to hear of your Dad’s passing. The loss of a parent is always hard and particularly so when you are mourning not just your loss but the loss of what your children will not know because they are so young. It is the loss of expectation of the joys of the particular relationship between a grandfather and his grandchildren. It is also a time of great reflection on why you are who you are.
Your post struck a particular chord with me and while I and my three kids are all devotees of your blog and your books I have never commented before.
Thirty one years ago my father died three weeks before his fiftieth anniversary. My sister had the cake in the oven for the planned celebration when we got the call.
One year ago my sister celebrated her fiftieth wedding anniversary and three weeks later she had to have emergency bypass surgery.
The day your dad died I got a call my eldest brother had unexpectedly died, three weeks before we were to gather and celebrate his fiftieth wedding anniversary!!
Thinking of you. xx
Hello. I just wanted to write to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I am a pretty faithful reader of your site for the past 2 years but never comment. But I wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss and my thoughts go out to you and your family.
I was just scrolling through looking for a recipe when my in laws come to town and I found this. I am so profoundly sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing to you and one you pass down to your children.
I lost my dad a year ago, and cooking has been, since then, the way I still feel closest to him. When he was alive, we used to talk about your site all the time. I commented to you once that my dad and I often made the bagels you posted, and I just realized, after reading this post, that it was my dad who first found the recipe on your site and therefore, I think, introduced me to you in that way. Cooking is healing. Keep doing whatever feels good to you, “shoulds” be damned.
I’m so sorry.
I’ve been a reader for years and have always enjoyed your commentary as well as your recipes (and books) but this post has compelled me to comment for the first time. So very sorry for the loss of your father. Like most dads, he was your champion and, if you’re like me, his encouragement is what you will likely miss the most. But, his influence is indelible and you will always be who you are, in part, because of him. You’ll likely observe some essence of him in your children as they grow and that will make you smile.
Dear Deb and family,
My deepest sympathies on the loss of such a wonderful man. So glad you’re family was blessed with such a husband, father, grandfather.
I am so very sorry for your loss. So hard to lose a parent and your dad sounds wonderful! Be gentle with yourself.
Aw, Deb, just saw this. What a blessing to have all these wonderful, happy memories of your pop! I am so sad for you that they are only memories now, I just don’t know what to say. It’s hard when they are so BIG in your life. Missing my mom and dad so much every day. Both beautiful, happy people, even when they weren’t! May your sorrow soon turn to only these happy memories. I would have loved to have met your dad. I wouldl ike to make his favorites in his honor for you!!!!
Peace, Dear!
P.S. just listened to your Evan Kleinman interview – enjoyed!
Dear Deb — I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful person, and that picture of him and you as a child is so beautiful. May his memory sustain you always.
I can’t help but add that I lost my mom three years ago, and in the 10 months I took care of her, cooking became my favorite past time (maybe my only past time, since I couldn’t leave her alone in the house). Your blog inspired many a delightful meal for the two of us. *Thank you for that*. You do some mighty good in the world. Sending heartfelt condolences.
Hi Deb:
I’m a relatively new fan of your site/recipes. Every single recipe i’ve made so far
(Most recently tangy spiced brisket.) has been delicious!
I was sorry to hear about your dad —and I love your tribute to him.
All the best,
Liz Kurnetz
“This past weekend would have been my parents’ 50th anniversary.” Would have been are the saddest words… So sorry for your whole family, but especially your mom. Big hug….
Dad’s are irreplaceable. My Dad died on November 17th, 1999 – leaving a void never to be filled for my siblings and me. I miss him everyday. I feel your pain but you “get it” … the best way to honor our dads and keep them alive is by remembering and retelling all the little antidotes that made them the most wonderful first man in our lives. God bless you and your family.
Deb,
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like he was a wonderful father and a beautiful soul. Your tribute to him is full of so much joy and genuine affection. We all can only hope to leave such a lovely set of memories with our children. You are a testament to his good character, wield that privilege with pride.
Deb-My mom passed away last week as well. I’ve been going to your site for distraction and inspiration. So sorry for your loss.
Ellen
Oh Deb, I lost my father 6 years ago, and not a day goes by that I do not think about him. He loved to cook, and I got that passion and interest from him. He was an immigrant from Morocco and Spain, and he would spend years replicating and perfecting dishes from his youth. I am so sorry for your loss.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your father. Reading your post brought great joy as well as great sadness. These beautiful stories and memories will keep him with you always. I, too, am a firm believer in kitchen therapy. Keep cooking. I have a feeling it’s what he’d want you to do. Sending light and love to you and your family.
Deb, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Don’t feel bad about cooking up a storm/staying busy. After my sister died was the only semester I got a 4.0 in grad school. We do what we must to keep breathing. My advice to myself and others who are grieving is always: Remember to go easy on yourself, hug your kids and brush your teeth.
You know we all appreciate how much you share of your life and you could have chosen to keep this private, I’m so glad you didn’t. All I know is the love never dies.
Oh Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Dear Deb,
I have been a secret admirer for a long time, reading your blog, having your books but never felt the need to comment until now.
So sorry for your loss, it is so hard.
Rinat from Israel
So sorry for your loss, Deb. What a wonderful man— he will always be proud of you. There is no “supposed” to when it comes to grief and it’s amazing to be remembering him through your passion.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Sending love to you and your family.
Saw this late – my deepest condolences to you and your family. Separation is always hard – may your family and all the joy you bring us comfort you in this time. Sending a hug!
I am so sorry for your loss. You wrote so beautifully about your father. He sounded like he was fun. I hope the good memories you have will help to ease the sorrow of his passing.
Dear Deb, I’m very sorry to hear of your loss. We feel quite grown-up in this time of our lives, don’t we? Your write-up is quite lovely. May your sweet memories carry you and your family through this difficult time.
Dear Deb, I am so sorry. The way you talk about your dad conjures for me such a sweet, funny, loving and light-filled person who was so well-loved. These qualities have obviously been passed on from him to you. Sending love and warm hugs to you and your family <3
Deb, I am so sorry for your loss.
Deb, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds absolutely perfect. Of course he was proud if you, this site is amazing. And as a result, lots of people who never knew him are thinking of him ( and you) at this time, and isn’t that what life’s about? Leaving a legacy. I met you on your book tour and you are just as amazing in real life. I know your dad must have been so proud. Hugs to you!
Deb – sincerest condolences. Your father sounded like a beautiful man. I wish you and your family love and strength during this hard time. Take care x x x
Hi! Deb. My comment is probably so deep in the comments you may never see it but my condolences to you and your family. My Mother in Law passed March 19. We spent spring break doing Shiva and On Passover my feet felt like lead. She would always come in the door with the soup and a toy for each child. I prepared all the food for Seder from Scratch in 2 days and we did it. It was hard but her memory was a blessing. May your Father’s memory be a blessing to you and your family. I’ll be thinking of you.
Deb, so sorry. Your dad sounds like a great guy. I lost my dad in January. It would also have been 50 years for my parents. There are no easy answers at this moment, but please know that you are not alone.
<3 All the hugs, Deb!
I’m so sorry for your loss!
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So sorry for your loss! He sounded like a wonderful man. May his memory be for a blessing. And may you find peace and comfort during this most difficult time.
Peace be with you!
There is no understanding grief, it just is … and we do…
my heart felt condolences to you. May you feel the love and support you have found in this community you have created.
God Bless.
The death of a parent is unusual in the depth of that grief. You had such a clearly loving relationship. The hole he leaves won’t be filled but the pain of the memories might lessen over time. I know about the connection of family and food and love and memory. So many of us do. I’m thinking about you and wishing you well. You have my sympathies. May his memory be a blessing.
Deb, my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Sending you all my love.
My deepest condolences to you. Your dad looks and sounds like a wonderful, jovial man and your love for him is clear. It is obvious how much he adored you and your work. I lost my dad 7 years ago and have some idea of the loss you feel, which I would describe as the feeling of being cheated of the years you should have had together by losing him too soon. Thanks for sharing this and take care of yourself during this difficult time. Much love to you.
What a beautiful tribute to your father. I too joke that I married my husband for the chocolate cake recipe he made me one time. Of course he couldn’t remember which one it was other than it had coffee, buttermilk, melted chocolate and cocoa powder in it. I guess I’m stuck with him regardless lol. Thank you for sharing.
Dear Deb,
I remember when my mom died, how difficult that was. I made a cookbook of her most idiosyncratic recipes and favorite foods to pass out at the funeral, adorned with a photo of her as an eight-year old ballerina. And despite the Jewish custom of having the shiva guests bring food, I cooked a lot. It helped.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sometimes we cook because that is the best way we know to provide comfort for those who have to carry on with their lives without their loved ones. Your father sounded like a very cool guy.
So so sorry for your loss! Praying for you and your family!
I’m sorry for your loss. It sounds like your father was a great man.
Deb, I’m so sorry to learn of your father’s passing. I hope that your treasured memories will ease your grief. If you are any indication, your father has left a lovely legacy. Hugs.
Dear Deb, This is a late response, as I also lost my dad recently (February 14th –ruined Valentine’s Day–thanks dad!). So I am just reading about your loss, and hope you are taking care of yourself. I am one of the zillions of people that reads your blog with relish (yes, I meant that pun), as I am the Events Manager here at the Arboretum Foundation in Seattle. While we may never meet, it’s my hope that the loving thoughts you receive from all of us carries you through this time –it has definitely worked for me, although sometimes the grief brings me to my knees. No one can tell you how to grieve. Whatever you do, I hope you remain present with it, and know that there are people out here who care and grieve right along with you. Take care, Tess Forte
Deb,
May his memory be a blessing to you and all of your family.
My mother, who passed away in 2011, came to school dressed as an Elf every year when Santa came. We are also Jewish, and I was the only Jewish child in my school. Talk about muddying the waters. I feel you. Thank you (and SantaDad) for bringing my mind back to this wonderful memory of my own.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like he was a wonderful man. I am new here. I love how so much of your love language is about food memories. I want my three boys to love food like you do and connect my cooking around my love for them. I can tell by the way you write about food that love is your main ingredient in every dish. I look forward to learning from you.
Sorry for your loss. A beautiful tribute am sure your father would have been proud to read. Amazing how cathartic writing can be. Not to mention cooking, now that I think about it. Don’t blame your Mom one bit for marrying with Noodle Kugel-based ulterior motives. A truly delicious Noodle Kugel is tough to come by. May that and all your father’s other favorite recipes bring you comfort during this time.
Deb,
Sorry for your family’s loss.
I never knew about SantaDad before having read this. I now find myself searching every recipe I click on (last minute potluck at work) looking for a comment from your dad. He sounds absolutely awesome.
Dear Deb,
My condolences, I know how hard it is to loose a wonderful Dad.
Big hugs from Budapest, Hungary.
Bori
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. Thinking of you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Lovely tribute to your father. Condolences to you and yours.
Deepest condolences for your (and your family’s) loss. May his memory be a blessing.
What a touching post, thank you for sharing. Thinking of you.
My beautiful mother passed away March 3rd after a heroic 7 year battle with breast cancer. Her Christmas gift to me was the Smitten Kitchen Everyday Cookbook. So many of my memories of her are wrapped up in cooking, and many of these memories are of trying recipes from your site. I went looking for a rosemary marinade recipe that was a family favorite for many years last week. I found it and promptly burst into tears at my mom’s insistence on using the “More traditional, and therefore correct,” spelling of Catsup! May similar fond memories of your own dad lift your spirits during your time of grief.
Hi Deb –
My wife and I have been “secret” fans of yours for quite awhile. (We almost went to see you in Philly during the last book tour, but couldn’t swing it, but at the last minute found the library’s webcast and were delighted not only with your presentation, but the concern you had for audience considering your illness at the time.) But I digress… We would like to express our condolences to you on your loss. We know all about the emptiness you are feeling, and although the right words to say are hard to find, please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. –
The Little Ship (author unknown)
I stood watching as the little ship sailed out to sea. The setting sun tinted his white sails with a golden light, and as he disappeared from sight a voice at my side whispered, “He is gone”.
But the sea was a narrow one. On the farther shore a little band of friends had gathered to watch and wait in happy expectation. Suddenly they caught sight of the tiny sail and, at the very moment when my companion had whispered, “He is gone” a glad shout went up in joyous welcome, “Here he comes!”
Oh Deb, I’m deeply sorry to hear of your father’s passing. I lost my dad in 2010 and I still miss him. Most days it’s okay, but reading about your dad and how proud he was/is of you, makes me think of my dad. We’re so fortunate to have had dads who were there for us, proud of us and who loved telling others about their incredibly talented & passionate daughters. May the sweet memories with your dad carry you and all of your family through your time of grief. Much love & peace to you and your family.
Sorry about the death of your father. We are fortunate to be born and even more lucky to have parents that love us beyond reason no, matter what our frailties. Because of that, life seems unliveable without them in it. But the gift of memory lives deep inside and while a new kind of freedom emerges due to the passing of our parents, that which we remember means they are with us every step of the way. Believe me, my mother’s voice is in the back of my head, daily. And my father, the ever passionate Rockefeller republican, is whispering that POTUS is not one of us!
Ooph, just seeing this. My dad passed in November and at times the grief is overwhelming, but at other times I laugh and smile thinking about him. May peace be with you and yours as you navigate the space left by his absence.
So sorry for your loss. Much love to you <3
I am so sorry to hear this – I have followed your blog for a decade, and to know that your dad was such a lover of it, and you, is bittersweet. As the Greeks say, may his memory be eternal, and may you be comforted.
Deb, I am so, so sorry to hear about your father’s passing. My heart is with you and your family.
Deb,
May his name be for a Blessing. BDE.
Deepest condolences. Your love of creating community (even online!) through food had to have come from somewhere. Cooking is healing and sounds like something that brings your family together. So sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Find comfort in whatever way you need- not just as you’re “supposed” to.
Dear Deb,
So sorry for your loss. It’s hard to lose one of your biggest fans. Thank you for sharing a little about him. All of those memories will keep you warm when you start to feel a little lonely.
Much love and comfort to you and your family. Your dad had plenty of reason to be proud.
Deb — My wish for you is that you be granted the comfort that come from knowing the best of him lives on in you. So very sorry for your pain.
Oh! I’m sorry about your Dad! My husband’s father passed away one month after we were married, and my father has been gone about two years now. It sounds like your father was a sweet man! You should not feel any regrets about cooking up a storm in his passing! Food and cooking are therapy. Be sure to keep cooking his favorites and always, always tell the stories of him to go along with it! Your children need to have those connections to their heritage. I hope that my children’s grandfathers can be remembered in a similar way.
Our dad died in January, and my sister (a chef) and I (a professional eater and pretty good cook) also cooked our way through some of the grief. It helps. Like remembering his favorite dishes, which seemed immutable at times, and ever changing other times. He would have loved our Seder this year, every bit as irreverent and compassionate as prior years, with an amazing rolled leg of lamb (dill, parsley, lemon confit and feta-filled) and saffron-butter roasted chicken. He would have missed the kugel, and not really appreciated the rice with faves and mint. He LOVED Passover. And we loved him. And so we will honor him, not just by “keeping busy,” but by keeping on, cooking, eating, laughing, loving one another, and toasting to him wherever he may be. Sending you a hug, and “permission” to keep cooking, because it will definitely absolutely genuinely ease your pain and help channel your grief. This I know, since January of this year, to be true.
Lovely post. Parental loss is such a difficult path in our lives. Blessings to your and yours. Cooking is healing, I am finding, too.
Just now seeing this. I am so sorry. What a great dad you had! You were blessed to have him part of your life. Rest in Peace, SantaDad!
My condolences on your family’s loss. May his memory be a blessing.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing a little bit about him as a person; it was a joy to read. May you be surrounded by the comfort and love of family and friends.
So very sorry for your loss. My dad too was a great egg. How lucky we were to have them so long, but no matter how long, it would never be long enough. You will carry his goodness forward into the world. Grieving can be exhausting, so be good and take care of yourself.
I hope his memory will always be with you
This put a small clamp on my heart. May his memory be a blessing. Which, as a non-Jewish person, I’ve come to find the most welcome condolence in times of grief.
I too lost my father this past year. May you be comforted among the mourners of zion, and may his memory be a blessing for you and your family.
My condolences on your loss.
Being busy helps.
Take care
I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of your father. He sounds like an exceptional dad. May your memories of him be comforting.
Love to you and your whole family. He sounds like such a wonderful character.
I’m so heartbroken to hear about your dad. Love to you and your family.
I don’t blog or read blogs much these days, so I just saw this. I’m very sorry for your loss and hope you’re doing ok.
How lucky you were to have such an involved and supportive father. I’m so sorry for you loss but know that I have a sneaky suspicion that you are giving your kids the same kind of wonderful memories and they will look back on their childhood just as fondly as you do yours.
And it’s certainly good that you are channeling your energy but allow yourself time to grieve as well, if you haven’t already.
Much love and warm thoughts your way…
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb.
What a lovely tribute. I’m sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you comfort, and if those memories involve cooking favorite recipes, then let that be a comfort too.
Much love to you and your family
I just saw this post and wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I’m closing the computer to pray for peace and comfort for you and your family. May you feel the Lord’s presence and hope as you grieve; I’ll be covering you with prayer.
The loss of a parent is always devastating. The loss of a parent who has wit, and delights in you, who fills your life with color and sparkle and joy…well, the world is duller. May your dad’s memory bring you peace and joy. May his words and his delight continue in your heart. May your children, and your childrens’ children know that same color, sparkle and joy through you. Peace.
So sorry for your loss
Deb,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to lose your dad. Your memories of him are precious even to hear as a stranger. Thank you for sharing with your community here. I hope you feel the love and care of those around you, and I hope you reach out for help whenever you need it. Sending you blessings and prayers for comfort.
Deb, so sorry to hear about your dad. He sounded like he a had a wonderful personality and sense of humour, like you! I believe your parents are the voices in your head that guide you, you will always remember advice he has given you. If cooking helps you cope so be it! Grief is a roller coaster of emotions. Thanks for writing this, it reminds me of my dad and the impact he had on my life!
Looking forward to trying more of his favourites.
Dear Deb,
What a lovely post you’ve written about your dad. I’m sorry that I did not read this when you first published it, but very glad to have found it now. I did not know that he followed your blog, nor commented (I have a cardinal rule, rarely broken: “Never Read the Comments” – but now I wish I’d made an exception here, to see that thread running through the years here)
I lost my dad 6 years ago, also in March. I find that the first seasons of loss are uniquely tender, and it is sometimes helpful when someone reaches out, seemingly out of the blue and out of context, to offer comfort. And so I offer my deepest condolences for the loss of this very bright light in your lives. I hope that your dear memories can comfort you.
love, KQ
So sorry for your loss Like the poster above I missed this earlier. I lost my Dad in Dec of 2017. My parents were celebrating their 50th anniversary in 2017. So your post resonated with me. I started blogging this year in large part because when I was younger my dad was so proud of every essay I wrote that got a good grade. He told everyone of my then goal in lief which was to go into journalism and writing. I hope the memories of you Dad bring you comfort. It’s a rough journey the first several months.
Hi Deb, I’m so sorry to see that you lost your Dad in March. My Dad died in 2000 and I still miss him. He died before I started my blog, but I know he would have loved it. Thanks for sharing your dad with us.
What a beautiful eulogy. Keep talking about him, whether it’s here or not. That’s the only “should” surrounding grief that I believe in.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Deb. I lost my father in January – it would’ve been their 50th anniversary this year, too. Your blog has been more to me than just recipes. You’ve felt like a friend, always bringing laughs, good food, and comfort to my door when I needed it. I wish that for you and yours during this heartbreaking time. Love from Los Angeles.
Sorry for your loss . I lost my Dad also at 78 yrs old a few years ago . It’s hard . It sounds like he was extremely proud of you .
I have enjoyed your blog for quite a while ( years? They fly by.) I am sorry I missed the passing of your father. You are truly blessed to have such a beloved father and someone who made such a mark in your life. The photos are beautiful.. Vanessa
It was a delight to get to share your father in such a small way as we the readers got to on this website; over the years it’s been fun to watch him chime in from time to time. As soon as I saw the banner for this entry (granted, way after it was posted,) a gentle sorrow welled up in me, because I knew what it must have meant. And at the exact same moment I thought, “I ought to make those bagels this weekend.”
Much love to you and yours now and in the days, weeks, months and years to come. May his presence linger warmly in all the places you used to find him.
Dear Deb, there are no words. So, as someone who has lost her father 8 years ago, although sometimes it seems only like yesterday, I am sending you and your family a ton of hugs (and condolences to your mother, of course).
Oh, Deb. I’m just seeing this now. I’m so very sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing indeed. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Sorry for your loss x
I just discovered your site and I’ve already made two recipes from it that have been excellent. I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of your Dad. Dad’s are so important and irreplaceable. I’m glad cooking could help you to grieve a little. Lots of love.
Deb, I’m just reading this post now, and I am so sorry for your loss of your dad. I can’t imagine how much you miss him. Your tribute gives your readers a sense of his spirit. Thank you for sharing your food and your news – happy and sad – in this space. The internet is undoubtedly brighter with your presence. With love from a gentle reader in Boston.
I got a little choked up reading your article about your Dad. If you have a ‘good one’, there is nothing more wonderful than a father/daughter relationship. They don’t want anything from you and they want only the best for you. He sounded so much like my own father who I absolutely adored – and who absolutely adored me (right, Dad? I was your favourite, right?!?).
Dad was never an ‘I love you’ sort of guy but he showed it in so many ways – but most of all through his cooking. And I carry on that tradition. I hope you have a wonderful friend who knows what your favourite meal/cookie/cake is and shows up on your doorstep to make a cup of tea. Or are they all too scared to cook for you? ;)
PS Just made your Gramercy Tavern’s Gingerbread – it was amazingly dense and flavour-packed. Perfect for a sunny winter’s day (down here in Australia)
I ran across this post today while repeatedly hitting Surprise! It’s been more than six months, which I know from my experience was actually the hardest time of grief. It’s a wild ride that no one ever wants to sign up for, except that I guess it’s part of the price of loving the wonderful people in our lives. Sending you warm thoughts today.
Dear Deb – I always miss my loved ones most acutely at this time of year, and I hope that you are ensconced in the embrace of those most dear to you during these few months (and always!). This is a beautiful tribute to your beloved father; I feel like I really got to know him through your words. May you continue to find joy and comfort in your family. I will be thinking of you! And thank you for this beautiful blog that I have enjoyed for 8+ years.
Deb — I’ve literally never in my life commented on a website. Ever. I don’t even cook that much, my husband does. But I love your website and your familiar stories about the comfort of Jewish food and I can usually pull your stuff off if I pay attention to what I’m doing. I lost my dad two years ago. He was similarly my biggest fan and cheerleader. It’s a huge hole. It does all get better with time as they say (which feels impossible at first) — the good stuff floats back to the surface and the sadness starts to sink further below (it’s always still there). Just wanted to send some love and encouragement to you — you do so much for others. May his memory forever be your blessing.
Deb,
Somehow I missed this last year. I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve watched a number of friends join the club-they-never-wanted-to-join (loss of a parent) and the undulations on grief that occur over time. My prayers with you and yours as you come close to the anniversary of his death.
Coming to this a year and a month late. Happened upon it while searching for an answer to “How many cakes will I need to make to serve 200 people at my cousin’s wedding in a few weeks?”
Beautifully, clearly, simply written. It made me cry. My dad came over last night to watch a basketball game with me – this makes me think of him. He is endlessly proud of me. Thank you for the reminder to hug him a little tighter next time.
Hi Deb – I somehow ended up on this page today after going down a rabbit hole of your wonderful recipes. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Even though it’s been over a year, I know the pain doesn’t go away – you just get used to it. I lost my mom a week before your dad… I’ve since made your olive oil shortbread with rosemary and chocolate chunks no less than a dozen times – somehow that turned out to be my go-to indulgent grief-processing treat :) Thank you for that recipe.
Deb, I’ve been thinking of Santadad this week, and thinking of you, too. ♥️
Thank you, xo
I’m so sorry for your loss. May his (obviously precious) memory be a blessing.
So sorry to hear about your dad, the relationship between a father and a daughter is so very special.
May he rest in peace.
I read this today when it was linked in a recipe.. just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss, and that I’m grateful to you for sharing these memories. You dad sounds like he was a great guy. I see reminders of other loving dads I have known in the personality you’ve described so well here.
Deb,
I just found this link as I was reading this week’s e-mail. I hadn’t seen it before today and I’m thinking maybe I wasn’t supposed to. Your dad and I were the oddest friend combo. We met because of my job at the police department and his first aid squad/fire department involvement. We’d have coffee at the firehouse and laugh about all of the “old men” who hung out there. He was thirty years my senior and maybe only a year or two younger than that coffee crowd! I’m a better person for having known him and our corner of this Earth is a better place because he was here. He was an incredibly giving and selfless human who loved his family endlessly.
His comments have been popping up on my FB memories lately, so I find myself thinking about him a lot. I’m thankful he INSISTED I buy your first cookbook the minute it hit the shelves and this Catholic girl from the beach is looking forward to making your Passover classics again this year! I hope you are well and thank you for your amazing recipes.